A Place of Safety
I expect simple behaviours here. Friendship, and love.
Any advice should be from the perspective of the person asking, not the person giving!
We have had to make new membership moderated to combat the huge number of spammers who register
















You are here: Home > Forum > A Place of Safety > General Talk > This MB (format) sukzzzzz.......
icon6.gif Last time I checked my panties  [message #11534 is a reply to message #11522] Thu, 19 June 2003 17:24 Go to previous messageGo to next message
trevor is currently offline  trevor

Really getting into it

Registered: November 2002
Messages: 732



I forgot to retrieve them before leaving the establishement! Sometimes childish is fun.

Hey, Kanga, nice to see ya! {waves}
I meerly related my feelings...... or is that not allowed?  [message #11537 is a reply to message #11502] Thu, 19 June 2003 20:31 Go to previous messageGo to next message
marc is currently offline  marc

Needs to get a life!

Registered: March 2003
Messages: 4729



You seem to be the one so thin skinned over this....

I know you are not interested any more....

You have proven that aspect of what small friendship over and again....

Just to bring things to a par....

I am not interestes any longer either....



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
Actually, what gives you the impression this was about Garrets post?  [message #11538 is a reply to message #11520] Thu, 19 June 2003 20:52 Go to previous messageGo to next message
marc is currently offline  marc

Needs to get a life!

Registered: March 2003
Messages: 4729



No Message Body



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
I'll not say what I am thinking right now....  [message #11539 is a reply to message #11516] Thu, 19 June 2003 20:54 Go to previous messageGo to next message
marc is currently offline  marc

Needs to get a life!

Registered: March 2003
Messages: 4729



No Message Body



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
Ahhhh.... But there is, has been, for a very very long time....  [message #11540 is a reply to message #11516] Thu, 19 June 2003 21:07 Go to previous messageGo to next message
marc is currently offline  marc

Needs to get a life!

Registered: March 2003
Messages: 4729



As is with me it is as much ignored......

Well such is life......

If I had one wish, I wouldn't have to worry about that either...



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
Bemusement.....  [message #11541 is a reply to message #11528] Thu, 19 June 2003 21:32 Go to previous messageGo to next message
marc is currently offline  marc

Needs to get a life!

Registered: March 2003
Messages: 4729



Any that know me know that I do not easily use email...

Whenever I post, I feel as if I am intruding on a very private elite clique.

There is a difference between being tollerated and made to feel welcomed.

Yes it would be rude to point out soggy chips or worn furniture. But, is it rude to mention a pipe which is leaking as well?

In Tim's home is there a time limit on conversation?

Granted, I could have used better phrasiology in my origional posting, but hind sight is always 20-20



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
An interesting observation  [message #11542 is a reply to message #11537] Thu, 19 June 2003 21:36 Go to previous messageGo to next message
timmy

Has no life at all
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13805



You say you related your feelings.

I received it and receive it still as rudeness.

This was also not a matter about "feelings". It was a matter of practicalities. No matter how many times you have been asked to desist you have always found an extra twist of the knife. No-one is "ignoring" you now, certainly.

If the idea was to be extreme in order to gain attention, that element worked. But it does not seem to be popualr acclaim you have received. If you simply want people to like you, be as likeable in public as you are in private.

Certainly you have achieved a huge thread in no time flat. But what a pointless one.

And why should I not be thin skinned? You attack something I have provided and have laboured over with megaman providing the major technical and research expertose, and you tell me it sucks. It does not take a very thin skin to be offended and upset by such behaviour.

When shown a better way of handling the thing that you started with then all you do is to ignore it and carry on regardless, twisting the knife. This is an unpleasant behaviour.

No-one has said that the current system is perfect. It was never perfect. But it is stable, withstands normal onslaughts, and provides a competent service with warts.

And my reaction? And Megaman's? if we did not loath the anyboard software ourselves we woudl say to you "Your attitude means that everyine is stuck with it the way it is." You have caused raised hackles. You have created anger and unpleasant feeling. Your behaviour has been hostile from the initial post. Our reaction to that is to react badly and against any suggestion you make, however valid.

Put well, put nicely, put with a pleasant start, then your thoughts carried weight. "I wish the board did not let thinsg slip to a following page when there is still mileage in them" woudl have been pleasant, too. And I wish it myself.

We had a poll a while ago about page load speed. The outcome of that was that this board, with its deficiencies, is designed to load correctly for a dial up user. Number of threads per page has a direct bearing on that. As does the "time" when a thread slips to page 2.



Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
What does garrett have to do with this?  [message #11543 is a reply to message #11514] Thu, 19 June 2003 21:39 Go to previous messageGo to next message
marc is currently offline  marc

Needs to get a life!

Registered: March 2003
Messages: 4729



Jeeshhhhh........

