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the scholar
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Location: England
Registered: August 2002
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I sincerely hope that "j" reads this message from the "Silly OZ guy" - to have a frined like would brighten the dullest of days - he should be proud to call you "friend".
TS
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That was a kind and thoughtful post.
How many great friendships are missed because every day we walk past instead of saying hello? Perhaps we are afraid of embarrassment, looking "silly", being misinterpreted or being rejected. Perhaps we only see a facade and wrongly assume the other person doesn't want to know.
Being friendly is difficult. It must be. If it wasn't difficult then everyone would be friendly to everyone else all the time! And I admit that I am not always very good at being friendly myself. I do try, but often the moment passes before I can think of the right thing to say. Some of the people I most admire in life are those who CAN find the right thing to say at the right time. That is a wonderful gift.
How can we be better at being friendly? That's a big topic which perhaps deserves a whole new thread to itself.
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tim...of usa
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Location: buffalo, new york...USA
Registered: July 2002
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hey ash...that could have read New York can be lonely.
its funn as i read your post i was feeling like you were spying on my life. i am a very very lonely person....i try but i never seem to fidn the right thing to say or the right thing to do to be a friend. dont get me wrong i chat and talk and email a lot of people but i still feel alone, i am good with other peoples problems but if there is no problem then i am at a loss as to what to say or do or how to act. call me old and silly but i some times feel that the only reason that i am alive is to be here to help others be happy.
the only thing that i know for sure is that my dog likes me unconditonally...other than that i dont fell loved at all. now some of the guys that i call friends are going to readt that and be like "tim i love you and care" i know that others do but i dont feel it, if that makes any sense.
sigh....lonley here too
peace
tim...of USA
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Registered: March 2012
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Dear "J", I don't mean to get into your private life, but if you are lonely, I am here, here for you, anything you want to talk about it, whatever, I will listen, and if we live in the same city I would be honored to meet you. Please, feel free to write to me, I will be your shoulder, don't be shy, I would love to hear from you and be your friend.
Sincerely
Ruggero.
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In the town where I grew up from age twelve to almost twenty-one, it was not really socially acceptable to be the first one to say hello when two people met in the street. It was a totally stupid pride thing.
Of course it often lead to people passing each other with barely the briefest of nods acknowledging their supposed friendship. And everybody did this, young as well as old. I suppose it got to me, I'm a bit hesitant these days to reach out I suppose.
After we met at timmy's party and you agreed to follow me back on the train just to make me find my way to the station safely, we had a really nice chat on that train. We hadn't spoken much during the party itself, and even less before, here on the board. But on the train you made me feel comfortable. You were kind to me, you reached out to me. It felt nice.
So don't say you're not good at being friendly, because you are. We did not know each other very well, but only a day later we met again and you took me out for a nice dinner and a walk in the evening when the plans I'd made hadn't panned out and I was feeling a little miserable.
Isn't that being friendly then I don't know what is.
And Ashley, you are also a great friend. You're far, far away from me, yet your words brings you so close it feels like you're sitting right next to me (and the Kangaroo Mafia standing just behind you!  )... You are far away, but that does not stop you from caring, and that matters. It really does. I hope you'll find someone who can appreciate the care you show, someone who can make you stop crying and ALWAYS make you see yourself as the wonderful, lovely person you are.
And "j"... If you ever find yourself in need of a good friend (and the unspoken meaning by that is that when are we all NOT in need of one? ), you could do far worse by letting either approach you!
-Lenny
"But he that hath the steerage of my course,
direct my sail."
-William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act One, Scene IV
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Michael Simon
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Toe is in the water |
Registered: January 1970
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...it is a hard thing to define friendship an dto accept it when you then re-find it. When you have been treated badly or hurt, the barrier to become a friend to someone is high. When you have been hurt you try not to be hurt again. Thi sis a very human way of seeing things.
Dear J in Florida, whoever you are, binding friendships can be scary. But loneliness...trust me I know this well nuf...hurts more. Having people one can trust solves miracles of hurt, and gives the soul a caring caress. Friends, even if the do not always act as we expect them to act ( thanx for that lesson Ashi) will be a safe harbour, so go for it. And I can say one thing *grins* Ashley is a good friend so dare him to be yours . Plus if you ever need someone, dun hesitate to use the ppl here cause there are special ones here!
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Then this is also meant for you Ruggero. It isnt just for "j" it is for all those that hurt for whatever reason. Making friends IS hard to do, I know, I have been trying hard this week and maybe it will pay off. I just keep trying.
To "j" I wish you lots of good things and I send ya a lot of Aussie Love and Hugs.
People have a habit of changing your direction through life
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Some of us extend hands of friendship only to have them ignored. Lets try not to do that to "j" if he posts.
Kevin
"Be excellent to each other, and, party on dudes"!
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Michael Simon
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Toe is in the water |
Registered: January 1970
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smith
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Registered: January 1970
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If "j" posts ?? He posts way too much, Kevvy.
Ashley~
I want to thank you for offering your hand. I accept and take hold gladly. I find it difficult to trust.....is my problem.
{{{HUGS}}}
smith
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Every day gets better smith and the Pace only falters. Life is a leviathon that stops for no one. If we wish to travel the road of life we do what you and others do, we look at Who we are and where we are then we get BACK on the Leviathon and start the journey ALL over again. What a GRAND Journey it is too.
People have a habit of changing your direction through life
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No Message Body
"Be excellent to each other, and, party on dudes"!
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Its ok Kevin. Just a friend thing about a lack of understanding on many parts. Just takes time for some of us to get round to offering that hand and taking it in friendship. :)I am glad ya is concerned too my friend.
People have a habit of changing your direction through life
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