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What has happened to this board lately? Is a there an I-don’t-feel-welcome-in-here syndrome going around? Base from what I understand this is a place where people (nice people like you guys) can express his own and unique opinions or feelings. I remember I used to read about different topics and learned new points of view that many times made me question my beliefs. I used to like that but lately people feel like they are not welcome here and are having second thoughts about posting here. Timmy has emphasized this several times; we are entitle to our own opinions. If you don’t agree with something, say something (not sending e-mails saying to keep opinions to ourselves) to prove why you believe your right. All this without causing a fight of course. Somebody here once said that the world would be a boring place if people did not disagree with each other.
Now I propose for everyone to stop all of this, be like before, no better than before and post your opinions, which of course are all welcome.
Any other solutions? Maybe I’m wrong and this is not what is happening. Tell me that I’m wrong.
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i believe that what you are seeing is democracy in action,but some like to hand out sour grapes.The threats of some to vacate this forum because someone pinched their butts are truely silly!There are no true fights going on,just some small butt pinching and minor stepping on of toes.I dont think that there isnt a one that WOULD NOT fight for the free expression of ideas or thoughts.What I have observed is a lot of caring for each other here.Its just sometimes a little hard to express those thoughts without personalities getting involved.Some posters are rather insecure,others think that their shit doesnt stink.I assure you,mine does.Over the last several years,I have learned a lot.The stories and these posts have helped me to somewhat rejoin the human race and be more tolorant of my fellow humans-after-all,we are in the same lifeboat it seems. Timmy has done us all an awsome service by creating this forum.WHY WOULD ANYONE WANT TO LEAVE? Yesterday,today and tomorrow people will piss others off.This is cyber-space,it goes with the terratory. People will say ouch when that happens.The best part is when we all kiss and make up....rob
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People have become comfortable enough to be more direct in expressing their inner feelings. As a paradox that can be expressed as feeling unwelcome. That part I fail to understand. Each of us is here for our own reasons. Some to work out pain, others to find companionship of speaking with similar seeming souls.
Among us are people who hurt badly and others who have the great fortune not to have known huge hurt. And each of us, since it is human to be rejected, has experienced major or minor rejections.
Here, with no eye contact, we can get bewildered, and feel things which the poster we reply to never meant.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Location: buffalo, new york...USA
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yup yup and when you get comfy you let your ego show and heaven forbin any one step on our egos......lol
peace
tim...of USA
NOTE: i choose to not play the ego game myself
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This place wasn't very big when I joined about 14 months ago. Since then more people have arrived, and some of us don't know the rest that well yet.
Until we all do, and feel familiar with each other and knit together, we will bump into each other a couple times now and then and step on someone's toes by mistake I suppose. It's normal, but as long as we all don't do it intentionally, it should be okay. This is my theory anyway. 
-L
"But he that hath the steerage of my course,
direct my sail."
-William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act One, Scene IV
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I agree with you lenny, i thought about it after i posted here,it was too late to add it. By anyways, i noticed this rejection feeling only occurs with new posters. Between you old guys lol(no offence) the relationship is different. It takes time to get know somebody (duh!).
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I've been around for about a year now.......I guess that makes me a young old guy. I agree with you that I used to read replies and different points of view and they would make me stop and think.
Recently, it's more like people are just waiting their turn to talk; not really listening.
I have to agree with what Trevor said on that other thread about the person speaking the loudest is not necessarily the person speaking with the most wisdom. A soft spoken answer, full of care and concern for the feelings of the person asking, is the answer I will read and respond to, either in a reply or in my head.
The bickering and sharp retorts make me wander away looking for answers elsewhere, usually behind the MB on IMs. Most of us are shy and gentle remarks make us feel comfortable. I truly appreciate everyone here who thinks before they post. Isn't a place of safety a place where words are FOR the person asking, not to upset them but to hug them?
Just MHO ~
smith
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Always teh eloquent one smith. I have to admire you you have tact. I personally love the soft replies myself so much more caring. So much less like the rest of the world.
Peace out
~Andy
with the love of trees...
Why are you wearing that stupid man suit?
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The world is a bad enough place as it is, so a place filled with caring and softness is more than welcomed
*hugs to all*
Setras
That which is dreamed can never be lost, can never be undreamed.
-Master Li in Neil Gaiman's Sandman
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I think another factor that may contribute to what people percieve as harshness is that none of us can see the expression on the face of the person who writes the post. If we could see the expression, then the written word would be only ONE indicator of the intention of the writer.
Lately, I have been surrounded by people wearing surgical masks. The masks make it impossible for anybody to see what expresions are on their faces. You can't see smiles, frowns, nothing, just blank white space where a face usually is.
It makes little kids cry, they get afraid if they can't see the other person's face.
It's sort of like that here on the MB, until we establish a relationship with the person behind the name.
"Always forgive your enemies...nothing annoys them quite so much." Oscar Wilde
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