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I have been discussing this with a friend of mine for quite some time...
Open relationships
Personally I don't believe in it, if you truly love your bf/gf why do you need to go out and have sex with someone else?!?
But I do love a good debate and so I'll bring here her point of view to the best of my understanding.
Her point of view: When you fall in love with someone it usually has some element of lust in it, sometimes more sometimes less. But it is not the most important thing. The thing that lasts, what remains after years and years is the companionship not the sex. Let's say that you go out and find someone and you get along perfectly but later on you discover that you are not compatible in bed. Will you now throw away the whole relationship over this detail or will you stay with him/her but go out and have sex with other individuals. Mind you that both parties (in the relationship) know of the arrangement and agree to it.
My POV: I believe that when you love someone and enter a relationship with him/her it means something. You are not just bf/gf you are part of something special that only you two share. A connection that goes beyond plain friendship. Love takes work and I view this opeen relationship as taking the easy way out of a difficult relationship. If you are not compatible in bed try and understand each other and sometimes you might have to do things you don't enjoy as much, but your partner does. Isn't that just as important. Personally I think love conquers and overcomes all.
I'd love to hear your thoughts and ideas about our two opinions here, maybe you have a totally new POV. Please share 
Gil
Searching for the light at the end of the bed...
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A new discussion
By: gil on Tue, 05 November 2002 15:19
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I shouldn't answer this I know, but..........
By: smith on Wed, 06 November 2002 01:04
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Say Hello to Mr. Rose-colored!
By: lenny on Wed, 06 November 2002 13:01
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I wish we had a Japanese person here
By: timmy on Wed, 06 November 2002 21:37
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Re: I wish we had a Japanese person here
By: Guest on Thu, 07 November 2002 10:51
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Cultural Differences
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Whoah!
By: lenny on Thu, 07 November 2002 14:13
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Re: Whoah!
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Yup, rose colored glasses here...
By: setras on Wed, 06 November 2002 14:25
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Re: Yup, rose colored glasses here...
By: kevin on Wed, 06 November 2002 18:21
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Not exactly what I meant...
By: setras on Wed, 06 November 2002 18:48
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Sorry Setras .......
By: kevin on Wed, 06 November 2002 21:10
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OK I'm biting....
By: Darren on Wed, 06 November 2002 01:40
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Ahem! Er... Er.. Ahem! Here goes...
By: Steve on Wed, 06 November 2002 03:02
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Oops! I forgot to answer Gil's main question:
By: Steve on Wed, 06 November 2002 06:11
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Here is a new twist...
By: gil on Wed, 06 November 2002 15:36
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How could you say something like that?
By: lenny on Wed, 06 November 2002 15:45
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Hmmm........
By: ien on Wed, 06 November 2002 06:33
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Re: A new discussion
By: mt on Wed, 06 November 2002 08:56
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Re: A new discussion
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is this the same discussion as:
By: timmy on Thu, 07 November 2002 11:55
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