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Am I alone in finding weddings inherently depressing affairs?
They serve as a reminder that, apparently, one of the things we are supposed to do in this life is to find someone of the opposite sex whom we love so much that we both decide to spend the rest of our lives together and declare it publicly before the world and before God.
A large proportion of the guests who attend are couples who have already made a similar declaration, who are about to or who can expect to be nudged with the reminder that they should. Single guests like myself are viewed with a certain curiosity ("did you leave your family at home?").
At the wedding I am attending today there is a twist. Everyone is saying how unusual it is that the bride and groom - both younger than me - have left it so late to get married. What does this make me?
Of course, these are all undercurrents. It is a beautiful location and everyone seems genuinely pleased that I have come. So I'll make the best of this, smile and make some new acquaintances. Just because the thought of weddings is depressing is no reason not to have fun!
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Many of the few remaining classmates I do keep tabs on (or at least hear occational news about) have married, and/or have had kids of their own. Sometimes more than one kid even.
Sometimes I feel the same way you do. Not that I have an urge to find a girl and marry her, but just wish for someone to share my life with. ...And maybe a kid to raise. 
I will have to see what the future brings. After all, guys never stop being fertile so there's no immediate hurry, hehehe. 
One other thing that won't change either is you being a great, dear, special friend of mine. I will always cherish that. *HUGS* again!
-L
"But he that hath the steerage of my course,
direct my sail."
-William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act One, Scene IV
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Greetings from the USA!
And thanks for your kind words. I cherish your friendship too.
Take care
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Yup...weddings can sometimes depress a hyena, for sure. The couples can sometimes be so smug, exclusivistic somehow. And other couples can look at single people attending as somehow incomplete.
The movie "Four Weddings and a Funeral" is terrific because it pokes holes in that kind of thinking. And the gay couple in that movie can't marry, and so aren't really thought of as married until about half way thru it.
And the 4 single women in "Sex and the City" also have occasional weddings to endure, with mixed reactions. Sometimes singles can be viewed as threats, as well. "Get away from my man..."
I think the secret to not getting depressed or angry that gays are denied a "proper" wedding by law in most places, is to realize that each of us is complete and whole, even if single and independent. Plus, fr those who do want a partner eventually, not to imagine yourself as perpetually lonely and depressed.
One friend of mine used weddings as good places to look for cute people to date.
Good approach.
"Always forgive your enemies...nothing annoys them quite so much." Oscar Wilde
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I understand what you mean, Nick... *HUGS* 
Hugs Lenny 
