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I expect simple behaviours here. Friendship, and love. Any advice should be from the perspective of the person asking, not the person giving! We have had to make new membership moderated to combat the huge number of spammers who register
I understand "Trans" on a person by perosn basis
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I find it difficult to the point of truly hard to extrapolate this understanding to the general population of folk who identify as a different sex from the sex apparent in their physical makeup. I am content with those who are intersex being able to be the person they have discovered they are, but I think that to be a subtly different topic.
But... I do not spend my life feeling that I am male. I just feel like me. I also do not spend my life feeling I am homosexual. I just feel like me.
I am more likely to feel homosexual than I am to feel male, because I associate myself with being homosexual when considering, for example, small villages in the 1800s, and how hard it must have been to be attracted to other males.
I've been trying to work out when I last felt male. I need to know which sex I am when visiting a public toilet, but more for social convention than any other reason. Owners of a penis are not often welcome in a female toilet. Apart from that I doubt I have ever felt male per se. I don't mean that I've felt female. I mean I haven't felt of either sex. I'm just me.
Yet I know that, were I to feel I were trapped in the wrong body, then I would almost certainly feel female. Or I might just feel wrong and wronged by fate. I'm not sure, because I cannot know.
I saw a news item today which prompted this. They don't necessarily feel male nor female. Well, me neither. Actually, literally, that is 'me, neither', for I've said, I don't feel male. I don't feel fluid, male sometimes, female other times. I just feel like me. I don't say this to detract in any manner from their deeply held feleings. I say it to try to understand the issue better.]]>timmy2019-09-13T22:38:47-00:00Re: I understand "Trans" on a person by perosn basis
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But... I do not spend my life feeling that I am male. I just feel like me. I also do not spend my life feeling I am homosexual. I just feel like me.
Exactly! I've always felt I was uniquely "me". Anatomically all male. But emotionally neither male nor female. Just "me". ]]>luvtwinks2019-09-16T20:30:19-00:00Re: I understand "Trans" on a person by perosn basis
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Hey Timmy what's up?✌️
I've come to realise we are far more fluid than we fathom.]]>arich2019-09-18T03:09:59-00:00Re: I understand "Trans" on a person by perosn basis
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But then, as Arich pointed out, perhaps we, as a society, are, to a certain extent, too fixated on trying to put labels on people when people are far too complex to really be described in one or two words.]]>Mark2019-09-22T00:51:47-00:00Re: I understand "Trans" on a person by perosn basis
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When I look at it, well, what do I become, a little prick, relatively speaking😲, well yes but it sure seems like the center of the univers
I feel when we become more than our junk, we can only enhance what we are and what we may be capable of becoming.
The possibilities are limitless. ]]>arich2019-09-22T20:37:44-00:00Re: I understand "Trans" on a person by perosn basis
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The trouble comes when I as an individual refuse to "hear" the story of another and thus actively or passively make their life harder by my actions or attitude. In the end, I've discovered that I have enough problems to face in my own life without feeling threatened by or feeling the need to act punitively on the story of another, unless they are or have engaged in abuse of someone else.
]]>Teddy2019-09-27T01:48:21-00:00Re: I understand "Trans" on a person by perosn basis
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A few years ago there as NationalGeo documentary called, "Brain Games." The crux was that we really don't see very clearly, well not see but what is perceived and how subjective those perceptions are.
Is the green you see the same green I see? Or is it that we only find our selves subjects of conditioning?
The variation that we can observe on a historic level is very telling. I feel we limit the complexity of what we are.
Who do we think we are? LOL I hardly know what to think of my self much less anyone else...I do not know!
Are we destined to play mind games?]]>arich2019-09-28T01:54:17-00:00I understand "Trans" on a person by person basis, sometimes
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Hi hi x 5'5 22 tomboy NB" and I have no idea what 'NB' means in this context.
I'm not sure whether their videos are tasteful nor to your taste, but I find then amusing, and mainly erotic, certainly explicit.
I have thought of this person as a boy who enjoys female gloss and glamour, who makes the best of their attributes. One of those attributes is androgyny, a thing I have alwasy adored. They also wear clothes like a fashion model, but tend to wear very few.
They did, recently, a Q&A session. And this one surprised me. I'll say why in a moment. Reading further I met their pronouns, which explains why I'm using them.
The surprise is that I had not noticed any effect of hrt. There are no enhanced breasts, yet she has been having hrt for 16 months.
Her body, her mind, her privilege; that's important. I'm not criticising her in any way. The perosna she projects is adorable, and I love her attributes. I'm just having a little trouble [my issue, not hers] in understanding why, especially since she adores anal sex with toys and her boyfriend.]]>timmy2020-05-19T18:50:15-00:00