This has nothing to do with Garrett.

I really have a hard time trying to make the connection....



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
You have an incredible knack.....  [message #11544 is a reply to message #11542] Thu, 19 June 2003 21:51 Go to previous messageGo to next message
marc is currently offline  marc

Needs to get a life!

Registered: March 2003
Messages: 4729



for making a person feel as worthless as infinately possible...

I did not place the post to garner a useless mass of responces...

I placed it to make you aware that the "time restraints" are extreemily annoying and inconveinent.

Yes, sometimes I am crude in my method of phrasing a post. I never said I was an eloquent with language.

I do not need the attention you so aptly accuse me of gathering.

I am through with it all!



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
Actually, what gives you the impression this was about Garrets post?  [message #11549 is a reply to message #11538] Thu, 19 June 2003 23:55 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Guest is currently offline  Guest

On fire!

Registered: March 2012
Messages: 2344



I think it was because during that time everybody in the board was talking about Gerret's problems and then his thread got moved to the second page. Well i think logically everybody assumed you were talking about Gerret.
Re: Actually..this entire tirade sukzzzzzzzz  [message #11556 is a reply to message #11520] Fri, 20 June 2003 08:39 Go to previous messageGo to next message
ron is currently offline  ron

Really getting into it
Location: Bridgeport, Connecticut U...
Registered: January 2003
Messages: 478




Me too, smith; I too am still waiting for the grown-ups to play nice (and I'm 47!).



We do not remember days...we remember moments.

Cesare Pavese
Re: This MB (format) sukzzzzz.......  [message #11557 is a reply to message #11476] Fri, 20 June 2003 08:52 Go to previous messageGo to next message
ron is currently offline  ron

Really getting into it
Location: Bridgeport, Connecticut U...
Registered: January 2003
Messages: 478




I wasn't aware of that minor "bug" (if indeed it is really a "bug" at all); thanks for pointing it out. Even so, though, if a given thread generates a great deal of response, it still takes quite a while for it to be relegated to Page 2, by which time it has probably already gotten most (if not all) of the response it's going to get (and, as smith noted, they will often have already become so long and complicated by then that it makes it quite cumbersome).

Again, three cheers (at the very least!) for Tim and Macrule!!!



We do not remember days...we remember moments.

Cesare Pavese
It really is no good turning this around  [message #11569 is a reply to message #11544] Fri, 20 June 2003 15:19 Go to previous messageGo to next message
timmy

Has no life at all
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13805



You chose the phraseology and the battle was yours. You fired the opening shot, you continued to fire shot after shot despite being asked to desist.

One who perpetually fires shots cannot then turn it round and cry "foul".

I love you dearly, which you may or may not believe. It is the extraordinary behaviour that I do not like.



Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
icon8.gif Im Very Sorry!  [message #11570 is a reply to message #11436] Fri, 20 June 2003 15:43 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Garrett is currently offline  Garrett

Toe is in the water

Registered: January 1970
Messages: 77



I am very sorry that my posts have caused any controversy about if this board is any good or not. Whether this board has glitches and problems, I still love it. Mechanical problems dont matter because all I came here for was answers, friends, and people that care about me. And thats what I got. So stop complaining and relize that this board helps people! Just everybody stop fighting.
Garrett
Re: Come on guys - is it really worth fighting over?  [message #11588 is a reply to message #11570] Fri, 20 June 2003 19:48 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Guest is currently offline  Guest

On fire!

Registered: March 2012
Messages: 2344



No Message Body
icon6.gif Re: and why should you be sorry?  [message #11589 is a reply to message #11570] Fri, 20 June 2003 20:55 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Guest is currently offline  Guest

On fire!

Registered: March 2012
Messages: 2344



This is just simple childish dialog between grumpy (adults ? ) young garrett--has nothing to do with you except that your name got mentioned.BY the way,how are you doing? I still would like to be a fly on the wall when you put shaving cream in your dads sack.That would be a positive step in your quest for freedom...rob
icon6.gif Re:Zinging rubberbands is fun  [message #11591 is a reply to message #11520] Fri, 20 June 2003 21:33 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Guest is currently offline  Guest

On fire!

