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Leaving Japan  [message #10926] Fri, 06 June 2003 10:18 Go to next message
saben is currently offline  saben

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Well, I've officially decided that I can no longer live with my uncle. He is too over-efficient, too demanding, too agressive (although not physically) and just too immature in a lot of ways... I haven't been the perfect person to live with, but he snaps at anything.... I cried for the first time in months the other night, due to him... Anyway, need to work out where to go now, he won't let me stay in Japan (what I'd want to do) without giving him a month's notice to find a room mate first, so it looks like I'll probably be heading back to Aus.. Sorry to be saying this crap and probably spoiling everyone's days... I just need to vent... I hardly ever felt this helpless before... My AIM SN is Sabenthe4th if anyone is remotely interested........



Look at this tree. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time [...] No matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
Master Oogway
Development  [message #10927 is a reply to message #10926] Fri, 06 June 2003 11:17 Go to previous messageGo to next message
saben is currently offline  saben

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Well, after another debate and discussion with my uncle he has suddenly had a turn around. He has said he is going to give me total freedom, and basically be a matyr. The way I way act beyond that is my choice. I don't know how long it will last, but given his current proposal, he could basically be my slave, do all the housework and wait on me hand and foot while I enjoy my life on the internet... I guess it's a reverse psychological way of motivating me, though from what he's said he does intend to stick with it for a month.... I'm a little freaked right now, but I know he's not being sarcastic, still, it makes me feel like I'm in a position of power and not his equal though. I guess given my personality I feel more comfortable with it than previously where the role was reversed, but I'm still not entirely comfortable about it.......



Look at this tree. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time [...] No matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
Master Oogway
Motivation  [message #10928 is a reply to message #10927] Fri, 06 June 2003 11:18 Go to previous messageGo to next message
saben is currently offline  saben

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Incidently he's saying he's doing it because it is a good opportunity for him to develop as a person, it's a little like a Buddhist monk retreat or something..



Look at this tree. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time [...] No matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
Master Oogway
Re: Motivation  [message #10929 is a reply to message #10928] Fri, 06 June 2003 11:56 Go to previous messageGo to next message
thirdfencepost is currently offline  thirdfencepost

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Good luck shemn i hope everything work out



Why are you wearing that stupid man suit?
Re: Leaving Japan  [message #10930 is a reply to message #10926] Fri, 06 June 2003 13:24 Go to previous messageGo to next message
timmy

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I don't understand why you need to give HIM a month's notice. Or is it that HE needs the rent on the room?



Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
Aaw, I really hope everything works out for you!  [message #10931 is a reply to message #10928] Fri, 06 June 2003 16:46 Go to previous messageGo to next message
lenny is currently offline  lenny

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Please give him another chance, it's not often an opportunity like this comes along.

You guys can work it out I'm sure, you're intelligent, grown-ups and belong to the same family. Smile Surely that must account for something? Smile


I'd LOVE to chat with you, but I don't have AOL... I only use Yahoo and MSN at the moment until I can afford to register Trillian Pro. So it's not for lack of wanting, Shem. I'd very much like to get to know you better! Smile


Take care, k? You ARE a lucky guy to be allowed to see Japan up-close. Get the most out of this opportunity please, hee hee!

-L



"But he that hath the steerage of my course,
direct my sail."

-William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act One, Scene IV
icon7.gif Re: Leaving Japan  [message #10953 is a reply to message #10930] Sat, 07 June 2003 18:15 Go to previous message
Guest is currently offline  Guest

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Please take some time and get private with yourself and search your heart.You may find some answers.Your being in Japan is a wonderful experience and should not be taken lightly.You are very lucky.I wish you well. rob
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