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i live now with a family of faithful christians who have a zero tolerance policy. i don't want to come out to the rest of my family, but i don't want to lie and parade a boyfriend under their noses to allay suspicions...sometimes i start to hate the way i am...i can't even say it now. i thought i was accustomed to being this way, but i guess i never really thought about it...i wish i felt one way or the ther, gay or straight and fine with it..this battle is draining the life out of me. what can i do about it?
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trevor
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Dunno what to do about it for sure, but I did want to welcome you here. If interested, I have some Christianity-related links and such since I'm both gay and Christian if you want to e-mail me. But, bigots don't usually want to change their minds, even if you have sound theology to back up your point of view.
I hope you find a solution. Is there an option to live elsewhere? (Okay, obvious, I know!)
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There are no easy answers, for sure. But do stick around and get to know some of the regulars here. Many of us have to live in Christian environments and figure out sexuality issues.
You are not alone!
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Now you need to let the brains here on this board provide possible directions and mechanisms for you to choose to rectify your feelings. Welcome to the board, and feel free to contact any of us by email if it is too difficult to provide more details on the open board. Many here have exerienced situations similar to what you are now living and asked the same questions, so draw on their strength and knowledge to find your path.
Hugs, Charlie
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Location: currently So Cal
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Welcome to the board.
Every situation is different so there is no pat answer to your questions. Just know that it is not uncommmon to feel confused about your sexuality or to dislike the way you feel about it. It does seem pointless to come out to the family if you aren't sure yourself. It also doesn't seem prudent since they are intolerant Christians. Lying can be a way to cover things up for a while, but is usually a poor solution. Do you have friends you can talk this over with? Would you be able to move out and live on your own?
Think good thoughts,
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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Zero Tolerance Policy? Like how do they invoke it? And how do you come to be living there?
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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