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icon5.gif NNNOOOOO!!!!  [message #2697] Mon, 20 May 2002 15:58 Go to next message
lenny is currently offline  lenny

On fire!
Location: Far Away
Registered: March 2002
Messages: 1755




Fuck! I guess I should be depressed right now, but I don't think I am. Or maybe I am, and I just don't know it. Dammit, this is so difficult...

Yes, it's about Asian Dreamboy.


Met him today, spoke to him in the sauna. It was pleasant, he's even nicer than I expected (and he did seem very nice from the little I talked to him before).

What we talked about isn't really important, just some chit-chat initially. He then asks me if I've had sex with a lot of guys! No, I say truthfully. Not really. Anyone else at the gym?, he wants to know. No, just you I say with a silly grin. It feels good, really good. Like I could connect with him at any second.

I think we speak a bit more, and then I take a chance and ask him, but maybe you're the kinda guy that prefers to stay single? Right then, he drops the bombshell on me...



He's engaged to a girl!!! Been for years, no plans of changing that either!!


On the inside I'm like, OH NO!

Christ, I should have seen the sign, "max headroom: 175 cm", but I guess I missed it! SMACK! AGAIN! LOL! It's so typical. Alas, it was not meant to be...

Well anyway, if he's together with a girl and don't mind a bit of a wank on the side with a guy, maybe he wouldn't have been right for me anyway. If we'd been together, who knows if he'd fancied fooling around with someone else or not...

But DAMMIT, was that a hard blow or what. I'm still reeling from it. But at least he's open to being friends. And he did say I seem nice! Smile

And to top it all off, Charles the old faggot fart wrote me again this morning, accusing ME of not being able to handle criticism...! I was totally stunned. After all, I was way more polite to him than he really deserved and I told him so. Not that I expect him to listen to reason...

So as you all can see, I've had a really great day today, sigh! At least my workout is going well. I'm increasing up to 50 kilos on both the leg curl and chest press next time, and cardio training is also proceeding pretty well, amongst other things. (I was going to mention that I'm going up to eight kilos on the biceps curls too, but that's a bit embarrassing in comparison so I'll skip it. Oops! Now I told ya anyway, dammit! Smile)


-Lenny

PS: I still don't know his name...!



"But he that hath the steerage of my course,
direct my sail."

-William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act One, Scene IV
Re: NNNOOOOO!!!!  [message #2699 is a reply to message #2697] Mon, 20 May 2002 18:29 Go to previous messageGo to next message
trevor is currently offline  trevor

Really getting into it

Registered: November 2002
Messages: 732



Sorry, dude! It's good that you can likely still be friends - who knows, it might not work out with his girlfriend, although like you say you'd have to work on the faithfulness issue. I'm tempted to say it was JUST a hj and in a way more impersonal than a kiss, not very unfaithful, but still . . .

It does sound like you're taking it really well and keep on keepin on with the workout. God knows I could use some exercise. Everyone else too, for that matter.

Now for more important things - where is FS chapter 4? j/k of course.

Hope your week gets better!
Charles the od fart gets very cross  [message #2705 is a reply to message #2697] Tue, 21 May 2002 00:45 Go to previous messageGo to next message
tim is currently offline  tim

Really getting into it
Location: UK, West of London in Ber...
Registered: February 2002
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Especially if you call him a rude old fag and a footstamping queen. Go for the throat! And do send me his addy privately so I can make sure he is not on the distribution list
Re: NNNOOOOO!!!!  [message #2833 is a reply to message #2697] Tue, 28 May 2002 03:23 Go to previous messageGo to next message
kevin is currently offline  kevin

On fire!
Location: Somewhere
Registered: September 2002
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Sorry to hear that, just don't hurt yourself trying to have somthing you can't. I have found that sometimes you can be friends only if you truly accept that it cannot be. Just be yourself, but protect number one too.
Best wishes,
Kevin



"Be excellent to each other, and, party on dudes"!
Re: NNNOOOOO!!!!  [message #2913 is a reply to message #2697] Mon, 03 June 2002 12:12 Go to previous message
mt is currently offline  mt

Toe is in the water

Registered: November 2002
Messages: 93



I'm sorry but I'm a little confused; have you had sex with this guy? Because if you have then what’s this about him being engaged to a gir?
Anyway… I assume that he’s hetero, so stay away. Never be tempted with the “just be friends” bit! It will hurt you!
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