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Help with the English language..  [message #63126] Sat, 31 July 2010 17:24 Go to next message
chrisjames147 is currently offline  chrisjames147

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Okay, this Manning character is probably going to get his ass busted for leaking classified government documents, but that isn't my point.

The man was "livid" after a being "lectured by an ex-boyfriend." Now in America that would imply a a gay relationship. I want the English take on that comment since he has a foot in two cultures and I can never be sure if boyfriend is an innocent way of expressing his male companions.

Of course, the idiot is in deep trouble already, but if they discover him to be gay I don't want to see that feed the homophobia in the military. Your comments welcomed.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/38499161/ns/us_news-security

[Updated on: Sat, 31 July 2010 17:25]




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Re: Help with the English language..  [message #63128 is a reply to message #63126] Sat, 31 July 2010 18:02 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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The term 'boyfriend' is a specific term implying a boy who is closer than a simple friend. It has all the connotations of a same sex relationship.



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Re: Help with the English language..  [message #63129 is a reply to message #63126] Sat, 31 July 2010 18:28 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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To me 'boyfriend' is unequivocal, whether applied to a male or a female.

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Never of girls with big bulges in their blouses.

…and look forward to meeting you in Cóito.
Re: Help with the English language..  [message #63130 is a reply to message #63126] Sat, 31 July 2010 19:09 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Yes, ChrisJames, I agree. Two boys are friends - even best friends - until they get into bed together and then they become boyfriends.
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Re: Help with the English language..  [message #63131 is a reply to message #63130] Sat, 31 July 2010 20:58 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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None of this bodes well as the issue unfolds over the next few weeks. I just hate to think of what the gay bashers out there will make of this, time will tell.Sad

[Updated on: Sat, 31 July 2010 20:58]




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Re: Help with the English language..  [message #63132 is a reply to message #63131] Sat, 31 July 2010 21:05 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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What the outcome ought to be is that he is as normal or unusual as anyone else.



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Re: Help with the English language..  [message #63133 is a reply to message #63132] Sat, 31 July 2010 21:27 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Unfortunately here we go:

http://gawker.com/5568351/is-wikileaker-bradley-manning-pre+transition-transgendered



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Re: Help with the English language..  [message #63134 is a reply to message #63133] Sat, 31 July 2010 22:13 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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All it says is that he was a stupid fool. And that he broke the law.



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icon4.gif A Follow-Up To Tim's Statement Regarding PVT Manning  [message #63137 is a reply to message #63134] Sun, 01 August 2010 01:29 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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BETHESDA, MARYLAND-JULY 31 | The real issues are a.) Did the leak of the 90,000 plus pages of classified materials compromise U.S. Defence Department military operations in Afghanistan, and b.) Did the leak of these materials or does the leak of these materials put servicemen & servicewomen's lives at risk?

Whether or not Manning is Transgendered, Bi-sexual, or Gay is completely irrelevant and has no place in serious discussions or the investigations into this matter. Additionally, the Gawker blog/website is hardly a source of credible journalistic endeavors.

This incident while serious and meriting closer scrutiny by the press corps as well as competent authorities does not rate on a scale of similarity to say the release of the Pentagon papers over 4 decades ago by The New York Times & The Washington Post during the Nixon administration.

There is also the problem of fundamentally flawed U. S. policy in the region which led up to the most recent incident whereby the Commander of U. S. & Allied Ground & Air Forces was relieved of his command for his open critique of said policy and the conduct of the war efforts by this administration that was published in Rolling Stone magazine earlier this month.

Manning's theft of classified materials & its subsequent release to the media by Wikileaks is problematic at best, questionable at the least.

[Updated on: Sun, 01 August 2010 03:09]

Re: A Follow-Up To Tim's Statement Regarding PVT Manning  [message #63141 is a reply to message #63137] Sun, 01 August 2010 05:46 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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These are classified and sercetive documents only because Bush and Cheney wanted them so,in my humble opinion. I paid for these wars, so I have a right to read any documents pertaining to them. I did read four documents and was thoroughly bored. But perhaps in a total, these documents could depict a war not totally flattering to the past administration.



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Problematic? Questionable?  [message #63148 is a reply to message #63137] Sun, 01 August 2010 15:31 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Perhaps. But the adjective I'd use is "heroic".

Wikileaks has my support, 100%. How else are we to hold the behemoths that are modern governments accountable? Elections let us shift the parameters of debate once every 3-4 years in a meaningful way. The rest of the time we rely on forms of media and opinion pieces and polls to inch government in particular directions. The more information we have, the better. If the US government didn't want to put the lives of Afghani civilians or US servicemen at risk then there's a simple solution that starts with GT and ends in FO.

