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Safe Sex  [message #6688] Tue, 17 December 2002 13:30 Go to next message
timmy

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Every so often something strikes home. The other day a friend told me of their first penetrative sexual act. "We forgot to use a condom at first" I was told.

I was more than surprised. I have always spoken to them of the need for a condom, especially since the partner was of unknown sexual history. The additional complication is that there was a potential for impregmation from the act, despite it not leading initially to orgasm.

I wanted to remind us all: Precum can contain spermatazoa, in sufficient quantities to impregmate. (impregnate a GIRL< dummy!). All bodily fluids have the capability to pass infective agents if the person is themselves infected (or a carrier! Remember Typhoid Mary?).

It struck me, yet again, that condoms are the last thing on our minds when we engage in a sexual act with a partner of unknown history.

Why?

I think I will contruct a survey, soon, for the front page.



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Re: Safe Sex is a thing of the past...always use a condom.....  [message #6689 is a reply to message #6688] Tue, 17 December 2002 13:33 Go to previous messageGo to next message
marc is currently offline  marc

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Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
Re: Safe Sex is a thing of the past...always use a condom.....  [message #6691 is a reply to message #6689] Tue, 17 December 2002 13:46 Go to previous messageGo to next message
david in hong kong is currently offline  david in hong kong

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Sooo many real things to be afraid about.

One person I talked to a while ago went to be tested for STD's, afraid that he had contracted HIV. He reported to me that, "Thank God it's only herpes!". I thought that was very sad, since herpes is a chronic condition, altho not fatal. He didn't stop his risky behaviour, and thus was risking infecting himself with other diseases, and risking infecting others with his herpes. Awful.

Then I was talking the other day to a man who contracted genital warts from a "casual encounter". He was wearing a condom, but the wart appeared further down the shaft than the condom covered.

And now the poor guy has infected his partner.

And the truth usually comes out...

Word of warning to the wize...



"Always forgive your enemies...nothing annoys them quite so much." Oscar Wilde
icon5.gif Let's see what people think. Poll within.  [message #6692 is a reply to message #6688] Tue, 17 December 2002 13:46 Go to previous message
timmy

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Safe Sex

Who takes responsibility for safe sex?


I do. I always have condoms with me.

I do not have sex (yet) So this is not relevant to me

I do not carry condoms as a matter of course, but I buy them when I plan a sexual encounter

I leave it to my partner

I don't care. I take the risk of infection

I am in a monogamous relationship with my partner. We do not require them



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