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Registered: January 1970
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I was reading an article in the paper about teenagers
and manners today;how we have none and it's such a
shame. It went on and on about lack of manners and
the rudeness of kids, especially in public. Bunched
us all together like goats.
I'm from the south and have been taught to say "Yes,
Ma'am and "Yes,Sir; to stand when an adult comes in
the room; take off my cap in front of a lady, the
flag or inside a building; opening doors, etc....
I understand that it's totally a home thing, but
it's so sad. I actually terrified an old lady one
day at the mall by trying to hold the door and
catch a package as it was falling out of her arms.
She thought I was trying to rob her!
I had a teacher tell me not say "Ma'am" to her cause
it was degrading. Never quite understood that one.
Are manners becoming a thing of the past? Just
wondering..............
smith
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mihangel
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Registered: July 2002
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And not only among the young. OK, one doesn't mind one's own kids treating one in the most egalitarian way. One welcomes it, as a sign of familiarity, even of love. But other people ...
Not all that long ago I opened a door, as one does, for a female colleague. An arch-feminist. And as she sailed through she snapped at me "Chauvinist!" Bloody hell. Corrupted manners if you like, but next time I'll let the door slam in her face.
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Michael Simon
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Registered: January 1970
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I think manners are a factor that differenciates in the future. Maybe it is bacuse of me living in old fashioned Central Europe but here manners are higly valued. PPl say that the younger generation is even more polite than teh one before that.
And as for manners..at my daughters kindergarten, the teacher is very hard on manners. Childern have to givethe hand when entering, elbows do not hae to touch teh table while eating, they have to sit straight and so on. So I thin manners are en vogue, maybe we just ahve different ones than our grandparents. And saying Ma'am and Sir is a normal thing to do, which I do as well all the time in the USA  So stick to ya manners, they are worth it!
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Guest
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Registered: March 2012
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smith,
being a young man in the south you are being brought up in a part of the country that still does have a certian level of consideration for manners. up north for example in New York city manners are like a Trex, long dead and forgotten.
i spent 6 years in the USMC and during that time i was mostly stationed in the south, ma'am and sir are expected not only on base but in the public also. i have found that the smaller the town or community the more polite the floks, just my observation. but as you get into bigger towns and citys it seems that manners and common curtisy is dead and gone. look at road rage, is that not just a lack of common curtisy?
of well enough said
later
tim
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marc
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As the others said, manners tend to be a thing of the home, as in the referance of community size where in small towns most everyone knows everyone else, manners tend to be used with finesse. But, in cities where most of the people you meet are strangers maners are viewed as an encroachment on ones safe zone. Of course there are exceptions in all rules.
Where I work for my summer job (cedar point) it is company policy to recruit in the southern states because the kids there have much better manners. When I asked about this I was informed (as I expected) that in the hospitality industry, manners are expected as the rule more then the exception.
Just how I see things....
Marc
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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Michael Simon
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Registered: January 1970
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'n they make life easier
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tim
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Location: UK, West of London in Ber...
Registered: February 2002
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I have just had the chnace to watch the manners of the Germans, the Italians, the Spanish, the Belgians, the Brits and the Irish on vacation, plus a few other nations.
Adults are well mannered in the main. The parent sof small children seem to allow them to run riot, with a few exceptions. All of the racial/national groups were the same.
A very few adults and a very few children were well mannered.
I regret BRITS on vacation suck bigtime. We are probably the worst
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Michael Simon
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Registered: January 1970
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Recent studies say that Brits are the least favoured tourists. ( Just read it in a Journal) but kids ( at least lil ones ) can be cheeky, have the right to be cheeky even  ) ( speaks the father of a 4 yr old)
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not always understood. If one was not taught good manners, then they are hard to recognize. But being polite and friendly is also contagious. A lot of the kids coming into the workplace now were not taught manners, but after a few months of hearing please and thank you, they start using them, simply because it feels better.
I think the trend away from good manners started in the sixties with the immergence of the "me" generation. Now the full effects of the "me first" attitude are being felt all over the world. But there are still enough fogeys (like me) around who open doors for not only women but other men also, say please and thank you, say yes sir and yes ma'am. Usually if it is someone I just met, or has not been around in a while, I get a look of surprise and then a smile. Makes my day.
Hugs, Charlie
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Guest
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Registered: March 2012
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Mate, one of the things that has been shown me about manners, Adults EXPECT, no, DEMAND good manners from Children but continue to display shocking manners to all, including children.
It seems that the Old do as I say and not as I do is still running rampant. Most people forget, you want respect, first you have to earn it. The way to do that is to show it first.
Adult rave from Ashley
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Michael Simon
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Registered: January 1970
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Ashi, that is frustrating, you just held a mirror into my face. Even though you have manners you demand more than you do yaself atthe table for example *blushes* I guess I have to be a better example and not stand up while eating and tell L. to stay put.
*grins* ohh well always the same ole story: Kleiner Bruder zeigt Grossem wie man sich benehmen muss 
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mt
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Registered: November 2002
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Manners won’t die out. Maybe you see less of them in some places because the people there think they are giving something valuable away by being nice.
It’s how you behave that others form their ideas about you by. Even if they don’t show it, good manners affect them inside, and in time they will like you without consciously being aware of it.
I think that whether a certain human behaviour is dead or not requires a bigger sample and a more systematic study than what some people observed.
MT
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