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anal sex  [message #16367] Thu, 09 October 2003 15:13 Go to next message
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i used to enjoy anal sex but about 5 years ago i needed to get a colostomy
now i dont know if i should go back doing somthing i enjoyed doing
Re: anal sex  [message #16368 is a reply to message #16367] Thu, 09 October 2003 15:46 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Wow, Bob, you sure know how to get somebody's attention with a thread title!

I know 2 people who have had colostomy procedures. There are several types, each differing medically. As I recall, one of them could not have anal sex, and for the other person it was not an issue.

Check out this link for a bunch of on-line message boards and support communities, and post the question there, along with the type of colostomy you had...each different procedure has a name.

The link is at http://www.supportpath.com/sl_o/ostomy.htm

Good luck with your search for information.

Timmy, this is just what you were talking about with the absence of free but professional medical advice websites, huh?



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Re: anal sex  [message #16369 is a reply to message #16367] Thu, 09 October 2003 16:49 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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My ex BF is a nurse at a Major hospital (intensive care), also his father is also having the same procedure this month. I am sure he will be able to help. I will post his answer as soon as I can.

Hope things go the way you want,

Kevin



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Speaking of Medical advice David  [message #16370 is a reply to message #16368] Thu, 09 October 2003 16:53 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I was at my medico's office today picking up my meds and though I didn't have a chance then, as it was close to noon and kinda busy,I am going to write them this afternoon about the most up to date info on HIV, Hep and the like
I don't know how much time any of them have to get involved but who knows. These ppl are pretty socially minded I mean after all there is not much glory working with infectious diseases like HIV and Hep.
Anyway it can't hurt to ask and this is a Clinic assosiated with Case Western Reserve University



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Re: anal sex  [message #16371 is a reply to message #16367] Thu, 09 October 2003 17:05 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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My friends answer:

The length of healing time required depends largly on the invasiveness of the surgery. You should really check with your doctor who will be well aware of the time you need to heal.

The good news is that eventually you will be able to go back to your favorite past time. (sorry for being a bit cheeky there) ::-)

Hope that helps a little,

Kevin



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Logic  [message #16372 is a reply to message #16367] Thu, 09 October 2003 17:17 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Logic says that, if the colostomy is still "running" then no faeces are present in the anus and rectal area at all, and that makes it an evem more pleasant act.

There is nothing in anal sex per se that is harmful, unless you have been "tied off" very close to the anus.

Using loads of lube, and gentle experimentation makes sense. So does asking your doctor



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The only good sense answer is to ask your doctor....  [message #16377 is a reply to message #16367] Thu, 09 October 2003 20:00 Go to previous message
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As no one here is familiar with the particular procedure you underwent, there is no practical advise that is appropriate.

Your doctor will know for certain and that certainty will make the experience even more pleasurable.

Wish you well,
Marc



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