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Hello everyone!

I just wanted to introduce myself. My name is Darren and I live in Ontario, Canada. Tim helped me immensely over the last week, or so, as I “came out” to my wife. It was something that before two weeks ago I never considered doing until I came across Tim’s site. The Chris and Nigel story along with his bio gave me the strength and idea to do so. So far, one of the best decisions I have ever made.

My wife took it well. Of course she was extremely shocked the first day. She did not even believe me at first. After disbelieve waned, she was extremely worried that I would leave her for some young gay lover. However, our love is too strong for that and I am not that type of guy (at least I don’t think so anyway). However, after many long talks and crying sessions, it started to be come “normal”, and it became apparent that we were inseparable. She started to get used to the idea too. Now, after 1½ weeks, she is comfortable calling me “gay”. My wife is very open; has a brother that is gay; and helped a good friend of mine come out of the closet. I think that is what made it go so well.

Tim invited me onto this message board and I thought I would start with a question about definitions. I know that many of you dislike “labels”, and for us talking with each other they are not necessary. However, when it comes to many str8 people, labels help in defining what we are—makes the whole process of opening up much easier.

Thus, my question is about myself. I have strong feelings for other men. This is what I think about when I jerk off. However, I am also physically attracted to my wife, and the sex is very good. In addition, there have been a few other women that have turned me on. One chick that was staying at our house once just drove me up the wall. Regardless, it is guys that do it for me most. The question is: am I “gay” or am I “bisexual”?

Please don’t answer “who F___ing cares”, as that is my answer and it is taken. This is a question my wife really wanted to know as well.

Thanks,

Darren
 
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