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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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It's dull. D U L L
deadly dull. Boring.
No-one new will bother to post here in its current state. It died. Dead. It lies, on its back, dead.
How did it get this way?
Well the answer is pretty damned simple.
No light hearted person can be bothered to come here any more, let alone post. No-one who normally lightens the mood is encouraged to post.
Great. Wonderful.
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I find myself wondering "why did we bother to create it? Why do I try to keep crap and flames off it?"
Any ideas about that, anyone?
Do I sounds the teensiest bit upset to you?
Damned right!
I dont; mean that the serious posts should go. I mean that the atmosphere has changed.
Change it back, I dare you to!
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Location: London, England
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Two peanuts walk into a bar, and one was a salted.
A jumper cable walks into a bar. The bartender says "I'll serve you, but don't start anything."
A sandwich walks into a bar. The bartender says, "Sorry we don't serve food in here."
A dyslexic man walks into a bra.
A man walks into a bar with a slab of asphalt under his arm and says: "A beer please, and one for the road."
Two aerial antennas meet on a roof, fall in love and get married. The ceremony wasn't much, but the reception was excellent.
Two cannibals are eating a clown. One says to the other: "Does this taste funny to you?"
"Doc, I can't stop singing 'The Green, Green Grass of Home.'"
"That sounds like Tom Jones Syndrome."
"Is it common?"
"It's Not Unusual."
Two cows standing next to each other in a field, Daisy says to Dolly, "I was artificially inseminated this morning."
"I don't believe you," said Dolly.
"It's true, no bull!" exclaimed Daisy.
An invisible man marries an invisible woman. The kids were nothing to look at, either.
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
Messages: 13796
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me? regret it?
Nope )
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Sorry Timmy, My life has suddenly turned into a crazy boy life. I get up at 6 o'clock out of the house by 6:30 don't get home until 4ish, sometimes earlier, but not always. I'm taking 16 units for this semester but also working 16 hours during the week. by the time i get home i have to do my homework again, and then i have to try to get some rest. So that's why i haven't been posting.  I'm already looking forward to the spring break. 
Al
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I have noticed the same thing too.... well the answer is simple... is hard to post something in a place where your words can be flip so easily without never getting what the person was trying to say. Other times people feel like nobody cares but some post above yours, a guy gets infinite amounts of replies--nobody likes to feel like a zero, nobody wants to be like an almost fading dot on the radar screen. I have felt this which is why ever since i came here i limited my number of posts. But don't get me wrong i do came here just about everyday and read what people have to say even if many times i don't participate.
There is wide variety of reason why a person starts visiting a messageboards. I'm sure a great percentage is people that want to be heard, they are in search for what it appears can't find in real life. However, when they come to places like this and notice nobody cares, soon they began to leave. If only people learn to listen ( not just your friends) maybe these group of people would feel they are worth something.. that maybe there is a soul out there that cares. If only people learn to stay with the subject and not throw in unecessary info not relevant to the original post. If only people learn the other person posted a message with the best of his intentions not just to destroy everyones belief. Dreams .. only dreams.. this is exactly what it is.. what if.. the bottom line were are only staring at a computer screen reading words some other person posted. Most of the time it is now quiet sure what it was meant with these simple group of words ( maybe it would good to ask for a better explanation ) and end up posting an answer without never being sure of the question itself. I'm sure there are other reasons people stop posting but this is what i find more common and how i sometimes feel.
From this messageboard i have moved on to other places.. i went to other messageboard ..other websites and guess what... the same thing happens. Yup.. it is like a pattern, it is everywhere. I visit a messageboard where you post screenshots of planes. It is amazing how the most popular guy gets many replies for unsignificant things while others get 1 maybe 2 if lucky. You will be amaze the fights between other people, it gets nasty sometimes. I started visiting a messageboard at buddypic.com and yes you guess it.. the same thing happens. I mean someone starts a post and then by the 5th reply the subject is totally different. There also people are so mean , here i think people are more kinder.
Someone posted this in a messageboard i visit and it is so true.. it applies to most messageboards out there.... sad but true
How many forum members does it takes to change a light bulb?
