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SIgh... I just got told today that a lady that means the world to me. She was my youth group leader at church for everand ever and ever, Is in a coma and dying from cancer right now. I'm so sad we finally thought she was getting better then it came back worse then ever... I hope she gets better 
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I can only imagine how you feel right now and that you feel she has been cheated of more time on earth. Our lives are short and maybe she was blessed so much here that the next part of her journey has come?
I send you a load of OZ hugs and a few from the Roos as well. Just smile when you think of ALL the times you felt good being in her presence and there she shall be. 
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Yea... Thanks for the responses. I got told today that Sue took a turn for the worse. I don't see how they can know that sicne shes still in a coma but i guess they are pretty sure. They started calling in relatives from across the country to come to NJ... Sigh, this sucks. Im gonna go now...
~Andy~
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I just found out Sue died last night.. *Sigh* I miss her.
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all you can know is that the coma stage is pain free. It is made that way by the doctors.
Miss her, but celebrate who she was, not mourn that she died.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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i now i have not posted to you befor but i want you to know some thing that comes from my heart.
my mom died of cancer a few years back and i feel that in my moms case the best possible out come with that disease was her death. to sit and watch a woman that i loved wither away and be in pain every second of her life was killing me....death for my mom was a release.
dont know if this helps at all and i know you will miss her just wanted you to know that death is not always the worst possible out come
((((((( HUGE HUGS)))))))
peace to you and her family
tim...of USA
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Andy~
Now is the time to remember all the wonderful words she spoke to you; the way she made you feel....proud and happy.
We don't lose people when they die. They are part of every decision we make, every kind and generous act we do. The space they leave in our lives is forever a part of our memories. We are always better for having known them.
"Don't mourn for what you've lost; smile for the treasure she placed in your heart". Keep on holding her hand, Andy. She's with you.
Love&Hugs, my friend!
smith
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Remember the good memories you have of her. Remember, dying is a natural part of life no matter how much it sucks sometimes... Learning to cope with loss is one of the most important lessons there is, though not an enjoyable one.
Take care.
We're here for you.
-L
"But he that hath the steerage of my course,
direct my sail."
-William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act One, Scene IV
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When you carry the memory of a friend in your heart is they are never really gone....
Make her proud of you.... I am sure she is watching....
Marc
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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While it is terrible to lose a friend that way, I am sure that you wont forget her or her caring attitude. I send you hugs from OZ. I hope you will feel better soon. She may be gone but NOT forgotten by you and those that loved her.
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Hey Andy, I didn't know about this till yesturday, I'm sorry to hear about it now. As always, your welcome to chat with me aytime. {{{HUGS}}}
Brian
To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.
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Thanks everyone, I'll be ok. I'm going to the funeral on monday at 11 and then takin the rest of the day off from school I think. For everyone who doesn't know my screenname is ThirdFencePost.... just some info for yall. Thanks for the Kind words I'll talk to you soon
~Andy~
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will be difficult. At least, I found my first memorial services for loved ones to be hard. The first one I went to was a bit similar to smith's friend, as my friend was a fellow High School student who died of cancer. He was sick for only a very short time, and it was shocking to everybody who knew him. I was kind of numb, and felt angry and sad at the same time. I wanted to be alone a lot, that was the coping mechanism I used.
Later on, and since then, I have had to (unfortunately) go to very many funerals of people I knew and loved. In fact, one of the reasons I decided to leave New York City and move to Asia in 1990 was that I had been to dozens of funerals of dear friends who had died of AIDS in the 80's.
After a while, I developed sort of a routine that helped me get through them more positively and look back on the experience as well as I could. I asked people at the funeral to tell me one memory or comment or event that they were remembering fondly about the person who had died. I focused and concentrated on those during the ceremonies, and sometimes wrote them down afterwards for myself.
Just a small suggestion. Hope it helps a little bit in your time of pain.
Thinking of you now...
"Always forgive your enemies...nothing annoys them quite so much." Oscar Wilde
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Thank You so much ill try
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Andy,
As it seems to happen sometimes, everybody who has already replied to this thread have pretty much fully expressed my feelings.
I'm so glad you'll be allowed to attend the funeral Monday. As strange as it may sound, it will help you feel better about things. You can always make up any school work you may miss; but if you were made to miss this chance to say goodbye to somebody who meant so much to you, it will continue to be a detriment in the short run, as well as something that in the long run you will always regret.
Hang in there, Andy!
We do not remember days...we remember moments.
Cesare Pavese
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I kept you in my thoughts today, Andy. I hope the day went as smoothly as possible and you made it through okay.
{{smiles}}
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I realized life was a cycle. Sue taught me and all my friends so mcuh. Then she died, but thats ok cuz she passed along ehr info already and she will be happier in heaven. I realized how ot mak her proud of me. Sabine and her husband jsut returned from China they adopted a child!! So now We have a new little perosn to teach jsut like Sue taught us. It's a circle how cool is that!!!
~Andy
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How cool is that, you ask?! VERY cool, indeed.
Some people never grasp an understanding of what you're seeing, no matter what their age or experience of life.
This awareness you feel so intensely right now is what the Buddhists call "Mindfulness".
It's a great gift indeed.
"Always forgive your enemies...nothing annoys them quite so much." Oscar Wilde
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... most worthily presented in at least two Nevil Shute (Norway) novels from the early 1950's; "Round the Bend, 1951" and "In the Wet, 1953"
To those interested in aviation stories, all or any of Shute's novels provide wonderful reading of the genre, and will suffice admirably. For others wishing to step into a kinder gentler world, faithly and painstakingly crafted, and seldom remembered the reader would have to search far and wide to equal or best Nevi Shute in his prime, who as an author was light-years ahead of his time, blending a combination of good old-fashioned story-telling with a touch of the romantic and the seer.
Of the two titles I mention here, the former delves quite deeply into the mind-set of south-asian society, both of it's religion and politics finding a commonality within that to this reader was especially astonishing, whereas the latter more deals specifically with the concept of re-incarnation and the re-cycling of life from generation to generation.
Either of these books would be termed "feel-good" reads by the current generation of reviewers and for that reason alone would probably be dismissed as being of little relevance in today's climate. Both novels present their subject matter in a loving, caring and understanding embrace with the respect and dignity that each deserves and seldom ever receives. No-one finishing either novel could not, and will not, ever again be able to view their world in quite the same fashion.
For more information, kindly consult the Norway Family Foundation web-site, found here:
http://www.nevilshute.org/index.html
Warren C. E. Austin
Toronto, Canada
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