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E-mails from Kenny by Kit
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]]>solsticeman2014-01-25T23:42:22-00:00Re: E-mails from Kenny by Kit
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I'm glad that you think the story is a treat.
Now that the complete story has been posted, perhaps readers will consider that although Kenny may be special in one way, Sam is even more special in his own way. He's managed to carry some of the simplicity and innocence of a small child into his teenage years. In my experience, the fresh and accepting vision of little children has usually been lost, or at least become stale, by the time they become teenagers.]]>Kitzyma2014-02-07T00:00:57-00:00Re: E-mails from Kenny by Kit
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It is a most rewarding read and like the best stories, has changed me slightly, in that I think I am now a more tolerant person.
I heartily recommend this life-affirming tale. Never before has the simple act of stroking a friend's hair seemed so significant.]]>Jolyon Lewes2014-02-07T15:14:14-00:00Re: E-mails from Kenny by Kit
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Looking forward to seeing where the story goes.
Oh and Kit, I think you've handled Kennys disability superbly, it's just a part of who he is rather than his defining characteristic which is something I think some writers have problems with.]]>samsone2014-02-23T19:19:32-00:00Re: E-mails from Kenny by Kit
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samsone wrote on Sun, 23 February 2014 19:19
Oh and Kit, I think you've handled Kennys disability superbly, it's just a part of who he is rather than his defining characteristic which is something I think some writers have problems with.
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That is also true of any sexuality any of us have. It is an attribute, simply, but that is all it is.]]>timmy2014-02-23T23:08:29-00:00Re: E-mails from Kenny by Kit
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timmy wrote on Sun, 23 February 2014 23:08
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samsone wrote on Sun, 23 February 2014 19:19
Oh and Kit, I think you've handled Kennys disability superbly, it's just a part of who he is rather than his defining characteristic which is something I think some writers have problems with.
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That is also true of any sexuality any of us have. It is an attribute, simply, but that is all it is.
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I completely agree Timmy. I always find it amazing how many people there are out there who feel who a person sleeps with is the major part of who they are. I work with someone (gay himself) who will forgive almost anything if the person involved is gay.]]>samsone2014-03-18T19:52:06-00:00Re: E-mails from Kenny by Kit
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The way things worked out in the end wasn't entirely predictable and was really satisfying.
Like has been said, I'll not be able to consider a touch of the hair in the same way again.]]>Smokr2014-03-19T04:06:16-00:00Re: E-mails from Kenny by Kit
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I guess there are probably people out there who might look at a story like this and think that if sexuality is so fluid its perfectly believable that gay can become straight. Kit, did you worry at all about how people might react to Sams revelation? Speaking from personal experience I think some people are scared by anything that isn't one way or the other when it comes to sex and relationships straight and gay alike. I guess one way to challenge the perception that anyone who has feelings that veer from a pre set path are denying who/what they really are is through stories like this. For a lot of people it's the person that is important, their sex doesn't come into it.]]>samsone2014-03-19T09:04:09-00:00Re: E-mails from Kenny by Kit
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samsone wrote on Wed, 19 March 2014 09:04Thoroughly enjoyed the closing chapter. I wasn't sure how things would be tied up but I think, Kit, that you went for a really thought provoking ending. My initial reaction was to embrace the 'happy' ending presented on the surface, but then I got to thinking about the deeper issues it raises about sexuality and just how set in stone our attractions are.
I guess there are probably people out there who might look at a story like this and think that if sexuality is so fluid its perfectly believable that gay can become straight. Kit, did you worry at all about how people might react to Sams revelation? Speaking from personal experience I think some people are scared by anything that isn't one way or the other when it comes to sex and relationships straight and gay alike. I guess one way to challenge the perception that anyone who has feelings that veer from a pre set path are denying who/what they really are is through stories like this. For a lot of people it's the person that is important, their sex doesn't come into it.
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Those who wish to read the "We can cure you" message in this will read it. Sexuality is somewhat fluid, but it has exceptions. I can say this clearly as a gay man who has one exception for his wife. Love is the thing that conquers sexual orientation. Even so, the underlying orientation remains as it ever was, not concrete, but fluid around whatever its own base point is.]]>timmy2014-03-19T13:29:41-00:00Re: E-mails from Kenny by Kit
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samsone wrote on Wed, 19 March 2014 09:04
I guess there are probably people out there who might look at a story like this and think that if sexuality is so fluid its perfectly believable that gay can become straight. Kit, did you worry at all about how people might react to Sams revelation?
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Yes, I did think carefully about how readers might interpret Sam's words regarding his sexuality. I certainly didn't intend that to imply that his sexuality could be changed. However, he's only just turned 15 and has been brought up in a very traditional family. Also, he's never had any sexual experience and at that stage in his life he hasn't (yet?) developed a strong sex drive.
Because of his childlike qualities, Sam can accept himself as he is in the same way he accepts and loves everything about Kenny. So up until then he's never given a lot of thought to his sexuality and he's never tried to analyse his feelings for his best friend. At the end of the story he's beginning to realise the different facets of his sexuality and how that relates to his feelings for Kenny.]]>Kitzyma2014-03-19T15:22:37-00:00Re: E-mails from Kenny by Kit
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Sometimes that's all that's needed. Why does anyone have to be gay or straight? Where's the fifty shades of gray?
That's why I wrote some 'bi' characters as well as some who aren't gay or bi into The Circle. Some characters don't mind messing about with the gay main character because they're friends, and it's fun, and it opens a new, deeper friendship. And one character, Eric, isn't gay or bi, but he's very willing to 'experiment' with Alex as well as with others. He even gets a perfectly straight boy to mess around. Just because you've been in bed with another boy, that doesn't mean that you have to be gay or bi.
That's the way I read the ending of Kit's story. Sam may or may not be gay, he probably doesn't even know, but he loves his friend, and he's willing to experiment and find out about his own sexuality with Ken. He loves Ken, and he wants to find out how much. He'll go as far as he has to to find that out. Maybe they'll get as far as kissing and petting and Sam will find out he's not interested in Ken that way. Maybe they'll fall in love with each other and end up together for years and years. Maybe they'll get as far as having intimate encounters, but fall in love with someone else. Who knows. They sure don't. But then, finding out those things is really the whole point, anyway. Not the result, the journey. ]]>Smokr2014-03-20T03:50:50-00:00Re: E-mails from Kenny by Kit
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Camy2014-03-23T17:56:03-00:00Re: E-mails from Kenny by Kit
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I often wondered what would have happened had we got back together. I fear that we would not have been able to restart our relationship as happened with Sam and Kenny as things would have changed, it was probably best that we remained separate.
Anyway a very thought provoking read for me.
Ian
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ChrisR2015-01-16T02:44:41-00:00Re: E-mails from Kenny by Kit
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Not going to write on all my favourite stories threads (or Id spend a lot of time writing thank yous and doing nothing else), but theres something about E-mails from Kenny that's special to me. I don't usually re-read a story but I think I have re-read this one quite a bit.
So thank you Kit for writing this one, it's one of my favourites from here (and there are many great ones that I really like here).]]>pandareader2019-10-24T15:04:00-00:00Re: E-mails from Kenny by Kit
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