1 to change the light bulb and to post that the light bulb has been changed
14 to share similar experiences of changing light bulbs and how the light bulb could have been changed differently
7 to caution about the dangers of changing light bulbs
1 to move it to the Lighting section
2 to argue then move it to the Electricals section
7 to point out spelling/grammar errors in posts about changing light bulbs
5 to flame the spell checkers
3 to correct spelling/grammar flames
6 to argue over whether it's "lightbulb" or "light bulb" ... another 6 to condemn those 6 as stupid
2 industry professionals to inform the group that the proper term is "lamp"
15 know-it-alls who claim they were in the industry, and that "light bulb" is perfectly correct
19 to post that this forum is not about light bulbs and to please take this discussion to a lightbulb forum
11 to defend the posting to this forum saying that we all use light bulbs and therefore the posts are relevant to this forum
36 to debate which method of changing light bulbs is superior, where to buy the best light bulbs, what brand of light bulbs work best for this technique and what brands are faulty
7 to post URL's where one can see examples of different light bulbs
4 to post that the URL's were posted incorrectly and then post the corrected URL's
3 to post about links they found from the URL's that are relevant to this group which makes light bulbs relevant to this group
13 to link all posts to date, quote them in their entirety including all headers and signatures, and add "Me too"
5 to post to the group that they will no longer post because they cannot handle the light bulb controversy
4 to say "didn't we go through this already a short time ago?"
13 to say "do a Google search on light bulbs before posting questions about light bulbs"
1 forum lurker to respond to the original post 6 months from now and start it all over again.
Amazing.. huh ?
What i have learn?
1)Well i have learn to not let it get to my head because we are all human beens.
2)I have learn to understand this is the internet which right away tells me it is REAL LIFE !!! There is nothing like going out there and meeting new people personally , enjoy a cup of coffee or something.
3)
You don't love someone because they are beautiful, they are beautiful because you love them.
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sorry.. i hit the submit button accidently
3) I can't thik of one now but i'm sure i will later. I usually discuss things that really "get me" in my head while going to school so i'm sure i'll be thinking about what said all day tomorrow.
Sorry for such a long post but it is all i have to say about this matter..
CAUTION
*** Note take in count what i said does not apply to every case and that i might be wrong in some parts.. i'm only human... ******
You don't love someone because they are beautiful, they are beautiful because you love them.
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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Now one can do nothing about the posts that catch people's eyes toreply. But each individual CAN do something about the way they reply to another person.
That is what has not happened here. People have done so many things to piss others off that one could argue that this is now the messagebaord they deserve.
But that is not the messageboard YOU deserve.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Location: currently So Cal
Registered: May 2002
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So I haven't posted for about a week. Then there was the problem with the board that seemed to keep me from posting for a day or two. but that's just me. Not long ago there was a request by one of us that we make this place more of a place for serious discussion. It would seem that the request has been fulfilled. But we all know the old adage "be careful what you ask for..." A very unfortunate side effect has been the cessation of light-hearted, friendly, and jovial discussion that makes it comfortable for many of us to post more serious items. As a result, the board has gone silent.
Think good thoughts,
e
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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It's an easy balance to strike. Each type of post is welcome. And we have also forgotten why the board is here.
All we have to do is to look at the top of the board. And honour a very simple code.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Sorry sorry for making posts to raise awareness of things happening in one of the world's most important countries. I thought it was some issues worth discussing, but apparantly that was the wrong thing to do.
Instead, here's a stupid dog-puppet with a hand up his arse doing a weather report: http://my.msn.com/video/default.armx?prepend=198eedf9-ff05-4512-a2b6-c3268af0d49d&autoStart=0&menu=Entertainment&menuItem=NBC%20Entertainment
Here's some more dull shit, okay? I'm about to get another year older with nothing to show for it. My life isn't progressing even at a snail's pace. I've accomplished NOTHING, I've learned NOTHING, and I've only gotten more misery and grief in return - oh, and a wireless mouse too, which I bought 8 days ago. Whee. That'll surely help keep my bed warm at night!
One of my extremely few IRL friends of mine became a father a couple weeks ago. He was voted the one most unlikely to get a girlfriend back when we were in school together, all he was interested in was computers and computer games. That's still pretty much true. So how did THIS happen? I'm at a loss, trying to explain it. I got sent a picture the other day, the baby's got a fair amount of black hair on his little head. Well, fair as far as babies go anyway. When I first heard of this, I realized I am the only one remaining of my current friends who still don't have a girlfriend/wife or kids. All I have to acccount for in that regard is two failed dinner dates where one guy told me I was nice but he was not right for me (!), and the other who talked about nothing but himself!
About a year and a half ago, I talked a person into making contact with someone from this board, and despite his initial reluctance (which were for reasons I won't mention), he did make contact. Now, as a net result, they've both forgotten about me and only talk with each other. Yay. When the one whom I talked this person into contacting goes online, they both immediately change status to busy or away or such, something he never does when talking to me. When he did talk to me that is. And Someone, what was it you said? "I'll find you", huh? HOW many months ago was that???
But forget all those dull important things, NOW GO CLICK THE LINK AND HAVE A LAUGH, YOU BASTARDS.
