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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13796
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We have two people, not one, who feel out of place here, and another who says he is out of place and is actually hugely generous. None of you, none of US is out of place.
The only person who IS out of place wrote to me today as follows: "This site is obviously against the law internationally. The UK, US, and the UN all need to investigate the activities of whomever runs this ill, unacceptable, cruel site. The youth photographed are obviously under legal age for such glamorizing of their sexuality. In other words, YOU ARE EXPLOITING CHILDREN -- AND IT'S A CRIME. Moreover, it is my hope that this site will be terminated." Signed Tpcollege02@aol.com. I am not asking that you write to him, nor that you refrain. If you email flames@iomfats.org you wil see what he received automatically in return anyway.
Tim in the USA feels the need to leave. Kevin has very quietlyt slipped in a not to say "me too". Warren acts with great generosity.
Now look, all of you have the right to feelings. This is a place to feel at home in and to wander in and out whenever it suits you. Comings and goings are comings and goings.
And yes, search engines pick this board up like they pick all messagebaords up. I chose not to inhibit that for one vital reason: Someone who needs to be here may find it that way. We may be as anonymous as we choose here, that has never been an issue.
If you realise later that you have released information that you would prefer to have been private I am able to delete threads. I was unwise with one of my own and deleted it.
To those who object when I say that this is primarily not a political place, please think a little. It is a messageboard on the site of a man who is gay and married with a child. A man who questioned his sexuality all the time and who grew up afraid. Its logical primary purpose is to reach out to and help other people in related situations. By this I mean the kids of the world and the adults those kids have become who have resolved or failed to resolve their sexual issues.
Sure, some of that is political oppression. I never doubted it. I just feel that, political excursions aside, this place must never turn into a general place where we discuss politics, disasters, terrorism. Excet that it does affect us. It does make us emotional. That emotional hurt is relevant to us all, here.
But think a moment.
If someone posted here from Al Quaeda (spelling?) and said "I am terrified. I am gay and caught up in this mega terrorist organisation", what would your first reaction be? To condemn Al Quaeda, or to help the person?
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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I agree Dad and I would like to think I could and Would help someone like that. I think it must be the time of the year that is making people feel low or, the fact that so many bad things are occuring in the world and that can make people sad too.
If any of you are thinking of leaving, simple answer is, DONT 
People have a habit of changing your direction through life
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Well in truth I sometimes feel out of place as well, but that is not the point.
I know of no other place on the web where there is such a wonderful spirit of community, mutual support and inspirational thought.
I did not announce my arrival, nor do I ever intend to say goodbye. For me it is, as timmy suggests, a place to wander in and out. Recently I have been reading the messages nearly every day, because I know that I will find something which uplifts me, something which gives me food for thought or something which makes me laugh. And just occasionally I will post if I think I have something useful to say.
Long may it continue.
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the scholar
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Toe is in the water |
Location: England
Registered: August 2002
Messages: 59
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I never know what I am going to find when I browse through the messagboard. That's what makes my visits so worthwhile. I would like to think that I would be there for anyone who needed me to be, as so many were for me not so long ago. I do sometimes feel out of place myself, I'm not the brightest candle in the box and I do sometimes feel some of the threads are way above my understanding, but I do care about everyone who visits and posts and my heart reaches out to everyone who needs a friend. I am often late in responding to messages from new visitors by way of a welcome or messages from those in need and even then, the messages that have been sent before I arrive have quite often said what i want to say in a much better way. I can always be reached at my IOMFATS email address Scholar@iomfats.org should anyone wish to speak to me.
TS
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