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Balance of power between partners  [message #50245 is a reply to message #50109] Tue, 29 April 2008 17:07 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Very interesting, Michael,

Partnerships where the partners have equal power (which almost always means that each loves the other equally) are fairly rare, I think.

But I can't deplore too much the thought of one partner controlling the other by rationing sex. Ugh!

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Anthony
Re: Balance of power between partners  [message #50246 is a reply to message #50245] Tue, 29 April 2008 20:44 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Re: Balance of power between partners  [message #50247 is a reply to message #50246] Tue, 29 April 2008 21:19 Go to previous message
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Dear Michael,

Yes. I agree that an exact copy of me would have been my ideal. But I had sex with several people who wanted me for their sexual gratification - they were all men because I can't say, for sure, what the women wanted. And although I may have given those people the gratification, I didn't get enough gratification to satisfy me - at least not the way I really wanted it. Being in bed with someone selfish is likely, in my experience, to leave you feeling something is missing.

Also, being in bed with someone you don't really really care about means that they may not get the treatment that would fully satisfy them. I was no actor and when I was with a partner that didn't turn me on, that partner probably knew it!

I might behave differently, if I knew what I know now, if I had my time again - but who wouldn't?

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Anthony
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