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I need advice, people...
Or opinions, or input or whatever you have to offer.
My main dilemma is this:
Is it possible to love someone without really knowing anything about that person?
I'm sure most of you understand by now why I'm asking this. I saw him again today just after my workout was finished, he was getting ready to start his. He was in a hurry and we couldn't talk long, but he said he'd be back wednesday or thursday or so, so I have that small hope to cling to...
I still don't know what he feels about me, if I'm the least bit attractive to him or not. I'm not sure what I myself am feeling either actually, just that whenever I think about him, a smile comes to my lips...
That's why I'm writing this post.
Do any of you have any similar experiences to share with me? I know there's not likely to be one single answer to my question, but I have to ask nevertheless. Hope you understand.
-Lenny
"But he that hath the steerage of my course,
direct my sail."
-William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act One, Scene IV
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Michael Simon
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....but you shoudl not take any advise on this thing as a ready made solution. The chances of talking to that person will lead your luck ( my experience) but I will refrain from givin any advise cause noone can give som eon that in my opinion, just th esituation itself can
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No. But you can fall in love with your perception of them.
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tim
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Possible to lust, to desire, to imagine. Not to love. Love comes with knowledge
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Darren
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I think that many people confuse love and sexual attraction. IMHO you can only love someone that you have spent some time with. A person that has shared some of his/her personal details.
You know very little about this person nor do you even know for sure if he is attracted to you. He may just be looking for a friend (maybe he is lonely). I think you will find out in time. During that time, it is ok to think about him sexually, but I would caution you about becoming obsessed with him. You may even freak him out. In addition, you need to be realistic for yourself so you don't come down too hard if it does not turn into something.
Good luck lenny and be patient with him.
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Love comes with knowledge, truth and trust.
Get to know him. Let him know you. See if he
is all you hope he is.
smith*
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I am still trying to put my thoughts together on this issue. Yes, I do not know how realistic this thing is (it might turn out to be nothing), but at least it is good to have something to think about, even if that is all it'll ever be.
But then I HAVE to hope too. Not had any reason to even hope in like...all my life in fact. So for that reason alone I will do it now.
Not planning on freaking him out, hehe! 
And I don't think I'm obsessed either; I still function quite fine while out of his presence. I just like to think about him (and not just in a sexual context either mind you, I'd love to like go see a movie with him, the new Star Wars flick for example).
So I'm hoping, not expecting or demanding...
Thanks.
-Lenny
PS: smith, you're not forgetting about that report you promised, right?
"But he that hath the steerage of my course,
direct my sail."
-William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act One, Scene IV
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cossie
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... you've got a pretty formidable grasp of what matters in life!
Heartfelt Hugz!
L'Ecossais Pensif.
For a' that an' a' that,
It's comin' yet for a' that,
That man tae man, the worrld o'er
Shall brithers be, for a' that.
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trevor
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You're being fairly realistic and asking the right questions, it seems!
I'm not sure I've ever "been in love." I recently thought so, but realized that it was more in love with the concept of being in love - enjoying the obsession a bit too much. It was unhealthy and impractical, so I finally snapped out of it.
Good luck, Lenny. I truely wish you the best and hope you'll enjoy whatever the relationship offers. If ends up not fulfilling your every dream, still enjoy the new friend, savor the great sex, or rejoice in the romance and keep doing the right things!
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Michael Simon
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Registered: January 1970
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Wheer do we draw a line between admiration and love? You can fall for a person yoo see behaving in an environment without knowing him...but that is just my opinion
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HHHEEEELLLLPPPP!!!! 
Sounds like so far, so good . . . 
does it always have to be?? 
