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The words can be taken individually, as each word has its own meaning, or they can be taken collectively with sometimes subtle, sometime gross, alterations in those meanings. Each person who reads those words applies their own style, experience, and knowledge to glean their own interpretation which, hopefully, is somewhere close to the author's aim. Most try to not read the individual word, but look at the complete thought and react with their personal knowledge. Others read each word, looking for any implied or overt threat in the individual meanings.
Most who post here are not out to change anyone's life or thought processes. They are stating an opinion which when accepted for what it is, and even half-way understood, adds to each reader's knowledge and experience.
Word on a message board are just that, words on a message board. Yes, words can hurt, but only if the reader chooses to allow them to hurt. Otherwise they are just pixels on the screen arranged in a particular order.
I agree with timmy. If you want to leave because you choose to allow these pixels to form your life and steer your feelings, or force you to take umbrage at another person's thoughts, then in the words of a recently famous TV show: "You are the weakest link, goodbye!"
"Peace and Trees"
"Love to All"
"Think Good Thoughts"
"Party on, Dude!"
"{{{{{{{Hug}}}}}}"
Hugs, Charlie
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13796
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That works for me.
I have spent a long time caring about every individual here. I care about every last one, from those that no longer post for reasons of their own to those who post the most gentle common sense, to those who post assinine and provocative claptrap.
But I don't care enough to make a single perosn feel guilty about leaving. They must all realise that this is not a place where any form of bullying and hectoring will be tolerated. It was created for those who are in need to feel safe.
The other side of that coin is that those who come here need to make others feel safe.
Not me. That is not my role. That is every last person here's role.
And if they cannot do that then they should go now, at once, and without ceremony, for there will never be safety for them if they cannto create safety for others.
While a paradox it is a truth that healing only starts when one is capable of healing another. And making a place safe is the same as starting to heal.
People may try to say "It doesn't feel safe any more......."
To which I reply "It is your duty to make it safe. Personally. Actively."
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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