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OK, there's a lot of regular contributors on here who won't need this. But for the rest of us here's a list of ten flirting tips, courtesy of match.com.
If you've been on the receiving end of an accomplished flirt, you'll be aware of how flattering it can be.
Dictionaries invariably describe flirting as making "playfully romantic or playfully sexual overtures". That's all well and good but how do you know if you're a good flirter?
1. Get an attitude
A good flirt is self-confident and not afraid to take risks. Be enthusiastic, open and positive. It works!
2. Start a conversation
The best opening line is simply saying, 'hello'. Talk about the surroundings, ask a question, ask for help, make a joke, state an opinion. Make sure you are calm and composed but just do it before the person you’ve got your eye on walks out of the bar or past you in the street, never to be seen again!
3. Have fun
Be playful, light-hearted and spontaneous. Show your vulnerability.
4. Use props
Never leave home without a prop because they are great natural conversation starters. Good props include: unusual jewellery, a distinctive bag, an interesting book, a foreign newspaper or international magazine etc.
5. Be assertive
Change your behaviour; don't be passive. If you like what you see, go for it!
6. Go it alone
If you're with a group of friends, wait until you're alone before you approach someone. That way, if you're rejected, it's not in front of a gang of people.
7. Listen
Take the time to really listen to what's being said to you; listening is a true art and the person you're flirting with will appreciate it. Everyone loves to be heard.
8. Look
Make eye contact, but don’t stare - it’s a turn off.
9. Use flattery
Compliment the person you're flirting with. The best compliments have an element of surprise about them, something that makes the 'flirtee' realise that you've noticed something telling about them.
10. Smile
It's contagious. A smile lights up your face and draws people to you. Try it!
Anyone got any more?
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