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Hehe, if it was, I might never forgive my parents for it. 
But, yes, Timmy was referring to me as "Hubert". I told my father today about how I've been feeling. It took awhile to finally spit it out, but I finally did at the last moment (in the driveway).
Funny thing was, in the car ride home from getting a Christmas tree, he mentioned this infatuation with a girl when he was my age. It was similiar to my story with Conor. So when we pulled in, I said, "You know, I had a similar experience...only it wasn't with a girl."
And I really don't remember all of the conversation, kinda a blur, but there were 3 main points that I remember.
*It was a shock to him, for sure. He had no idea that this was coming. He wants to seek professional help for us. For me, so I can "sort out my thoughts" and for them so that "they can become educated on how to deal with it".
*It will be extremely difficult for him to accept this. He even said so. But, I am still his son, "first, foremost, and forever".
*He wants to tell my mom, but not with me present. He doesn't know how she'll react and he doesn't want her to react badly, and then have me get upset.
He said he was very glad that I told him and that I had a lot of courage for doing so. But he wants to find outside help for us so we can deal with it. He did also ask, "Wouldn't it just be easier to be heterosexual?", to which I answered, "Well, I don't think that's my decision".
I also mentioned how I was getting support from you guys, which I don't think he liked very much. I didn't expect him to, though. He's always been wary about me communicating through the net. I said I'd ask for suggestions from you guys about where we go from here, and he wasn't too thrilled with the idea. I then told him that they were merely suggestions and he could through them aside if he so desired.
I think he might be thinking that it's the whole adolescent exploration/curiosity thing, and I tried to explain to him as best I could that I think this is for real. I had to explain a few times that I've felt this way for years.
All in all, I think it could've been really worse. This is probably the best possible reaction I could've gotten, so I'm happy.
Oh yeah, if you're wondering how this all started, my parents seemed to like to bring up the fact that girls aren't "breaking down the door" for me, and they were confused why. And they kept on bringing it up, so I figured if they were getting real antsy about it, then they should know. Hehe, my dad said that girls were probably "intimated" by me because I'm so clean cut and intelligent...pfft, right!
So, it could've been worse. But it's a long road ahead. Thank you, EVERYONE, for all your support and friendship. I truly could NOT have done this without all of you. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
See ya.
-Tom 
"Whatever is sought for can be caught, you know,
whatever is neglected slips away."
Oedipus Rex, lines 126-127
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Thank God my name's not Hubert!
By: toms on Mon, 16 December 2002 00:11 |
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Re: Thank God my name's not Hubert!
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I am so proud of you.....
By: marc on Mon, 16 December 2002 00:43 |
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Hello, Not-Hubert!
By: lenny on Mon, 16 December 2002 00:49 |
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Don't you worry, Lenny!
By: toms on Mon, 16 December 2002 00:57 |
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Congrats, Tom!
By: trevor on Mon, 16 December 2002 05:42 |
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I'm very proud and happy it turned out so well *HUGS TIGHT*
By: ien on Mon, 16 December 2002 08:03 |
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I feel in awe of your and Drew’s courage!
By: mt on Mon, 16 December 2002 08:50 |
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Now, selection of a counsellor:
By: timmy on Mon, 16 December 2002 09:44 |
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Re: Now, selection of a counsellor:
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Content with those caveats
By: timmy on Mon, 16 December 2002 14:10 |
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Re: Now, selection of a counsellor:
By: Guest on Mon, 16 December 2002 19:10 |
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Dad told Mom last night
By: toms on Mon, 16 December 2002 23:49 |
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Hey Tom...!
By: lenny on Tue, 17 December 2002 00:06 |
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The counsellor...
By: toms on Tue, 17 December 2002 00:22 |
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Re: The counsellor...
By: trevor on Tue, 17 December 2002 05:30 |
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Someone deserves a big "thank you"...
By: toms on Tue, 17 December 2002 00:25 |
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Re: Someone deserves a big "thank you"...
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