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AdamAnt
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Registered: January 1970
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I havn't made a post here in ages, so I thought I would just say Hi. Some of you may think that I dont come here anymore, but I check this board everynight, I just dont post.
Just want to ask you guys something.
Going back about 6 months, I joined a Boylove board and started talking to this 12 y.o. boy. I was new to the whole BL thing, and was a horny teenager, I was asking him all sorts of sexual orientated questions, like "Do you masturbate everyday". What i didnt know is that this boy had been abused by his father up until he was 7, and that sexuality etc etc was a touchy subject with him.
He went offline, and I never heard from him again. He has been posting in the forum, but he has been avoiding me I know. He replied to a post I made today tellign everyone that basically that I am not nice to talk to, and that I dont know what I am talking about".
It gives me the shits, because I am totally different person to who I was 6 months ago, and I was VERY CLOSE to writing an essay on how much he gives me the shits with his act of being superior.
Sorry to dump all thi crap on you, but I had to see what other people think.
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tim
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Location: UK, West of London in Ber...
Registered: February 2002
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One cannot assume that a person is at a chat room or a board for the same reasons as any other person. And you have obviously discovered that questions of a deeply perosonal nature are ok for some and scare the crap out of others.
He's not being superior. He simply is scared. And probably now any overtures you make to him will scare him the more. Yet you also feel cheated.
A simple note. "Fred, I was very wrong and I scared you. I had no idea what I was doing. You have no need to forgive me, nor to talk to me. I just wanted you to know I was wrong and to apologise to you." And if necessary post it publicly.
Use your words and think before you post anything like it.
I worry, you know, about this term "BL" or "boylove", but that is a separate issue. Simply be aware that internet traffic, including this post, that refers to the term is closely monitored. I do feel it is an unwise direction for anyone's life.
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trevor
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Registered: November 2002
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And good to see you here again, Adam. It is difficult, but not impossible, I think. You will get a wide variety of opinions, I'm sure, since we are all different and have different perspectives. Please do be aware that some people here have been abused, and are easily hurt, and consider their reaction in light of this being a place of safety. You may not have been around when Tim changed the message board header, so you might reread it and think deeply if you haven't already.
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AdamAnt
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Toe is in the water |
Registered: January 1970
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SORRY.....but I am no child abuser....I just want to talk to others.
I wont bring this word "B** L***" again ok =)
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tim
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Location: UK, West of London in Ber...
Registered: February 2002
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I am cautioning care, really. The words attract unwanted connotations and attention.
Adoring a child is fine and valid. Touching one in any way that is improper for the child is not. That is all.
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Adam, I chatted to you for a while, you then decided to not come on and chat anymore and it felt like you were ignoring ME?
I didnt judge you as being a bad person, I just have issues with the fact that you seem to have made a concrete choice regarding your sexuality. I cant live with people saying they LOVE when it is much more than that.
I am not here to psychoanalyze you mate, nor to tell you that you are not a "good" person. I just dont want you to suffer pain and agony over this. As Tim said to me before, nothing is written in stone, least of all SEXUAL orientation. having love for another Male of a consenting age is ok but, that doesnt amke you a Particaular type. This world is too full of LABELS and some people seem happy to be compartmentalized, I dont.
Be like me Adam and try to enjoy who you are without having to call yaself a "gay" or "bL"??? Find out who ADAM is first before you try to rationalize sexual attraction. 
People have a habit of changing your direction through life
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I think there's a risk of Adam feeling kind of stomped on and hurt by this thread.
Remember that it's supposed to be a place of Safety for all! And that we're supposed to not judge, and also supposed to see things from the other person's point of view. OK?
Didn't want to sound all preachy and parental, there...one of the occupational hazards of being a Geezer, i guess.
"Always forgive your enemies...nothing annoys them quite so much." Oscar Wilde
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People have a habit of changing your direction through life
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Charlie Smith
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Registered: January 1970
Messages: 46
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Hey Adam. Like the famous saying, look but don't touch m8.
Charlie.
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Hey !!! 
Adam, I e-mailed you. Tim, thanks for saying what I couldn't say well 
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