"But he that hath the steerage of my course,
direct my sail."
-William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act One, Scene IV
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are double contractions even legal?
my void does not want.
-- 2.13.61.
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On fire! |
Location: currently So Cal
Registered: May 2002
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I'm not sure what happened, I replied to this post a couple hours ago, but my reply never showed up.
Lenny, you are NOT one of the people around here who are making the board dull. You ARE one of the few people who actually made posts over the last week or so. It doesn't matter whether the post is "serious" or "light-hearted." What matters is that you post. It is the rest of us who remained silent that prompted timmy's post.
I know you tend to get depressed at times and when you do, you start looking at what you think is wrong with your life and that makes you even more depressed. You start to think that you're hopeless. Well, I am an example of how it is never hopeless. I was 37 when I met my wife, 38 when we got married, and hadn't been on a real date in nearly 10 years. A LOT of that was my own doing. I had more or less given up hope of finding someone. In some ways I didn't want to find someone. I almost turned down the invitation from a co-worker to meet her sister because I had given up. In fact, it was mainly for the sake of appearance (I thought that going out with a female might keep others from thinking I was gay) that I agreed to meet her. I never expected anything to come from it.
Sometimes you can be your own worst enemy when it comes to maintaining friendships. You complain that these friends aren't interested, but why don't you contact them? I know I send you emails and sometimes wait for days or even weeks to get a reply from you. I know that it is just you being you and if you were different, you wouldn't be the Lenny that I love. So I put up with it. But if I took the attitude of "well he never writes back so he must not want to talk to me anymore" we wouldn't be friends. So I check for your emails and even though you may not have replied, after a while I send you another one. Give your friends the same consideration. Send them an email even if they don't send one back to you. Maybe they forgot, got busy, or were distracted. Remind them. It takes two to have a relationship, but that doesn't mean that one can't pursue it. The worst that can happen is that they tell you to get lost. the best is that it will turn out the way you hope. Most likely it will be somewhere in between.
{{{HUGS}}}Great big ones for you
Think good thoughts,
e
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I agree with e on this Lenny. You've done your part in attempting to rouse the board. Whether it's serious or lighthearted, either way, you've tried to make the message board more interesting, and more active. *hug* Once I get accustomed to school, and not have to go to school at 6:10-6:25 in the morning, I think i'll have more energy and more time to be active in the board. *sigh* enough of that though. Lenny, you've always been so welcoming to everyone, as well as friendly to people's posts. You can be both serious as well as friendly in any situation, and I applaud that. Don't think that you're to blame for the thought that the message board to be a little dull at times, your posts were often the posts that helped revive the board a little. I hope you're feeling better. *hug* If you want to talk to anyone, I'll be here. That situation with your other friend just sucks, and it seems that he's not being a true friend to you from what you've said. Lenny, from what I've seen, you're a great guy and there are people out there who will talk to you and give you the attention that you deserve. I hope you're feeling better Lenny!
*big hugs to Lenny*
Al
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timmy
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Has no life at all |
Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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Stay a while
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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On fire! |
Location: currently So Cal
Registered: May 2002
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Hope you are going to stay.
Double contractions, eh? Hope u r not pregnant. hehehe
Think good thoughts,
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i've burnt a lot of bridges and have huge trust issues with many things/people, so i don't want to make people even less likely to post than it seems some were to begin with (to initiate this topic) by coming back in a permanent way. i peeked back when reogranising bookmark folders (dl'ed a new web browser) and saw this topic; others too. liked M's list there a lot, as well as what he said.
hope you're doing well too, e; as well as everyone else--smith, timmy, marc ... etc and so on.
obligatory 'since i'm here' update: i graduate my phlebotomy technician in june, and i'm going to start chipping away slowly (read: 1 class per term, since i'll be working, but this is a good way to put off paying student loans until i can afford to pay them back easily!) at an MLT (medical laboratory technology) associates degree. next step up from that would be an MT (medical technologist) bachelor. it's a lot of microbiology, serology, hematology, other crazy -ologies, and so it's good that it's just one class per term.
i'm externing--i've done quite a few successful blood draws; i have a picture of me holding the tube of my very first one (albeit from billy the fake arm):
also here is what i live in these days when not waving evacu-tubes at cameras:
a student collapsed my vein on the very first day of labs. they all know me as the one who won't be afraid to pull from a mangled, burnt up, or gunshot riddled body... yet the last time i was labbing at the hospital a baby came in, 4 mos old and still severely cyanotic. i was asked/told to do the draw and on babies it's usually a heelstick if they can, except they needed more than a microtube's worth (CBC and x-matching, also plasma-checking). i couldn't do it. a draw from her temple and i couldn't do it. i'd take 18 nights of gore over anything like that; babies and children. but it's been interesting, and has kept me busy.
