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Hi ...A good friend of mind ... read this at my board and thought I should post it on here ... He told me that it might help some of the younger readers here .. I hope it does ..
But still remember ...you must be careful and take care of yourself .. There is always someone around that will help you ..
Bullying is a serious problem and it is common in some schools. It can have a lasting and devastating effect on both the victim and the bully. If you or someone you know is being bullied , it's important to tell someone.Bullying has no place in a safe school. You can help by talking about bullying to a trusted adult or a friend if it is happening around you.
Typically, bullying is repeated, cruel behaviour where the bully exercises some kind of power over the victim. Physical bullying includes hitting, kicking or punching or destruction of personal property. It is the most basic type of bullying and can be very dangerous. Verbal bullying is when the bully uses words to harm or intimidate the victim. Name calling, insults, racist or sexist remarks, threats and constant teasing are all common types of bullying.
This can be the easiest to inflect and,although not visible on the surface, it can leave terrible emotional scars.
Bullies act the way they do for a number of reasons , sometimes to make themselves feel tough or in charge, or to make themselves feel popular. They might be jealous of the person they are bullying. In many cases, the bully has been bullied himself. Sometimes young people are bullied because they are different in some way. The colour of their skin, their name, their size,or the way they walk can make them targets.
If you are being bullied, remember that you don't have to put up with it. You can seek help. Talking to someone doesn't mean you've being a " rat " or a " snitch ". Bullying is unacceptable, and it must be stopped. Find someone you can trust, and talk to them. If you find it difficult to talk, write it down and give it to them.
You can also try to ignore the bully, or use humour to defuse the situation. Avoid fear and anger, the bully thrives on these emotions. Remember that bullies generally have low self-esteem problems and tend to bother everyone.Understand that you are not the problem, the bully is.It's also important to stop bulling whenever you witness it. Support the person being bullied and never give a bully positive reinforcement.
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That is great that you post that Rick. I hope people will take note and dont feel they have to LIVE with it. There are SO many people they can turn to 
People have a habit of changing your direction through life
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Registered: January 1970
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Bullies are pathetic losers who feed on your pain to feel important. I've heard kids teased about everything from their clothes, to how bright they are, to the simple fact that they exist.
Please....if you are being bullied, tell someone. I know it's frightening, but they have NO right to mess with you. You deserve to be happy but they DO NOT if it's at your expense.
Tell a teacher, your parents, your brother or sister, an older friend. Ask for help.
School bites as it is, just with homework and zits and the usual crap. Don't let someone make it worse.
smith
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But this message needs to get to that guy in the hallway who passes by and sees someone pushing someone else around. All of us should keep in mind not to allow this kind of behavior.
If you see a murder, aren't you obliged to report it? No difference in my book. If all of us say in a loud voice "NO, WE WILL NOT LET THIS HAPPEN" and that means all of us, we can make a difference.
Let's not be apathetic, tell someone if you can't step in yourself. Be that drop of water.
Thanks for listening.
Kevin
"Be excellent to each other, and, party on dudes"!
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timmy
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I was bullied at school. From the age of 5 I was picked on and hurt for fun by people. I even liked one of the bys who used to bully me, and tried to be his friend. And he STILL bullied me.
As I grew older I became a bully. I'm not proud of it. I bullied with words and with power, since I wasn't physically large.
Older still I was bullying with words and the victim snapped. The worm turned and beat the crap out of me. OK, I beat him back. We both lost.
I never bullied anyone again. After a while I became passionate about dealing with bullying. When my son was in school I had to deal with a teacher who was using her position to bully him. Regrettably the headmaster condoned her actions, but no-one could remove the very careful tongue lashing I gave her, nor the tears I reduced her to. And she never bullied my son again.
Not sure that this post helps anyone who is being bullied. But it does show how we change.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Well I thought more would post to this ...but maybe most of you don't think its important enough too .. just wondering why ?? that all ..
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timmy
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hard to know. But loads of posts saying "I agree" wil not help. What will help is attitude changes. Apart from being comforting here we are all preaching to the choir, I think
I odnt; mean this in a derogatory way. It is a good preach and a good choir
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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All the words in the world doesnt help when youre the one getting the shit kicked out of you! When I tried to tell someone at school they got me after school! All I can hope for is when I go somewhere to not be noticed!
This is all crap!
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Darren
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Hi Drew,
This is my second attempt at this. My previous post seamed to have vaporized. Anyway, what you are going through is really demoralizing. We all have been bullied, but you are getting it real bad. If it is too much for you, you may need to think about switching schools (which means telling your parents everything).
If that does not work, then you may need to enroll in the Mike Tyson school of boxing, where you could learn to bite their ear's off:)
Just a thought,
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Being invisible is not the answer!
You run once from a problem, you run twice but then you can't stop. it becomes a way of life, it's your way of NOT dealing with the problem...
I know, I have been there... and you know what, it doesn't blow over, it doesn't go off on it's own it just gets worse!
Something will have to change eventually. Why don't you be the one to choose what that is?!?
Hugs,
Gil
Searching for the light at the end of the bed...
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I am sorry if this got you hurt ..I didn't mean for that to happen .. I just thought it would help you to think about this .. I know all the words in the world won't help ..I am sorry ..I went through this too and I know first hand what its like ..
All I can say is I am sorry ..
Maybe I shouldn't have posted this on here ..
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You didnt get me hurt the other kids in my school did.
You dont have any thing to be sorry for.
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I think it's good you posted, this needs to be talked about. Being able to tell someone even if it's just on this MB could prove to be helpfull, even if it feels like crap now. I've been there too, I was bullied with words and they hurt, killed my feeling of self worth. It would have been really helpfull if I had known I wasn't the only one and most of all that it wasn't even really about me. Words do help.
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trevor
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Thanks for bringing this up, Rick. I don't think any one answer will fit all circumstances and everyone has to find their own answers, so don't be sorry. I don't reply if I don't have anything "signicant" to say, if I don't have time, or if I haven't been here often enough to keep up with most of the threads, for example.
Drew - can you identify others being bullied by the same individual and join forces long enough to confront and possibly intimidate him (with no violence actually necessary?) If he has a "gang" or it's random acts from random people that might not help, but I thought I'd throw it out.
I had a couple relevant situations, so I'll also toss those out for what they're worth.
In Jr High, one guy kept punching me in the arm as well as several classmates. Started out as semi-friendly not too painful but seemed to worsen. I watched a classmate go to the administration with no results and finally just got pissed off and walked up behind the guy and gave him a choke hold until he was crying and couldn't breath. I DON'T recommend this - it wasn't a "fair fight" and I was very lucky I wasn't caught, but he was also significantly larger than his "victims." But it seemed to get his attention and we had no more problems.
In High School there was a smaller guy who was just vicious and enjoyed hurting people during the stupid "hit him with a ball" and "drag him over the line" games they play in PE. (I certainly hope they don't do that anymore.) So I finally got in his face and just intimidated him by yelling.
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