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marc
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Registered: March 2003
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TomS's post has prompted these few questions.....
Is gaydar inherent in all gay guys, or is it a learned skill?
What are some of the signs of a gaydar attack?
When your own gaydar goes off, what was it about the object of your gaydar scan that triggered a reaction?
A finely tuned sense of gaydar is a great asset when looking for that perfect someone. Lets put our experience to good use and pass on what we know to the next generation.
Marc
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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smith
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Registered: January 1970
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Will there be a quiz? Homework? Practice drills? I'm game!!
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I've always taken pride in having a fairly accurate gaydar. Oh, it doesn't work all the time, but often enough to be useful anyway. Heh-heh!
Problem is, I have LITTLE to NO idea what sets it off to begin with! I personally almost feel like it's some kind of telepathy. It's a 'feeling', because it doesn't have to involve eye contact at all.
Oh, sometimes it does, maybe even most often, but certainly not always.
Granted, most often I've had a chance to make use of that radar of mine have been in shower rooms and such, an environment where gay people have a chance to study each other more closely than under normal circumstances, so my experiences may be colored by this.
I've had blips appearing in fully clothed situations too however, and the signs are just as diffuse. Maybe it's just a matter of being good at reading postures and body language. Maybe it's something physical, like having the right pheromone receptors. I can't say for sure.
-Lenny
"But he that hath the steerage of my course,
direct my sail."
-William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act One, Scene IV
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I am not sure how it works, but it works well. Most times I can even tell when a guy call himself straight, but really isn't. I have hit the mark so many times, by being proved correct sometimes a few years later.
It works, so use it. But (no pun), and here is the catch, I don't think anyones "Gaydar" is nearly as usefull when we are still unsure of ourseves. Catch 22.
But best of luck to all.
It's better than finding a coin on the beach with a metal detector!
Kevin
"Be excellent to each other, and, party on dudes"!
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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You know, mine half works. And all I can think is that it is a two way thing. You each have to send a pulse and receive a pulse. And open your eyes.
My trouble is I have no idea which half of the time mine works. I'd really like to understand more, if I can. So who is our expert?
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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On fire! |
Location: currently So Cal
Registered: May 2002
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I am horrible at this one. All I can say is that if I am attracted to the guy (at least enough to do something about it), he ain't gay.
Think good thoughts,
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So, what have we established so far? It's just a feeling that varies from person to person? Come on, folks, inquiring minds wanna know!
-Tom 
"Whatever is sought for can be caught, you know,
whatever is neglected slips away."
Oedipus Rex, lines 126-127
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Guest
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On fire! |
Registered: March 2012
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Not just inquiring minds, but some of us that would like to know if were missing something.
pacman2
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Registered: March 2012
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ok my gaydar is a highly refined tool that i have used many many times to hunt down the gay guys in a ton of situations.
so far it has been called a feeling and the mention of feriomons (sp), i personally feel that it is chemical, mental, and physcial. we all have gaydar and we all know when it goes off but to understand it is like trying to understand some thing like inverse time in quantum physics or some thing. my gaydar works best when in close contact, not actually touching but in contact with some ones personal space that space that we all have around us to feel safe with others. some of us have very small personal spaces like 3 or 4 inches and some have a few feet in our safe zones, the tricky part is that for me i have to like next to some one or right in front of tham to get that feeling deep inside that tells me that "family" is near. mine alos works best in groups, i have gotten really strong blips befor in groups and start off thinking it was one guy and it ended up being the guy next to him...hehehe... so i have to keep my options open to who is setting my gaydar off. i still have no idea why it goes off or EXACTLY what sets it off but it does and its been right more times than not. we all being part of the human race also being the most complicated critter on this old world some times look for easy answers to questions that i feel we are not ment to understand. i like to step back and just say "wow that is way kewl" to alot of stuff, call that being hapy in ignonance or what ever but it works for me.
well thats enough from this peanut gallery for now
peace
tim..of USA
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the scholar
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Location: England
Registered: August 2002
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I can't tell who is an who isn't, but I'm happy with the guy I have, so I don't think I need one.
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Steve
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Really getting into it |
Location: London, England
Registered: November 2006
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No Message Body
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That applies to me too!
Mike
Friendship is the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts or measure words
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dan
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Location: Bath
Registered: February 2002
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I'm not sure if I have any "gaydar" whatsoever. I just seem to fall in love a hell of a lot with exceptionally cute guys. So perhaps someone might lend me their gaydar. It would help a lot.
Pleasant dreams...
Dan.
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I thought "WE" were born with it?
Kevin
"Be excellent to each other, and, party on dudes"!
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smith
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On fire! |
Registered: January 1970
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I went to Best Buy to buy CDs an there was this gorgeous boy there, all dressed in gray. He was on one side of the racks and I was on the other. We looked at each other and I just knew. I did absolutely nothing.......duh......but I just knew. His friend dragged him away but he kept turning around and staring at me.
Is that it?
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warren c. e. austin
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Location: Toronto, Ontario, CANADA
Registered: February 2003
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... an ensemble entirely in "kelley-green" or "fuchia" or "lavender"? They are always eye-openers when worn by men, as are "lemon-yellow", "taupe" or "puce".
[Just kidding)]
In my erstwhile and often-times inveterately promiscuous youth, I often found that singular and direct, often piercing eye-contact, especially if dramatically broken and subsequently, and frequently, enjoined over a period of some minutes there after was usually a prime indicator of of another's sure-fire nterest in what I might be able to offer.
In such circumstances, it is usually de rigeur to take the bull by the horns, as it were, and simple march up to the so afflicted, thrust out your hand, and introduce yourself without acknowledging the protracted eye-contact as this might induce embarassement. You'll never know otherwise, and could very well be letting the opportunity of a lifetime slip through your fingers. The absolute worst that could happen, would be that he would refuse to acknowledge your introduction. Certainly nothing in such demeanor could prompt a violent response, and might just possibly provide the spark that would ignite passions in both of you that are either lying totally dormant, or having been simmering below your consciousness.
Warren C. E. Austin
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