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offically dumped  [message #7367] Sat, 01 February 2003 06:07 Go to next message
tim...of usa is currently offline  tim...of usa

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Location: buffalo, new york...USA
Registered: July 2002
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ok long story made short ed and i had a bit of a fight last night over some truly studip shit and i was determed to not chase after him this time.
so tonight i was sitting at my computer witing for him to come on line after he got out of school. he did and never IMed me or nothing. after 3 hours i IMed him and asked what was up? he starts out with...i know this is going to hurt you but......


he is seeing another guy "more" his age and who he seems to think i'd like...right like hell is going to ever freeze over.


so my few weeks of fun and happiness are over and i am back to being the pathitic old freak that sits at his computer playing solitry all night...luck me.


peace
tim...(in the sad) USA
Re: offically dumped  [message #7372 is a reply to message #7367] Sat, 01 February 2003 11:54 Go to previous messageGo to next message
stephen is currently offline  stephen

Toe is in the water
Location: UK
Registered: December 2002
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Not, I suspect, what you want to hear - but a "few weeks of fun and happiness" are more than some people ever get. Be thankful for them. Happiness will be yours.

Hugs.

Stephen
Choices  [message #7373 is a reply to message #7367] Sat, 01 February 2003 11:57 Go to previous messageGo to next message
timmy

Has no life at all
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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I guess we all have them.

What you have tasted is WONDERFUL and nothing can remove that from you.

The decision is whether to woo Ed back, or whether to say "Next!" and mean it.

Now, LOSE the words of self deprecation and start to be the man you ARE, not the one you think you are. Fine, upstanding, with worthwhile opinions, and worthy of love.



Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
Give it some time  [message #7393 is a reply to message #7367] Sun, 02 February 2003 08:25 Go to previous messageGo to next message
e is currently offline  e

On fire!
Location: currently So Cal
Registered: May 2002
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You've thought before that it was over when in fact it was not. If it is meant to be then somehow the two of you will find your way back to each other. If not, you will survive. I am certain that it hurts now and that you feel bad and even unworthy, but remember you are worthy. If not, you wouldn't have had him for the short time that the two of you were together.

Think good thoughts,
e
You are a special person, Timmer  [message #7413 is a reply to message #7367] Sun, 02 February 2003 20:49 Go to previous message
trevor is currently offline  trevor

Really getting into it

Registered: November 2002
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I don't think this is really about you, so try not to take it personally. It seems like Ed needs to work some things out for himself. He may not be ready for you, or perhaps for a serious relationship, for whatever reason.

I want you to know how much I admire you, though, for your courage in reaching out to him and really trying to make it work, and forgiving and trying again.

The right one for you will come along - it may be Ed or it may be someone else. You are doing the right things to be "receptive" to a relationship. You are pursuing happiness and are a giving, loving soul. As another said, give it time.

And I know, so much easier said than done when your heart is broken.

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