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icon5.gif Why do we look?  [message #67317] Thu, 17 January 2013 17:42 Go to next message
timmy

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We are all "adult in our outlook" aren't we? We all appreciate the face first, or other external anatomical parts, don't we?

So why, in the locker room, do we just have to see that guy's dick even if it makes it so obvious that we're doing t?



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Re: Why do we look?  [message #67318 is a reply to message #67317] Thu, 17 January 2013 19:13 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Kitzyma is currently offline  Kitzyma

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I suspect that one contributing factor is that we're brought up in a society in which we're expected to keep or 'bits' hidden. They are even referred to as our 'privates'. Somehow naughty and forbidden, and therefore made more interesting and more the object of curiosity.

Perhaps, if we were brought up in a nudist society we wouldn't be so interested in such 'private bits', though I suspect that there would still be a little interest, not least because humans do like to compare themselves with others, even if it's not particularly sexual - he's taller than me, I'm more muscular than him, her hair is a mess, etc. In any case, if we were brought up in a nudist society there would be no need to pay particular attention in locker rooms. Maybe there'd even be no need for locker rooms! Smile

Re: Why do we look?  [message #67319 is a reply to message #67317] Thu, 17 January 2013 23:51 Go to previous message
NW is currently offline  NW

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Actually, unless the guy interests me in some way (pretty face or interesting conversation) or has previously talked about his dick in a way to make me want to check whether it corresponds to reality, I don't generally check men out in locker rooms or wherever.

I suspect that in this way (as in many others) I'm atypical.



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