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As I stated before, I am new to this. Can someone please explain to me the differences in love?
Maybe a little background would help. I am a 51 yo male that spent many years attempting to determine how I could have two great loves in my life, one a male and the other a female. The first was a boy, many years ago. As it turns out (with more than a little help from Tim) I have discovered this love still exists between us. The second didn't turn out so well, she has chosen to love someone else, but that has not changed my heart. Also, I have three of the most beautiful and wonderful kids in the world (a little prejudiced maybe?) with her.
I was just starting to come to terms with the above and open my mind to my heart by reading and contemplating every story I could find about different types of love when the discussions started about "The Story of Tim". This has confused me to no end. Am I now to understand that love is bad? I always thought (even during the great confusion years) that you cannot control who you fall in love with, just how you act upon it.
Am I a bad person because whenever I meet a child or talk to a boy I have never seen before, I feel warm inside? Am I a pervert for wanting to protect that child and tell that child that I love him? Is it that harmful to feel good about a boy's grin? I love all children, but yes, boys somehow make me happy inside. Is that wrong?
Next confusion. What is sex? Is it a warm feeling, a kiss, a touch, fucking? When I, or Tim, or all the others I have seen, say Hugs to someone, is that a form of sex? When someone gives me a hug I feel warm and happy inside. I have said before that an unexpected hug is the greatest feeling I know. To those of you with your mind in the gutter, yes, even better than an orgasm because it can come from anywhere, from anyone, is legal everywhere as far as I know, and conveys a message of caring. So, is sex only a physical act, or more than that? Where does pain fall in this? Is pain harmful or just another of your body's sensations?
Tim has asked the question before, even had a survey. At what age difference is love and sex wrong? At what age should love and sex begin? With three kids I can tell you that from the moment of birth all the physical attributes are present. Was whatever Supreme Being you believe in wrong when he/she/it/they made us physically capable at any age?
I know that the answers to these questions have been debated over the centuries, and that opinions have run the gamut. But your opinions are important to me now. If you do not wish to respond on this forum, feel free to email me, but (and I hope Tim will agree) your thoughts and opinions matter to everyone. And if just one other person is caused to consider what is said and it makes a difference or changes a tragic outcome to a happy one, then I will feel a hug.
Hugs to all, Charlie
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Educate me please
By: charlie on Sun, 13 January 2002 16:42 |
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A shot at an answer......
By: marc on Sun, 13 January 2002 17:33 |
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Re: A shot at an answer......
By: charlie on Sun, 13 January 2002 18:00 |
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I tried to answer and failed
By: tim on Sun, 13 January 2002 18:05 |
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Re: Educate me please
By: charlie on Sun, 13 January 2002 18:58 |
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you know...
By: brian on Sun, 13 January 2002 19:05 |
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Re: you know...
By: charlie on Sun, 13 January 2002 20:08 |
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well...
By: brian on Sun, 13 January 2002 20:21 |
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Well..... some food for thought.....
By: marc on Sun, 13 January 2002 20:32 |
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Re: Well..... some food for thought.....
By: charlie on Sun, 13 January 2002 22:53 |
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Precisely....... :-)
By: marc on Mon, 14 January 2002 01:18 |
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It's the same old song ....
By: cossie on Mon, 14 January 2002 03:43 |
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Re: It's the same old song ....
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Re: It's the same old song ....
By: charlie on Tue, 15 January 2002 02:13 |
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