Registered: March 2012
Messages: 2344



smith--snapping marcs elastic band on his panties really is clean fun.Perhaps childish,but what the hell.Amoungst other things,this board SHOULD be a place where we all can have some fun.Of course not hurtful play.I know that words can hurt.I can write a book on that.If someone on this board is hurtful,to return that hurt is not good.Instead,lets all smother the grump with love and kindness.That gets them every time...rob
Um  [message #11592 is a reply to message #11589] Fri, 20 June 2003 21:34 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Garrett is currently offline  Garrett

Toe is in the water

Registered: January 1970
Messages: 77



Um Im okay, Ive been trying to stay away from people, and trying to talk to lots of you. Ive been sick for the last few days and have been meeting new people. I met Ashley and told him my story. I dont think Im gunna do the shaving cream thing, hell get to pissed. But Ill think of something to do. So Im sitting at home trying to gain weight and forcing myself to eat(Im to skinny!). But Ill be okay.
Garrett
Skinny is pretty normal at 14  [message #11593 is a reply to message #11592] Fri, 20 June 2003 21:39 Go to previous messageGo to next message
timmy

Has no life at all
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13805



OK, only you know if you are underweight, but if you don't have an eating disorder then your body will sort itself out, pretty much



Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
Re: Skinny is pretty normal at 14  [message #11595 is a reply to message #11593] Fri, 20 June 2003 21:45 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Garrett is currently offline  Garrett

Toe is in the water

Registered: January 1970
Messages: 77



But its like I do have an eating disorder, I can barely eat anything! For like 3 days I didnt eat anything.
icon6.gif Re: Um  [message #11597 is a reply to message #11592] Fri, 20 June 2003 22:02 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Guest is currently offline  Guest

On fire!

Registered: March 2012
Messages: 2344



you absolutely miss the point.Since Timmy hasnt posted any stories,and I have run out of other stories to read,I was hoping that the adventures of garrett would fill my booring life.Now im stuck with only my imagination.I can see it now..Garrett being chased by a fire breathing father all over the base--what a sceen.I wonder if Timmy will accept this story.rob
You know there's a problem  [message #11599 is a reply to message #11595] Fri, 20 June 2003 22:24 Go to previous messageGo to next message
saben is currently offline  saben

On fire!

Registered: May 2003
Messages: 1537



Which is the first step. Your body doesn't seem to like food right now but you're trying to make it. This can be hard, I know, I've had a friend with the exact same problem- he just couldn't eat, not that he didn't want to, his body just didn't. Eventually he went to the doctors, though, and they gave him some medication that got him eating again, if you want I'll give you his email address. In fact this guy is a soccer player from Manchester and is moving to Osaka soon to play in the J-League.. What a small world... I do think this eating thingie is something you should/ could see doctors about, even though your past you want to keep secret.



Look at this tree. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time [...] No matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
Master Oogway
Its okay  [message #11620 is a reply to message #11599] Sat, 21 June 2003 00:33 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Garrett is currently offline  Garrett

Toe is in the water

Registered: January 1970
Messages: 77



Its okay, Im okay. Its still hard, but Im okay. I think. Manchester huh, like hes on Manchester United. Thats cool that hes going to be on a J Leauge.
Garrett
Hi Rob  [message #11621 is a reply to message #11597] Sat, 21 June 2003 00:39 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Garrett is currently offline  Garrett

Toe is in the water

Registered: January 1970
Messages: 77



Dont worry, Im writing the 6th chapter of Robin right now. Then youll be able to read that. Then Im going to right my life story. Dont worry. Have you read all the stories by everybody on this site? Cool. If you need more stories, go to http://library.gaycafe.com/nifty/gay/index.html .
Garrett
DAMNIT, RON NOT ROB  [message #11622 is a reply to message #11621] Sat, 21 June 2003 00:42 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Garrett is currently offline  Garrett

Toe is in the water

Registered: January 1970
Messages: 77



TO MAY PEOPLE WITH TO MANY SIMILAR NAMES! RON NOT ROB! HEHE SORRY ROB.
GARRETT
Re: Hi Rob  [message #11624 is a reply to message #11621] Sat, 21 June 2003 00:47 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Guest is currently offline  Guest

On fire!

Registered: March 2012
Messages: 2344



please explain how im picking on you.dont you know that at one time I was a 14 year old boy and gay to boot.this old coot has been there and have done that.your the lucky one,you got legs that work.you can go places and do things.I cant!....rob
Re: Hi Rob  [message #11627 is a reply to message #11624] Sat, 21 June 2003 01:00 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Garrett is currently offline  Garrett

Toe is in the water

Registered: January 1970
Messages: 77



I ment RON!
icon14.gif Re: DAMNIT, RON NOT ROB  [message #11628 is a reply to message #11622] Sat, 21 June 2003 01:02 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Guest is currently offline  Guest

On fire!

Registered: March 2012
Messages: 2344



darn it and here i was getting all set to turn you into a frog and you pulled the rug out.Of course if your really nice to me I will cast a spell on your da and turn him into a frog...rob
You can't....... No one can!!!!!!!!!!!!  [message #11629 is a reply to message #11569] Sat, 21 June 2003 01:10 Go to previous messageGo to next message
marc is currently offline  marc

Needs to get a life!