If the "peace" and "stability" America is bringing to Afghanistan justifies civilian and military casualties then the accountability this leak provides also justifies any potential backlash.



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Illegal  [message #63150 is a reply to message #63148] Sun, 01 August 2010 18:01 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Now imagine if a leak endangered someone you love. How full would your support be then?

What if a leak there ensured that they came back from a conflict maimed? How full would your support be then?

Considering that a war is unlawful or undesirable is a matter of politics. You, as a previous political candidate, know that perhaps better than anyone here. Breaking national security is a matter of legality. This kid's act isn't heroic. It's reckless, illegal, and strange.

[Updated on: Sun, 01 August 2010 18:02]




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Re: Illegal  [message #63162 is a reply to message #63150] Mon, 02 August 2010 05:00 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I try not to differentiate between strangers and people I love. I try to hold all lives of equal value.

If I led a country I would never send people to die in a war that wasn't justified. But if a cause is justified then I'd be willing to die for it, I'd be willing to have my loved ones die for it and I'd be willing to have others die for it.

I think government transparency is a cause worth dying for. A far more important cause than "spreading democracy". A democratic government means shit if it isn't transparent.

As for his actions being illegal? So what. All that means is he should have been more careful not to get caught. Laws are arbitrary and decided upon the whims of politicians and public servants. Following the law does not make you a good person or a moral person, it just makes you a risk averse person.

I applaud people that are stupid enough to risk their own safety by going against laws they disagree with. I applaud the gay men that continued to have sex when it was illegal and I applaud people that leak in the interests of transparency.

Illegal or not, risky or not I believe his actions were right.



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Re: Illegal  [message #63168 is a reply to message #63150] Mon, 02 August 2010 11:08 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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But, Timmy, 'illegal' doesn't mean 'wrong'! There are unjust laws that ought to be broken.

Whistle-blowers are not automatically wrong. People that reveal things the government wants to be kept secret may be helping to prevent the government from continuing to do wrong.

And the freedom of information act, while wonderful and helpful, still does not go far enough because we know that the government does things that we know are immoral and maybe even illegal.

One should not unthinkingly support all law and comdemn all law-breaking - at least not until the last unjust law has been repealed.

And, of course it is immoral to serve in the armed services because you implicitly agree to obey orders even if they are immoral. I know: I was in the Royal Navy!

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Anthony
Re: Illegal  [message #63169 is a reply to message #63168] Mon, 02 August 2010 12:38 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Use the ballot box. Use lobbying. Use protests. But simply ignoring laws because you don't like them is not valid. They were created under authority delegated by you or your ancestors to those you and they elected. Make them work for you. We are governed by consensus.



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Re: Illegal  [message #63170 is a reply to message #63162] Mon, 02 August 2010 13:31 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Were I your local party considering your future candidature I would deem you to be too great a risk and not re-engage you as a candidate, just for that opinion.

I suppose it is your considered opinion, but I can;t quite see which of your political parties it's congruent with.



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Re: Illegal  [message #63178 is a reply to message #63170] Mon, 02 August 2010 15:42 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I work with a political party to try and change the laws I deem invalid, but until that time I applaud those with the courage to stand up against such laws.

How would the civil rights movement have gone if Rosa Parks didn't engage in civil disobedience?

How could we have protested for legalisation of "sodomy" if no-one was engaging in it?

My party has never been elected and has about as much chance of doing so as the Monster Raving Loony Party (despite having a rational, philosophically sound platform we have yet to obtain any of the kind of leverage we need in the media or mainstream).

Once my party has a chance of electing candidates I won't be one of them. I stand for election because the more names on ballots the greater awareness that is raised.

But overall I support agorism and civil disobedience over attempting to fight the Leviathan by throwing a piece of paper at it every 4 years.



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Re: Illegal  [message #63181 is a reply to message #63169] Mon, 02 August 2010 16:54 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I suppose there are a lot of things I don't like about the current war situation, I felt the same way about Vietnam. But this Manning character was in uniform and as such swore his allegance. The fact that he was working in the intelligence section only proves to me that there is little intelligence to be found in those who chose him for such a position.

I also suppose his acts could be considered treasonous, especially if they expose one single soldier to harm for these actions. I can say the government hasn't shot anyone for treason in a long time, but I imagine Manning will see the inside of a Federal prison before much longer.

