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AdamAnt
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Toe is in the water |
Registered: January 1970
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I was on my way to see star wars tonight, and i stopped in a car park next to a large park area.
I was sitting there talking on the fone, when I noticed this young boy hanging around the toilets. He as stamding there for a while, then this middle aged man pulled up in his car, walked into the toilets and said something to the boy on his way in.
The Boy followed the man into the toilets, and they didnt come out again for a good 20 minutes.
I am guessing the boy was a prostitute...either way...it is sad knowing this boy is doing this. He looked around 11-12 years old.
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marc
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Needs to get a life! |
Registered: March 2003
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More than likely the boy was a bit older than that..... But nonetheless... It happens... Such is the real world...
Marc
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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tim
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Really getting into it |
Location: UK, West of London in Ber...
Registered: February 2002
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Dig deep and think hard, for you have that power. Not all can be helped, but some can. A life of STDs and HIV and AIDS is not what we bring children into the world for. A life of seemingly choosing to be abused is not a life that values itself. And yet it is not as simple as speaking to the boy. Or in some cases it is.
It has been known for a kind person simply to feed and cloth a street child and change a life, but that is unusual. Instead dig deeper and see what you can do form the inside.
The "you" is as personal to you or as general to all as you make it.
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I wonder if, after all the centuries of people exploiting others, and people allowing themselves to be exploited, anything can been changed. Maybe one soul can be brought out of the dark, but would it really make a difference to anyone except that one soul?
You can read many stories where somebody picked up a little one at a car park, rest stop, restaurant, hitchhiking, where ever, and turning their lives around. Well, I am going out on a limb here, but I think that nine times out of ten, the hopeful savior will end up hurt, either physically or emotionally. It makes for good reading, but is that really human nature?
Personally, I think if you want to help, get into an organization established for that purpose and at least meet the people who need help on a level playing field and not in their lair. In Adam's case, if the boy had wanted your help, he would not be seeking it in a car park.
All this is IMHO
Hugs, Charlie
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The most contuctive thing you can do is to be happy and proud of yourself. Others will see that strength and it will inspire them. The next boy may see in you, a better way to find happiness.
Also be happy you have compassion, it is a rare gift these days.
Hugs,
Kevin
"Be excellent to each other, and, party on dudes"!
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tim
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Really getting into it |
Location: UK, West of London in Ber...
Registered: February 2002
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But by real action, not by storybook fantasy action. That boy was there for reasons of his own. One of those reasons allowed him to strike a chord in Adam, and allowed him to strike a chord in people worldwide through here
Adam is well placed to cause a difference to be made. He has a unique position that can, should he choose, be used to influence attitudes to young men who, for many reasons, choose anonymous sex with strangers. Young men like Adam can make a difference to the world.
And not all boys and girls can be saved, but a few can be. And those few may go on to change the world for the better.
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I would like to comment on what you have posted here :
"Maybe one soul can be brought out of the dark, but would it really make a difference to anyone except that one soul?"
The Jews say that - Saving the life of one jew is like saving a whole world and all it contains.
Personaly I read it as - Saving the life of one PERSON is like saving a whole world and all it contains! and I try to live by this. Every one of us is special and unique and so it DOES make a difference to everyone and not just that one soul!!!
Think about it!
Love, Gil
Searching for the light at the end of the bed...
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Guest
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On fire! |
Registered: March 2012
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if you turn on as many lights as you can,
perhaps you will help someone. He probably
wouldn't have let you help him that night,
but if you look around, there may be someone
close to you that needs help too.
Heroes don't have to fight wars. They can
simply hold out their hands.
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cossie
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On fire! |
Location: Exiled in North East Engl...
Registered: July 2003
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You can't win 'em all, but you should always play to win. That kid might have been a cynical and hardened prostitute; on the other hand he might have worked his first trick half-an-hour ago. I don't often disagree with Charlie, but saving one soul can change the universe. It's always worth trying - it's always better to have tried, and failed, than to have failed to try.
