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tim...of usa
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Location: buffalo, new york...USA
Registered: July 2002
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ok i for one am totally and undinable attracted to younger guys, i am 39 and the guys that really get my going are like 20 to 25.
the problem i have is it is hard to find guys that age that are looking for some thing more then a fast hook up for sex, and if i do that i feel like i am using them and or they are using me.
any suggestions on how to deal with thses feeling and or how to become more in tune with the needs of others in a relationship sort of way. and please dont say stop hooking up with the younger guys i have tried that and my life was hell.
thanks for your input and suggestions.
peace
tim...of USA
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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Isn't the trick to a relationship as opposed to a quick fuck the ability to realise that "this person is not the right one" and to move ahead?
I'm going to give you the same advice as I gave the chap lower down who could not find love. Use (eg) Planetout, and express a desire for love.
Younger guys are not all out for a fast fuck, you know. And younger guys do find older guys attractive. Not everyone is looking for the archetypal slim, blue eyed, platinum haired, smooth twink.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Hmm, not all guys are out for just a fuck.. There are some of us who like older guys to just cuz they are cool. Keep lookin there must be someoen out there, ya know many fish in the sea....
~Andy
Why are you wearing that stupid man suit?
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Hi Tim! Not sure if we've ever really spoken before, but maybe my experience will help you with perspective. "Man" and I have been together 10 years. I am now 51 and Man turns 33 in May.
Thank God for guys who are attracted to older (and in my case chubby) people. When Man and I met, one of the things he told me first was that I was almost his perfect "type". Of course, I didn't believe him, because I would never go out with somebody that looks like me. That's not poor self-esteem, that's just the nature of attraction...
There are for sure guys who are your type, and for whom you will be their type as well.
I see nothing wrong with safe, mutually pleasurable recreational and casual sex, mind you. But there WILL be guys out there who will want to get to know you better.
I had to go through an awful lot of not-so-good matchs in order for me to find the "right one". It takes patience and fortitude and positive thinking. All much more easily said than done, of course...
Keep hope high and keep looking actively and purposefully, and you'll find him. He's out there looking for you, too, remember!
"Always forgive your enemies...nothing annoys them quite so much." Oscar Wilde
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Registered: November 2002
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Re: age differance relationships 
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