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I've been thinking about those terms, what they mean to me now, what they have meant to me in the past. Some times I think they are used to easily.
To me friendship starts when you meet someone that you share a common intrest or state of being if you will. Here we all have a good start in that we are all mostly gay or bi. In this medium I see the next thing that may engender friendship in something someone says or the way they say it may strikes a cord.
Ok, the seeds are sown, they either grow to fruition or they don't.
The questions I am asking here are:
Do you find the friendships you find online, as real, less real, or about he same as in RL?
What are your expectations of friendships you might make?
How enduring do you expect them to be?
I could add more but I am gonna leave that to you guys. Hope to hear your thoughts.
Please forgive the spelling,punctuation and gramatical mistakes my word program isn't working but now that we have Machelli who needs word hehehehe*Hugs*
::-)
People will tell you where they've gone
They'll tell you where to go
But till you get there yourself you never really know
Where some have found their paradise
Other's just come to harm
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Arich... I have made several 'friends' on the internet, and on the message board here. These friendships are very different, and vary in the better/worse arena...
I find the friendships here are less complete because in a one-on-one friendship, we can have lunch, do things in person with each other, and a big part of knowing each other is learning the other's tonal inflections in their voice, looking into the other's eyes, and seeing how the other reacts to what we may say or how we may say it. In person, there is a much more completeness to a friendship. That is not to say the friendships online are worse. Just different.
Two friends, specifically, I have met online and have become real friends in life. One lives in Orlando, Florida. The other lives in San Jose, California. I have met them in person... as a matter of fact I spent time with the friend from California last Tuesday when we were both in Chicago. We had a great time, and enjoyed each other's company that day. Of course, I talk to both of these friends every other day at least on the phone, let alone the endless emails.
And that kind of sums up my friendship thoughts....
Thanks for asking such an intriguing question !!!!
BamBam
Celebrate your life... embrace your love... Become intimate with your place in forever !!!
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Interesting. In some respects I'd say that it's easier to talk about things (i.e. personal problems, etc.) here because inevitably there will always be a level of anonymity, yes? So, that presents a bit of a paradox:
If one is more comfortable to divulge personal information in a semi-anonymous situation - which is what this is, for even though we may have photographs and all sorts of detailed descriptions we still don't get to SEE the reaction of a given person, which is part of what a real-life relationship is based on - then doesn't that person grow closer to other semi-anonymous people as a result? Basically, does the alleged lack physical relationships (like seeing someone when you talk to them - reading their facial expressions) allow for a more developed friendship in other areas?
I don't think I did this topic justice. I didn't quite put into words what was coursing through my brain.
And arich, I think you meant to write "too" instead of "to" before easily in your first paragraph.  )
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to me, the friendships i make "online" are just as important, and are considered the same value (to me) as friends i've had IRL.
i dare say i've actually had stronger bonds with people online than in person, as there are many things i stumble over, verbally; my eye-contact is shotty and makes people think they can't trust me, when it's actually because i'm scared to look people in the eye. terrified.
(and see? i'd have never said this in person; not right off the bat to form some bond -- this is why i really make no friends at school, or anything..)
my longest friendship from online has lasted 6 years and is still strong. we've never met in person, yet, but i want to go down to georgia this summer to meet her. she's taught me a lot about writing; she's the same age as i am, and teaching creative writing, and has been nationally published. she's amazing.
i've had great IRL friendships, but they've faded. as have online friendships too. i'm not sure what it is, really, but i DO know that i value them both the same. "online friends" are not any less important than "IRL friends." when i have been in long distance relationships, i do not cheat on that person with someone "local." i've been in LD relationships that worked out BETTER and were less dramatic, traumatic, and stressing than IRL/local relationships. and, vice versa. it all just depends on the people, maybe.
my void does not want.
-- 2.13.61.
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