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this group does mean so much to me, and has helped before.
I got a phone call last night from an old friend here in town (unfortunately nowadays we only exchange Christmas cards and bad news) saying another mutual old friend had been trying to get in touch with me all weekend. When I heard that I knew it was not a Christmas card.
Turns out my best friend from the military (and within the circle of old friends) had passed last Thursday and the funeral was yesterday. I know that if I had gotten word in time I would have dropped everything to fly to his place of residence. But now I am left with writing letters to his wife, and two children (whom I babysat at least once a week for over three years straight) to express my condolences and best wishes.
Like I said, I don't know why I am posting this. All I really have to say is:
Life is short! Don't waste time with hate or ridicule! Love each and every person you meet, hug your family, say I love you to someone (or even two or three) each day. For life is short.
Hugs, Charlie
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It really is tough to loose a friend in any way shape or form. Unfortunatly this is permanent and, in my opinion, even more difficult because you didn't get a chance to say goodbye. Hang in there, I have always been told that when "GOD" closes a door he opens a window....but in cases like this it's a heack of a lot harder to find the window.
You are very right when you say....
Life is short! Don't waste time with hate or ridicule! Love each and every person you meet, hug your family, say I love you to someone (or even two or three) each day. For life is short.
HUGS, hang in there, my thoughts and prayers are with both you and the family
Danielle
"To the world you may be but one person, but to one person you may be the world!"
"Some people love you and some hate you.. those who hate don't know what they're missing and they're missing out!"
"Never underestimate your power to change yo
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and love & light for you, too.
my void does not want.
-- 2.13.61.
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Thinking of you heaps right now...and I already owed you an email anyhow, so coming soon...
One thing you might do is invite some people whom you love and trust over to your place for a dinner and "remembering" time, and don't be shy about telling them the reason. That may help you share the burden of grief a bit, in the same way you might have done if you had been able to get there in time for the funeral.
You're really good at giving help...don't be afraid to be equally willing to ask for help when you need it yourself.
"Always forgive your enemies...nothing annoys them quite so much." Oscar Wilde
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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This may seem silly, since the funeral has passed, but why not fly there anyway? You have a memorial to visit, and peace to make. And life to celebrate as well as a death to mourn
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Charlie, my heart and thoughts are with you and the family of your friend. I am so sorry you weren't able to be with the family when this all happened... especially when you were all so close at one time.
I agree with Timmy... why not fly out there anyway, and visit the family... maybe that is what your friend would have wished for anyway???
Take care, Charlie. My thoughts and prayers are with you...
*HUGS*
BamBam
Celebrate your life... embrace your love... Become intimate with your place in forever !!!
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Life IS short, and therefore I am now a registred organ donor.  I got the confirmation letter today.
I'm sorry you missed the funeral, but it's not as if you did it on purpose or anything. Your friend's spirit - if there is such a thing - will understand I'm sure.
Hugs for you, Charlie.
-L
"But he that hath the steerage of my course,
direct my sail."
-William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act One, Scene IV
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