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Avoiding unwanted intimacies ?  [message #68277] Sat, 25 January 2014 16:07 Go to previous message
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There's been a lot of stuff in the news recently about men paying unwanted attention to women, and especially unwanted and/or inappropriate touching. Obviously, no woman should have to put up with that kind of thing.

But I think there's a danger of double standards. I find myself dreading the kind of women who expect to be help and air-kissed on the cheek ritually three times whenever I meet them. It's something I feel really uncomfortable with: it's an assumption of intimacy that I don't buy into.  And then there are the large number of women who find it necessary to hold on to my arm while talking, or touch my arm (or knee, if we're seated next to each other) to emphasise every point they make.

It's not women as such (it's anyone doing it that I don't feel is a very close friend, and so happy with the touching thing), but somehow men never seem to do it.

Am I alone in feeling this? If not, how do other people manage to discourage such unwanted intrusions?



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