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i love to give my opinion and/or my advise when ever i can. I have never been good at asking for others. But right now I really need to know what other people thing about something.
I have a nephew, he is 16 years old. About two years ago i saw his name pop up on my "buddy list" so I said hi. The reply that came back suprised me. It was his mother "checking" his e-mail for that x-rated junk e-mail that seems to come once in a while. I didn't like it much but kept my mouth shut. It just happened again the other day. This time she didn't say she was checking for x-rated e-mail....she just said she his checking his e-mail.
In the last two years my nephew has been hospitalized twice for psychiatric evaluation. (i didn't find out about that until about 2 months after he got out, but thats another story) He has not tried to kill himself but shows just about every sign that he is about too. Heres the question. Given his mental state, does this give her the right to invade his privacy and read his mail?
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Urrggg Invasion of privacy.... No I don't think it is right. Even given his current mental status. But then again if he does die and there is something there. It's tough.. If she found nothign last time then no. If she found somethign that amde her suspisious about his mental stability then yes. I know I would be in deep shit for multiple reasons if my mom ever checked my email...
Why are you wearing that stupid man suit?
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Derek, there's not any easy answer to this. If your nephew really is in some kind of mental distress and he's hid it from you (and don't think just because he's unstable that he could keep a secret, how many of us kept certain things secret and for how long?), then perhaps knowing where his mind is helps her to help him. I agree with Andy about the invasion issue, but there is also the worry over need. If he is in need of services, perhaps this is one way Mom can figure out what's going on in his head.
My first reaction is to say it's wrong, but I don't know all the particulars, and perhaps in that regard, neither do you. The truth is, though, that parents have the right and the responcibility to keep close tabs on their kids. And it may be disturbing, even downright embarrassing, but like I said, at least she cares enough to keep an eye out.
I'd say that before you jump to any conclusions, talk to them, or at least her, about it. There may be some underlying reason for this, or maybe she was checking it for him.
It's not the wolf you see you should fear, but all the ones he howls with. Don't be afraid of the song, but don't piss off the choir.
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Perhaps the best way to investigate the situation is to ask the Mum if she discusses her concerns with your nephew directly. What is their relationship like generally?
Invasion of privacy is a big issue, for sure. But, as was also said, in potentially life and death situations, there are bigger issues than privacy.
"Always forgive your enemies...nothing annoys them quite so much." Oscar Wilde
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I agree with Andy privacy should not be invaded. When privacy is invaded trust is broken. In my mind things should be done before checking into his email and other personal belongings. Try talking with him or counciling but if it comes down to it and it seems there is nowhere else to go or anything to do then do it but at least let him know you are going to. And in a case with e-mail something that may be suspicious could have an explaination, the problem behind that is distinguishing the truth from a cover.
Good Luck
Rubber Ducky
BTW I'm new here. I have been reading for a while and really like the atmosphere that is here.
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Welcome aboard Ducky!
It's not the wolf you see you should fear, but all the ones he howls with. Don't be afraid of the song, but don't piss off the choir.
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good to have you hear rubberducky.
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