Registered: March 2003
Messages: 4729



No Message Body



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
Hehe  [message #11631 is a reply to message #11628] Sat, 21 June 2003 01:12 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Garrett is currently offline  Garrett

Toe is in the water

Registered: January 1970
Messages: 77



No Message Body
icon6.gif Re: Hi Rob  [message #11632 is a reply to message #11627] Sat, 21 June 2003 01:17 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Guest is currently offline  Guest

On fire!

Registered: March 2012
Messages: 2344



a good rule to remember on this board is not to get mad,but get even.BULLIES LIKE RON hate kindness or any other thing they percieve as weakness.slobber them with kindness and love.Most important of all is understanding.Bullies go ape over understanding.You seem like a good egg to me,although I wish you would give your dad a hotfoot.Thats sure a lot better thing than listening to marc bitch about his skid-marks...rob
icon14.gif Re: Hehe  [message #11633 is a reply to message #11631] Sat, 21 June 2003 01:23 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Guest is currently offline  Guest

On fire!

Registered: March 2012
Messages: 2344



just a thought,tell da that there is this dirty old man that lives in florida that is willing to adopt you--oh also tell him im gay.....rob
K  [message #11635 is a reply to message #11632] Sat, 21 June 2003 01:29 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Garrett is currently offline  Garrett

Toe is in the water

Registered: January 1970
Messages: 77



And you would know about being a bully, wouldnt you rob. hehe, sorry, just joking. Had to, to easy. K, Thanx. AHHHHHHHHHH, The Rocky Horror Picture Show is on and its soooooo freaky but soooooo funny. I love it! Its like one of my favorites.
Garrett
Re: Hehe  [message #11637 is a reply to message #11633] Sat, 21 June 2003 01:31 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Garrett is currently offline  Garrett

Toe is in the water

Registered: January 1970
Messages: 77



Hehe, very funny.
icon6.gif Re: Hehere,,g  [message #11658 is a reply to message #11633] Sat, 21 June 2003 10:25 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Guest is currently offline  Guest

On fire!

Registered: March 2012
Messages: 2344



i wasnt kidding.hehehe---i could use another slave in my cold cruel empire.lots of bondage,whippings and assorted outrages too numerous to mention.oh and the gruel I feed to my subject slaves will grow hair on ones tongue...rob
icon6.gif Re: BTW hehe  [message #11659 is a reply to message #11658] Sat, 21 June 2003 10:29 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Guest is currently offline  Guest

On fire!

Registered: March 2012
Messages: 2344



the hair on the tongue makes for great sex..r
Starting to get a little inappropriate thanks, Rob  [message #11660 is a reply to message #11659] Sat, 21 June 2003 10:39 Go to previous messageGo to next message
saben is currently offline  saben

On fire!

Registered: May 2003
Messages: 1537



No Message Body



Look at this tree. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time [...] No matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
Master Oogway
icon7.gif Re: Starting to get a little inappropriate thanks, Rob  [message #11661 is a reply to message #11660] Sat, 21 June 2003 11:01 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Guest is currently offline  Guest

On fire!

Registered: March 2012
Messages: 2344



when your chair bound,things get a little booring.yes,I am a grown man,but my barbs and whiticisms are harmless.I do believe that having good fun is what this board is about.I am saddened that your life is so empty that you have to take me to task to feel good or whatever your agenda is.You have my best wishes and I hope you are feeling better...robert
No, not at  [message #11662 is a reply to message #11661] Sat, 21 June 2003 11:42 Go to previous messageGo to next message
saben is currently offline  saben

On fire!

Registered: May 2003
Messages: 1537



I just think some things are inappropriate to be posted, especially publically, towards a boy who has been abused when you don't know the nature of abuse and which things can hit on a senstitive nerve... There are also memebers of the community that your comments could have offended topically.

Anyway, it isn't the intent of this place to have crude jokes floating around, this is meant to be a place of safety. While I think humour expressed between members is a good thing and while I myself appreciate suggestive, crude jokes occasionally, this is not really the place. I feel it takes away from what the place stands for.

So, if you want to talk to me on AOL Instant Messenger (which you can download from http://www.aim.com) feel free, my screen name is 'Saben the 4th'. We can exchange as much casual banter as you like. But for now, please let's keep that thing away from this place.



Look at this tree. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time [...] No matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
Master Oogway
That should be "No, not at all"  [message #11663 is a reply to message #11662] Sat, 21 June 2003 12:00 Go to previous messageGo to previous message
saben is currently offline  saben

On fire!

Registered: May 2003
Messages: 1537



No Message Body



Look at this tree. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time [...] No matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
Master Oogway
Previous Topic: Small, yet maybe important things in life...
Next Topic: The Continuing Count-Down Thread
Goto Forum: