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A queestion.......  [message #16402] Fri, 10 October 2003 09:35 Go to next message
marc is currently offline  marc

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What is gay?

What is the definition of being gay?

What differentiates a gay person from a straight person? (other than the obviously obvious)....



Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
Ignoring the obvious  [message #16414 is a reply to message #16402] Fri, 10 October 2003 17:22 Go to previous messageGo to next message
timmy

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Not one single solitary thing. Zilch. Nada.

We are talking "purely homosexual" here. Not camp, not flaming, just homosexual. So nothing at all differentiates me from my straight friends.



Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
icon4.gif Well  [message #16416 is a reply to message #16414] Fri, 10 October 2003 18:02 Go to previous messageGo to next message
Guest is currently offline  Guest

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gay guys are most of the times GORGEOUS and straight guys are not

as GORGEOUS cause gay guys take care of em self better (not all)

but many and they have really nice feet too hahahahahaha

I found gay guys more open, easier to talk to and they know

how to laugh, straight guys are so introverted.

However my b/f is damn hot and everything a gay guy would be

except he is straight which makes it really good for me Smile
icon3.gif Re: A queestion.......  [message #16419 is a reply to message #16402] Fri, 10 October 2003 21:07 Go to previous messageGo to next message
jaman is currently offline  jaman

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Not much really, besides the obvious.
I get along well with most straight guys well.
I'm a bit, okey, a lot more feminine than most of my straight friends,
but then, there are a lot of really feminine straight guys too,
so, well, nothing really.



You said when you'd die that you'd walk with me every day
And I'd start to cry and say please don't talk that way
With the blink of an eye the Lord came and asked you to meet
You went to a better place but He stole you away from me
Re: A question.......  [message #16439 is a reply to message #16402] Sat, 11 October 2003 04:18 Go to previous messageGo to next message
yourbestgayfriend is currently offline  yourbestgayfriend

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Marc, nothing differentiates us at all. The only thing that is different about a gay person is who we feel in our heart to be with intimately in our lives...

otherwise, nothing at all is different about us...

That is the only thing that differentiates us...

Bam



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Re: A question.......  [message #16440 is a reply to message #16439] Sat, 11 October 2003 04:51 Go to previous messageGo to next message
robert bryce is currently offline  robert bryce

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I would like to add my two cents if I may.I believe that most gays have the ability to love and form stronger bonds than straights.I also believe that gay love is more intense..The thing is,I feel that I an very different than a straight person,as I see things from a different viewpoint..Whats important to me is that I accept that difference and am ok with that difference.Not having a son is my biggest regret..The greatest gift any father can have is a son..........rob8-)
icon6.gif Re: A queestion.......  [message #16492 is a reply to message #16402] Sun, 12 October 2003 16:49 Go to previous message
dartagnon is currently offline  dartagnon

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I actually thought a long time about this one. And, after reading all the responses so far given, I kinda agree with what everyone else has said with one small addition or ammendment, if you will.

To be gay is to swim against the stream. It is to defy the laws of man and religion (depending on your location and god of choice) and nature (since homosexuals do not engage in sex purely for reproductive purposes like the body is set up for by evolution/god). To be gay is to be liberated from the idea of sexually defined roles even as it is almost a requirement for certain non-standard relationship roles. To be gay defines not who you are to others but who others are to you. To be gay changes your focus from becoming the stern authority figure (father) to that of the compasioniate guide (lover, friend, mentor).

To be gay isn't an easy path. There is betrayal, deceit, lechery, abandonment, unfaithfulness, anger, resentment, and familial discord in the offing. But that path is no less treacherous than the path walked by hetrosexuals, who face the same things, just from differing angles of attack.

To be gay isn't to be wrong, or to be selfish, or to be conceited. It is to be different. It is to revel in that difference as the heteros revel in their lives. Being gay isn't the opposite of living. It isn't the opposite of family. It isn't opposite of commitment.

To be gay is to be the one in ten that says "I shall take a different path." It is to become a minority that defines a majority. It is to be a balance that gives to both it's own kind, and the kind that spawned it.

To be gay is to be different, no better, certainly no worse, and in the end, just what we all must be. Ourselves.



It's not the wolf you see you should fear, but all the ones he howls with. Don't be afraid of the song, but don't piss off the choir.
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