Ad, follow your conscience. I know you think of yourself as a boy-lover, but you have a depth of perception that takes you beyond that kind of pigeon-hole. You're a good guy - don't be afraid to act on your instincts.
For a' that an' a' that,
It's comin' yet for a' that,
That man tae man, the worrld o'er
Shall brithers be, for a' that.
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In my original post in this thread I wondered if it would make a difference to anyone more than the individual. I also stated that people who wish to help should join an organization formed for the purpose of providing that help as the possibility of a successful and fulfilling outcome would be enhanced because the person needing help would be more receptive.
I am endevoring to follow my own advice by tutoring in schools and volunteering with child welfare agencies. I know the satisfaction I get from helping just one child to grow into a productive, mature adult. And I would hope that every adult who seeks to find that satisfaction succeeds, for it is a wonderful feeling.
But I stand by my opinion that approaching a child under other circumstances such as what Adam described is an iffy at best proposition, and more likely than not, result in, at a minimum, hurt feelings. IMHO
Hugs, Charlie
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AdamAnt
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Toe is in the water |
Registered: January 1970
Messages: 74
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I went back to the place I saw him, but he was nowhere to be seen. I think it is best that I stay away from it though.
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tim
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Really getting into it |
Location: UK, West of London in Ber...
Registered: February 2002
Messages: 842
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Both to go and look and to decide that an individual is hard to assist. But look at who you are and what you do and the position you have. That is what I mean by "Are in a unique position to help"
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I am writing a story that is being posted to Nifty. It is a story that is causing me some emotional distress. But it is a story of hope, where one person maybe can make a difference, at least in one life. David has been a great sounding board and editor, and I hope that he will continue. He is also a great friend. But I need some help. My problem is I want to make the story move in the right direction, towards hope and love, but I feel that as I write, I am getting dragged down to the level of the title character. I am recalling more of what happened when I was eleven, and feeling emotions that I never thought I would. I don't know what I want to say here, but I think I have to say something. It is starting to feel very overwhelming.
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On fire! |
Location: currently So Cal
Registered: May 2002
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Writing a story based on past exerience which is unpleasant can be quite draining. However, it can also be quite cathartic. I haven't written much fiction, but am currently trying to write a story where all of the major characters are based on various parts of my own personality. At times it has been quite an emotional struggle to force myself to continue. I've had to walk away from it on several occasions for as much as a month at a time. I seem to get way too caught up in the characters and the story loses it's sense of reality. However, when I do return, I've found that I have gained a better understanding of myself and how I became who I am. My characters seem to take on a life of their own and the story really isn't what I set out to write. In many ways it is a much better, more interesting story. Despite the difficulty and the pain I've experienced reliving my childhood, I think it has been very good for me to do this. I guess what I am trying to say is that when you feel overwhelmed, walk away and get your head together, then come back. Also don't force the story in any particular direction. Write what you feel. You might find that it not only says what you wanted to say in the first place, but it says a lot more as well.
Think good thoughts,
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Guest
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On fire! |
Registered: March 2012
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Charlie-
Your story has opened a door that you had
closed. What you thought was innocent at 11
has become much more than that as you look
back on it. But don't let it overwhelm you.
No matter what your memories are, they ARE
just memories. They can't hurt you if you
don't let them.
Bring your main character back up to innocence.
Remember, you may have not been able to control
what happened at 11, but you CAN control what
you write. Create the proper ending so that you
can dispense with the memories.
I'm not sure this makes sense, but I do know that
I can understand what you're saying. Talking
about this will help to make it go away. I promise.
smith
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tim
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Really getting into it |
Location: UK, West of London in Ber...
Registered: February 2002
Messages: 842
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Simply that. Let it pour out. Do NOT let them be prejudice by what others would think, but make them yours. If it was good, say so. If bad, say so. And allow the feleings to ease
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