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Jeremy
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Registered: January 1970
Messages: 9
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As some of ya may know.. I'm moving up to New York soon... I'm like madly in love with Tim... But I am so frikin scared. I'm leaving my friends/family behind. Going into a strange new place... Not to mention all the uncertainties that come with it... Add to the fact my parents are sad I'm going but on the other hand they are foaming at the mouth for me to leave. They are already making plans for my room and the bed isn't even cold yet. O.o Is there anything I can do to make me not think about this and not get so freaking scared? I mean I'm putting a lot on the line here... *sigh*
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Hi there ..
I think that best thing is to follow your heart ..
and also if you said you was't scared about all this ..then I would say you should think so more about it ..
But you gotto be scared ..you're taking a really big step here ..
Just remember you got a great guy and a lot to look forward too ..
I wish you both all the luck I can ..be happy and be honest with each other ..
Well that my thought ..
take care ..
Rick ..
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I am most deifnitly the wrong person to give advice about being nervous. Or maybe I am in fact the perfect person to be doing it.. Well you just need to relax and remember that you love Timmer. You're parents will miss you but you can always call them on the phone. And if heavenforbid thigns dont work out between Timmer and you, you could always return home back where you started from. And don't worry New York is a way cool state, you'll probably love it up there. I know I think it is cool. Take a deep breathe and jsut think of all the fun you can have
Peace and Trees
~Andy
Why are you wearing that stupid man suit?
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tim...of usa
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Location: buffalo, new york...USA
Registered: July 2002
Messages: 266
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this one i have to keep my mouth shut on.
but i know the MB family will give you good advice and tons of hugs if you need em (they rock at hugs)
peace
tim...of USA
(aka jermey's man)
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Jeremy,
Well, I wasn't moving there, but I was a little nervous at actually meeting Timmer the first time. He's cool, an awsome home, and super coffee. (hehehe) We didn't go out or anything, but he made me feel at home. I actually didn't want to leave, but work called. Advice, look at it as a new beginning to your life. A fresh start so to speak. Watch out for the casino, if you win, he makes you buy dinner.
All I can think of.
Brian
To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.
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trevor
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Really getting into it |
Registered: November 2002
Messages: 732
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Maybe it's a midlife crisis or whatever, but sometimes when I look back in life I regret not having taken more chances. I've always played it safe and, well, that's boring even for me. Not that I regret my current situation, but I sometimes wish I'd made better informed decisions by living a bit more, rather than just taking the "defaults" that were handed to me by fate.
It can be sad to play "what if" too much.
I don't know Timmer very well, but he seems like a nice guy and a gentle soul. Hmm, better make that "kind soul" - heh heh.
Really, though, I think you will be safe enough and the great thing about life is that very few decisions are absolutely "undoable" if it really comes to that.
Good luck, to both of you. You deserve all the happiness in the world, and I think you will find it.
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e
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On fire! |
Location: currently So Cal
Registered: May 2002
Messages: 1179
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I was 24 when I first moved cross country from Ohio to Los Angeles. I knew only one person in LA and he said I could stay with him for a week (He shared a house with some people and that's all they would allow). I was terrified. But I got on the plane with three small suit cases and things worked out pretty well.
I won't tell you you shouldn't be afraid, you should. but fight through it. Keep thinking about the positives. OH yeah, that Timmer guy will be there waiting for you too.
Think good thoughts,
e
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marc
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Needs to get a life! |
Registered: March 2003
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any time you walk out of the house you take a chance.
It is as simple as that.... No risk.... No gain....
Of course it is scary.... Of course you will be away from family and friends....
But all that means is that you both will have a great place to visit on vacations....
There is not one thing more fun than going off on an adventure.... And yourse is just begining....
Grab on with both hands and run with it....
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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and moved half-way around the WORLD about 13 years ago, with only a little cash and 10 boxes of stuff. I took an 80% cut in salary, knew only one person, and didn't have a clue what I was doing, really.
You have several advantages. You speak the language...hehe You know Tim, albeit from a distance and there will be radical adjustments to be made.
One rule: whatever goes thru your mind, speak it out, no matter how minor or odd or ridiculous it may seem, don't let it all build up inside.
Ask questions...there are NO dumb questions. And, always remember that you have the back door if you need to leave or make other changes.
It IS an adventure, but I had tremendous adjustments and a very bumby road at times. I questioned my sanity dozens of times. But I followed my heart and my intuition. The worst that can happen is that you go someplace else, or back to home base and re-think things.
Depend on each other, speak everything that's on your mind, stay in close contact with everybody back home that you want to, and begin to meet new people in the new place as soon as possible, don't just isolate yourself with Tim, as great as he must be. Begin to build a new social support network ASAP. They'll help you thru things, too.
Adventures are good! But the "road less travelled" is more nerve-wracking, for sure!
"Always forgive your enemies...nothing annoys them quite so much." Oscar Wilde
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marc
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Needs to get a life! |
Registered: March 2003
Messages: 4729
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Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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simon
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Getting started |
Location: Perth, Australia
Registered: July 2003
Messages: 13
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Life is full of uncertainties, sometimes you just got the grab the bull by the horns and go for it. I did, it worked for me. I can only wish you both every happiness and if you achieve happiness then that's half the battle won. Just my opinion for what it's worth.
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Jeremy
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Getting started |
Registered: January 1970
Messages: 9
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Thank you all for the nice advice I'm feeling a lot better.. Still really nervous... But I know things will work out and even for some bizarre reason it doesnt Tim won't just up and strand me either.. *hugz tim* Once again thank ya all I appreciate all the positive stuff yyou all have had to say =D
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trevor
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Really getting into it |
Registered: November 2002
Messages: 732
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A little crazy and a little romantic - that's why we love ya - you fit right in with most of us!
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Need some cheap advice ;) 
Re: Need some cheap advice ;) 
I can do cheap! 
Re I took a loan on 3000 euros, went to my online friends country and 
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