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Darren
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Registered: January 1970
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An young male intern working for me (and please no cigar jokes ....) sent me a message on the AIM as follows:
(Happy face)
I say what's up.
He says not much, I just wanted to send you a smily and a hug.
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It caught me very much off-guard, as we normally talk about work. I thought he must be gay. No offense to you guys, but you are the only men that I get email hugs from. There have been a few other things as well. My female cousin also agrees with me. I am not interested in him (nor do I want to be), but I am wondering if this is an attempt on his part to reach out to me. I have made this offer to him before. I want to bring up the subject with him next time I see him in person. I think that I am even willing to tell him that I am gay (with approval from my wife). I just think that if he is gay or bi, he may need to talk to someone about it. He is living with a girl. A french canadian who seams to be a bit controlling and does not treat him very good, but I have never met her. He says he lovers her over everthing. Do you guys think it is wise for me to talk to him about this. We are good friends and have talked on a very personal level before.
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tim
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Location: UK, West of London in Ber...
Registered: February 2002
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I do not agree that oyu need your wife's permisisn to reveal anything about yourself though
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Darren
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I promised that I would. She made the same promise to me. I sure this would OK it, but we have tremendous amount of trust in our marriage, and this is one of the ways we maintain it.
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trevor
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Dunno if you have all sorts of "sexual harrasment" laws like we do in the US wherever you are (sorry, I think you mentioned?) but I'd be careful about initiating any conversation about sexual orientation especially since you are gay and he may be interested in you.
Probably fine off the clock, away from the office if he volunteers - maybe say something to the effect of you'd be happy to talk to him about anything over lunch or an after-work drink or whatever.
I agree with you're logic with your wife, I have some agreements with mine as well, especially since she is still insecure about the situation and frankly has always had low self esteem and needs constant reassurance. Likewise, I don't necessarily want her talking to everyone about me. For us, a big part of it is the kids and our involvement with school activities, etc. I do hope I can slowly "come out" more over time without hurting anyone in the process, and hopefully being able to actually help my kids or their peers in the process.
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