some knew i was dating a girl, chelsea, since new years. we broke up (my doing--quick, be surprised) over the course of last night/today. we clash on a few very important things and that story doesn't belong here anymore.
so, other things: we're still friends, i think. i'm still going to be in the drag show on the 20th at MCC, though we aren't doing an act together anymore. i can't be what she wants; same sexual issues, different person. she was willing and even WANTED to try/play out guy-on-guy things, but then i have issues with my body and letting anyone see much of it, and she took that as i am not attracted to her, etc. wasn't the case, we worked it out, but eh. there were also other issues like the friends i made through her were having problems, and i tried to help and got accused of worming in on "her friends." they are usually "our friends" but become "HER friends" at the most convenient times. one of them, 16, was panicked and scared and needed an HIV test, but was afraid to go to a clinic. i could've done it for him. she said that was morally wrong and he should wait until he can get to a clinic. he said he didn't want to go to one, didn't want to tell his family esp. if it came out negative, etc. she said if i did that she'd never speak to me again. this is what led into last night. all i would've had to was bring him into my lab class yesterday, do a "practice draw" on him but keep the vial, then take it to the hospital to my supervisor. if i explained it, they'd understand.
sometimes rules are worth breaking. seeing a hysterical boy scared to death because he did one stupid thing and then tries to get over a very-first-ever heartbreak, only to be called by the county health dept. with the instruction to be tested ASAP because guy A was exposed by guy B ... well. i think it would've been fine. now, he can't go until tomorrow afternoon (so that's 2 days just doing nothing but fretting now) when SHE is able to take him. since he's her friend, not mine.
so that and the other things combined were it.
some of us are meant to grow old and die alone. some of us are just not meant to have a someone. some birds can't be caged; they don't make people for people who are so gender-bent and confused, more gay than straight but not straight at all, but unable to be gay, lack body parts needed for what is most wanted, ad nauseum.
she and i had a good time, at any rate, and i believe we'll stay friends. we're doing coffee on saturday afternoon to do the traditional "returning of the stuff" but also to talk. i've no regrets. i feel very surreal about it all. that flash of a "life" i had is done, now. i would feel strange going to R's club because i hadn't been until her, and to go without her would seem odd. and as territorial as she is over people, would she be if i showed up there alone? but it was neat to go lose myself in dancing, circles on a dark, shimmer-lit floor. yeah.. no regrets.
well, i've worn out; see, i bet no one misses my extremo-novel-length, run-on sentence babbly posts. pretty much everyone's better off without me. besides, the field i'm going in, it's good to be a robot. then maybe next time i won't be such an idiot when an infant needs help. robots don't have feelings. things are better that way. i'm essentially right back to where i started from--where i was the very first night i posted here.
over & out.
:-*
my void does not want.
-- 2.13.61.
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
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There's less of you. That;s good.
I read the entire run on sentence thing.
Can't answer it 'cept with a hug.
Now will you please stop running from the nothing that is chasing you and concentrate on being who you are?
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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I kinda always read your extremo run-on babbly posts  smith
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i cannot for the life of me see any difference between now and say, three months ago. picture-wise. hooray dysmorphia. ::-)
it's gotta be something, not nothing. if it was nothing then i could process just whoever this is i am. so far all i've processed is yes, cool, this IS who i am--but they don't make people for person's like that.
i'm a burgundy-haired robot who hates wearing hospital blue scrubs; i'd like royal or gray, even black. but students can't wear other colors.
i'm a mom.
i'm not nearly as crazy as some select few here have voluntarily pinned me as. elsewise they'd not let me near needles, children, people, and hospitals.
i hate being female.
i wish i were male.
because then i could be gay, instead of being notgaynotstraightwhatisitgonnabetoday.
i'll keep trying though. worst that'll happen is i'll come full circle again, like this time, and be back where i started. which is robot land, and that comes in handy.
you're the best.
my void does not want.
-- 2.13.61.
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No Message Body
my void does not want.
-- 2.13.61.
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No Message Body
That which is dreamed can never be lost, can never be undreamed.
-Master Li in Neil Gaiman's Sandman
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It surely doesn't have to be dull. Serious sometimes but not ALL the time.
Maybe we can all put a lil bit of effort into it. Couldn't hurt right?
Hugs to all,
Kevin
:-* :-* :-*
"Be excellent to each other, and, party on dudes"!
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Since when did this place turn so serious and dull? 
OK, Timmy - but you're going to regret it! 
Well SORRY for making the place so D U L L !!! 
Hi Heather! 
