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What to do  [message #7032] Tue, 07 January 2003 00:48 Go to next message
timmy

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If you see something is wrong somewhere, and you have a hope of influencing it even though you risk a friendship, what do you do?

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Re: What to do  [message #7033 is a reply to message #7032] Tue, 07 January 2003 01:09 Go to previous messageGo to next message
stephen is currently offline  stephen

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For what it's worth, I would suggest that it would depend on what it is you have seen that is wrong, how much of hope you have of influencing it and whether or not that friendship is worth risking.

Not much help, I know. Sorry.

Stephen
Hard to give a blanket answer  [message #7034 is a reply to message #7032] Tue, 07 January 2003 02:11 Go to previous messageGo to next message
e is currently offline  e

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But I suppose that it would depend upon whether I place more value on righting the wrong than I do on the friendship.

Think good thoughts,
e
Re: What to do  [message #7035 is a reply to message #7032] Tue, 07 January 2003 02:43 Go to previous messageGo to next message
brian! is currently offline  brian!

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Timmy, from me to you, I would expect you to say something as a friend. If this is a strong friendship, then it will last through the tough times.

That's my 2 cents worth.

Brian


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Re: What to do  [message #7036 is a reply to message #7032] Tue, 07 January 2003 02:45 Go to previous message
tim...of usa is currently offline  tim...of usa

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ok i have not read the other replys yet so this may be redundant....

lets see, how close are you to this friend? and how strong is that friendship? and how wrong is this wrong...moral, ethical or leagally wrong? is the wrong that you see causeing another any pain or does it have the potencial to do some serouis damage to an other?

i have a few friends that i love unconditionally and if i see some thing that is not right i will call them on it and deal with the fall out as it comes...yes i have lost a few friends that way but if i helped them to grwo as a person in the process then i feel that it was worth it in the long run.


ok i'll shut up now...

peace
tim...of USA
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