You can't wear a uniform and perform illegal acts without consequence. Sorta like going to work for a bank just to rob them. What he did was illegal, against the law, and he will pay the price. You don't have to like it, there it is. Now place all your money in a plain brown envelope and send it to me, don't worry, I'm trustworthy, you'll get it back after I count it. ;-D



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Re: Illegal  [message #63185 is a reply to message #63181] Tue, 03 August 2010 06:42 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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In all seriousness, not trying to be funny or disrespectful, democracy needs a bit of a stirring just like a soup or stew needs stirring to be made better. Manning took the spoon and stirred the pot and the USA will never be the same again.



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Re: Illegal  [message #63186 is a reply to message #63169] Tue, 03 August 2010 07:59 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Your advice doesn't do it for me, Timmy. I was 32 before any homosexual act in the UK ceased to be punishable by law. I was compelled by law to serve two years in the navy.

What would you have done? Lobbied for repeal of the Labouchere amendment? I didn't even know what my sexuality was until my twenties.

The advice is inappropriate for the case.
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Anthony
Re: Illegal  [message #63187 is a reply to message #63181] Tue, 03 August 2010 08:04 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Don't be naive, ChrisJames. Of course you can be in uniform and perform illegal acts. I was in the navy and took other sailors into my bed, for example.

The Victorians were right, you know. If you must break the law, whether because it is unjust or you are wicked: just don't get caught!

And of course if you decide to lobby against a law then you'd better not break that one as they will be watching you!
Love,
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[Updated on: Tue, 03 August 2010 08:04]

Re: Illegal  [message #63190 is a reply to message #63187] Tue, 03 August 2010 09:39 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Yes, something that could well be treasonable is on a par with shagging other sailors. I quite see your point.



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Re: Illegal  [message #63191 is a reply to message #63186] Tue, 03 August 2010 09:41 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Yes.



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Re: Illegal  [message #63228 is a reply to message #63190] Wed, 04 August 2010 11:02 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Dear Timmy,
Was that in accordance with your standards? Sarcasm is rarely anything but a put-down.

Treason doth never prosper: what's the reason?
For if it prosper none dare call it treason.

The question is whether what Manning did was right or wrong. Of course it was treasonable if he is found guilty of treason. That begs the question.

And there are some of us who think that what he did might bring the bloodshed to an earlier end and thus save lives. And that, treason or not, what he did might be right.
Love,
Anthony
absurdity  [message #63229 is a reply to message #63228] Wed, 04 August 2010 12:25 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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The point was that the two things you were comparing were unequal. I have simply shown the absurdity of your comparison. Please do not trouble yourself to attempt to rile me. It is rarely successful. I suppose it could rise to the status of mildly annoying, but that is about as high as anyone ever gets

[Updated on: Wed, 04 August 2010 12:27]




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Re: absurdity  [message #63230 is a reply to message #63229] Wed, 04 August 2010 12:35 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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No, Timmy, this will not do.

Your comment to what Anthony wrote was snide and hurtful. You could easily have said what you wanted to say in a different manner. Anthony's response was measured and polite. I can see nothing in his words that a reasonable person would construe as an attempt to rile. Please, let us all - including Timmy - "play nice".

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Re: absurdity  [message #63231 is a reply to message #63230] Wed, 04 August 2010 12:39 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I imagine I was mildly annoyed Smile

We still have, somewhere, the mystery moderator. As we all know he has the power to deal with me, too, if he wishes



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Apologies to Chris James®, et al, but for once ...  [message #63234 is a reply to message #63126] Wed, 04 August 2010 13:53 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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... I'm afraid I have to agree wholeheartedly with Brody on this one (and I'm loathe to have to admit this), WE HAVE FOCUSED far too much attention on this topic.

Whatever it is that young Manning may, or may not, have done whilst serving in his country's military could very well be questionable no matter how anyone slices it and it most certainly will be in the hands of the JAG to determine the facts, and if appropriate, bring charges. Continued, and endless, speculation is, in my opinion, grossly contraindicated as it appears no consensus on this issue is likely ever going to be reached.

Whether the youth is simply gender confused, truly transgendered or an outright homosexual, should have no bearing on either the pattern of his conduct, or it's rationale, and its' eventual outcome.

Nothing good is going to come from continuing this debate; it has already spiraled into a quagmire of dissent and outright derision.

Warren C. E. Austin
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[Updated on: Wed, 04 August 2010 13:53]




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Re: absurdity  [message #63243 is a reply to message #63229] Wed, 04 August 2010 19:50 Go to previous message
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If you read my post again, Timmy, you will find that I wasn't comparing two things. Nor was I attempting to rile you. I was complaining that your sarcasm didn't live up to the standards you set for the site.
Love,
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