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I checked, in the the phone book of all places. My new family name exists and should be a valid choice. That's the good news...
HOWEVER, somebody thought it was a really fucking great idea to make lots and lots of rules concerning name changes, one of them saying it's not allowed to take a family name that already exists unless there are blood ties in the family to that name.
So I'm S.O.L., it seems.
Gonna have to get creative here...
Anyway, forms and neccessary documents have been ordered from various state offices. $170 in hard currency allocated to pay for it.
I'll beat the system, somehow. I know I will, even if I'll have to move to a different country to get the name I want. But I wish JUST FOR ONCE that everything could just WORK on my first try. Run smoothly from start to finish so I wouldn't have to worry and agonize over it. JUST ONCE... But it's too much to ask for it seems.
GODDAMMIT! This really was a blow to me. But now I'm gonna go downtown and pick up my Jarre CD. Oxygene, here I come.
Hope I'll be able to relax some in the afternoon. Too fucking upset right now...  Hate those blasted bureaucrats and their bullshit regulations. (And it'll take 2 months or more to get application processed anyway, so it wouldn't have worked in time for London trip anyway unless I push it forwards.)
-Lenny (Who could use a pat on the shoulder right now...)
"But he that hath the steerage of my course,
direct my sail."
-William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act One, Scene IV
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Location: UK, West of London in Ber...
Registered: February 2002
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In England you may ADOPT a name "just like that", free of charge.
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trevor
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Registered: November 2002
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Hugs to you, Lenny. If I recall, you're adopted? Would that help, maybe take a name of a birthparent, if you have/can get that info - of course that may NOT be what you want? Hey, I'll adopt you, then you can take my name, OK? Guess you wouldn't like it, though - very unusual and perhaps unflattering depending on context.
Oh, is that Jean-Michell Jarre? I haven't heard that for about 20 years - on vinyl, of course!
Take care.
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Damn. These emotional roller-coaster rides really are terribly exhausting. Yesterday was perfect in almost every respect (apart from the fact nobody is in love with me, hmm). Today really could have been better, especially since it didn't start off very bad.
Dunno how to fix these wild swings. I get my hopes up too much, I should KNOW by now that as soon as I do that, some shit happens that knocks me flat on my back. Oh well...
I always get back up again somehow. At times I wonder why I bother. Now I think I'm testing myself to see how far I can get, like yesterday on the rotex machine. See how much of level 8 I could manage before heart pops like a balloon...  Not sure I like it, but I seem unable to stop so I might just as well keep on trying.
I will try to fix this. Somehow...
As I see it, I have basically three options (or four, if I was to move abroad, which I'm fairly certain I won't. I'm not that descisive, and it's a lot of bother).
First: keep current name & give up. Not an option.
Second: take intended name and change it slightly so it becomes unique, and use that instead. Not preferable.
Third: same as above, with difference that after getting new name, I'll change the spelling of it to what I intended all along. This could work, I'm not sure (it might have to be approved by lead-butted pencil-pushing bureaucrats, not sure). Or, I could simply use my intended spelling and let official records stay at the variation if changing it afterwards is not possible.
This is my preferred choice.
In other news... Went shopping at the local supermarket after being down in the city. Saw the incredibly cute boy which sometimes works at the cash registers. By "incredibly cute" I mean like Dan-level cuteness here. He's maybe not quite 20 I'd say, really can't tell. Young as hell anyway. Light brown, short hair. SUCH a pretty smile, very soft, warm hands. Holes in both earlobes, but no jewellry in them today. I always look him in the eyes when paying, as much as I can. He's SOO cute! Dammit. Ffrruussttrraattiioonn......
In other news still... Was walking off frustration after hitting a brick wall with my name-changing (and seeing the pretty cash register boy which will never be mine) in the huge forested nature recreation area just beyond where I live. The route I took was the same as a few days ago; about an hour long. Saw a bunch of people practicing throwing frisbees to each other; a frisbee golf club I think. They were running up and down a gravel football field as I passed by, divided in groups of three and tossing a frisbee between themselves. Reminded me of the good old bad swimming team days. Was teased there too, but it was still a community of sorts... It was company. Don't have much of that these days. Memories that came to me were kind of bitter-sweet. Can't tell if they're either good or bad overall.
By the way Trevor... Yes, I am adopted, but I don't want to even know the last names of my birth parents. I think I know first name of my birth mother and I wish I didn't (got to hear it under very bad circumstances). I'd gladly take your name I think, but I'm not sure it is possible to adopt adults, LOL...
By the way, CD I got was 'Oxygene 7-13', by Jean Michel Jarre (so you were correct there). It came out in '97 I think, it's not his newest one, but I've heard bits from it and I like it. Very much in the style of his earliest albums, 'Equinox' and the original 'Oxygene'. Some techno-ish drums, but it fits in with the ancient-sounding synths he uses. Still waiting (and waiting, and waiting...) for Moby's 'Play(ground, is it?)' (amazing CD) and Sigur Rós's 'Von'. No estimated arrival date on either album, aaargh.
-Lenny
"But he that hath the steerage of my course,
direct my sail."
-William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act One, Scene IV
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trevor
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Registered: November 2002
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that you're "Zee Aye" - I'm really laughing at myself now, because I'd never looked at your e-mail addy until now!
I'm Trevor/TJ btw if you are being as dense about names as I have been. I doubt that, though. There's a different Trevor at the Shack, hasn't been around for awhile, and I was briefly confused with The Journeyman a few times when I just used "TJ." I was just outsmarted by the user interface when I registered here, so no "/TJ" here. Yahoo didn't like the slash so I used a dash there. I am rambling!
I just now looked at your addy because I'll send you my last name for humor effect - don't think you'll want it, though.
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Registered: January 1970
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Sorry lenny, it sounds like you were really looking forward to this name change.
What is it that you are trying to leave behind with the old name?
Those darn beaurocrats anyway. I know that the German government won't accept our marriage license because the stamp is not official enough. My wife could not change her maiden name, and thus has two last names (depending on what country she is in). It is a pain in the neck!
Sounds like you should just start looking forward to your trip to London. When you meet people there, just give them your new name. Unless they are the customs guys, they are not going to ask for ID.
cya, Darren
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Trying to leave behind a thing of ugliness. I have never been uncomfortable with my given name. Quite frankly, I can't understand why my biological parents chose it for me, it's AWFUL.
And yes, I'm indeed looking forward to it. Not sure how I'll handle explaining it to my friends though, it's such an unusual thing to do (when all of us really should choose our own name, perhaps in some kind of nice coming-of-age ceremony).
How can a stamp not be official enough? Sounds like quite a bother to have to use a different name just because the authorities decide to be stupid and annoying.
-Lenny
"But he that hath the steerage of my course,
direct my sail."
-William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act One, Scene IV
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