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icon5.gif Meandering thoughts...  [message #10518] Fri, 16 May 2003 15:13 Go to next message
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I don't know if I want to be alone or if I want to stay. It's very confusing. One minute I can't stand even thinking of other people, the next I feel desperately alone.

Oreos are yummy, you can get them in the US import foodstuffs shelf in one of our larger chains of grocery stores, along with Marshmallow Fluff, maple syrup, that disgusting toxic-waste-yellow mustard you guys seem to like so much and Paul Newman salad dressing, amongst other things. Smile

Sure, saturated fat is dangerous, and hydrogenated fat might be even worse. Something that is worse still are pedophiles.

Fortunately, there's one less in the world today. Some of you may have heard about this already, and it kinda makes me kinda ashamed of my country. A musician in his 40s was arrested recently for sexually abusing at least 43 female children, some in low single digit ages, photographing the acts and putting it all up on the internet. We don't disclose identities of criminals in this country as a rule so I don't know who it is. If anyone here looks at stuff like that - if so I don't know who, nor do I really care because it's not my business - you might have seen some of this man's work. It's supposed to be amongst the most well-known stuff out there (I heard the series consists of upwards of 1500 pics).

I will have yummy tortelloni for dinner tonight. "Fresh-made", 2.5 minutes in boiling water, with turkey, mortadella, parma ham, parmesan and garlic filling. I love thai food too. I don't know the name, but soup with shrimps, onion, tomato, coconut milk and other yummy stuff, spiced with chili and some kind of leaves, those decorating the UN symbol, what are they called? Mmm.

Guess that's something to be happy about and look forward to. Not much else actually... Can anyone tell me why I bother?
Re: Meandering thoughts...  [message #10534 is a reply to message #10518] Sat, 17 May 2003 02:53 Go to previous messageGo to next message
e is currently offline  e

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I think there are all times when we would like to be alone and can't stand being around others. But for the most part, I think we are social creatures and thus enjoy at least some interaction with others.

The minute I tasted "brown" mustard for the first time, I began to despise "yellow" mustard. I refuse to buy it, but my wife like to keep some in the fridge.

I hadn't heard about the arrest, but I am glad they got the guy.

Ahhhh, dinner. Tonight it was only one course. I had planned to barbeque some spare ribs, bake some potatoes, and roast some carrots. I got the ribs onto the grill then discovered we were out of potatoes and the carrots had gone bad in the fridge. Oh well, we were carnivores tonight.

Why bother? Well, if nothing else you are eating good. That's a start. Even if that's all there is, it is a lot to enjoy. Many times just looking forward to my next meal has kept me going.

Think good thoughts,
e
Re: Meandering thoughts...  [message #10537 is a reply to message #10518] Sat, 17 May 2003 07:39 Go to previous messageGo to next message
trevor is currently offline  trevor

Really getting into it

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Well, thanks for sharing with us. I do that too - just spout sometimes to get it out. That helps keeping me moving forward, and this is a fine place to do it, with supportive friends.

Sorry to hear about the pedophile, but glad he was locked up. My wife and I babysat for the young children of a couple when we were in college, only to find later that the man was abusing his 2 year old daughter "that way." I just can't imagine how one person can do that to someone else, especially someone so innocent who he was responsible to love and care for and especially considering the physical pain on top of all the emotional pain.

I guess one thing you can bother about is to do your part to prevent that. I think just talking about it and raising awareness helps a bit, but I'm sure there are children out there that could use a friend or foster parent or big brother if you are up to it.
icon6.gif Yellow Mustard & Loneliness  [message #10540 is a reply to message #10518] Sat, 17 May 2003 14:20 Go to previous messageGo to next message
smith is currently offline  smith

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Toxic waste yellow mustard....hahaha!! But there's nothing better than that slopped all over an equally disgusting corn dog. Have you ever had an A&W chili cheese dog? OMG!! And the root beer.......you have to get it from the fountain; cans are NOT the same.

"Can anyone tell me why I bother?" Yup! Loneliness is way different from just being alone. Being alone can be so great...house to yourself, eating crap instead of veggies, but after awile you begin to feel twitchy and wonder what everyone else is doing, what you're missing. That's when it changes to loneliness.....when you want someone to talk to, when being alone isn't too much fun anymore. That's when you have to go out and find people to connect with, to talk to.
You "bother" because you want to talk.........that's why we all come here; to read and to talk. Don't get trapped in your loneliness.........you sure aren't "bothering" anyone here Smile What a beautiful Saturday !!
smith
Being trapped..... Being alone.....  [message #10552 is a reply to message #10540] Sun, 18 May 2003 20:09 Go to previous message
marc is currently offline  marc

Needs to get a life!

Registered: March 2003
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The thing about lonliness is that it is as much a safe haven as it is a trap. Once a person has erected the barriers it is hard to tear them down.

Although one can be surrounded by people it is possible to yet be totally alone. It can even be possible to be in a wonderful loving relationship and still remain behind the walls.

Even though it is possible to pry open the door and occasionally let someone in... It is only fleeting...

Alone is alone is alone...



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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