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icon8.gif Queers are very good in the hotel and catering trades  [message #68439] Sun, 30 March 2014 19:42 Go to previous message
timmy

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In my living room, as my guest this afternoon, sat a man we know slightly. Some 30 or so years ago we had sold him a puppy. He had come to pick our brains about our town in case he wants to move here. He has no idea that I am anything but heterosexual, but that should not matter. We recommended that he and his wife visit a local tea rooms. 

"Ah, that's the one run by two queers?"

I was very good. I didn't immediately remove his dick and shove it down his throat. Instead my wife suggested that they are very nice people who run a most excellent establishment. Neither of us mentioned that they are great friends, too.

"Queers are very good in the hotel and catering trades," he said, on hearing that.

This casual disparagement, dehumanisation and diminishing of human beings disgusted me. I still held my tongue, but it has rankled all afternoon, perhaps more than it ought to have. It wasn;t just the words, it was the dismissive 'I am far better than any queer' tone of voice that got to me.

I could have said that queers breed damned good puppies, too, but I think it would have gone over his head.

I met our friends the two queers by chance this evening. They are used to it, of course, but that doesn't make it any nicer. And why do they need to be used to it? After all you wouldn't speak of the two niggers who run the corner shop, would you?

It affected me personally as well as on my friends' behalf. This epithet was hurled as a vicious insult when I was growing up. It made me cringe then and it makes me cringe today. But it is the tone of voice when deploying it that `I truly object to.



Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
 
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