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icon5.gif For a MAN to do??  [message #1188] Tue, 26 February 2002 11:00 Go to next message
ashley is currently offline  ashley

Likes it here
Location: Sydney Australia
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I turned 18 on Saturday and it was something special for reasons that may sound a lil weird to some. See, I now cannot be remeoved from my Fathers protection and care anymore. Silly you may think cause an 18 yr old is a MAN officially but, the reach of officialdom is greater than a lot of people realise.

I have been very lucky to have a few people who have steered me to standing for myself, one of these people is TIM, the board owner and my Online Dad. He took me under his wing and made a paradigm shift with his penchant for the younger age guys that some would call nasty. He made the change cause he chose it to be so.

I have seen TIM's name dragged through the dirt a few times by the same people who complain they are being misunderstood??? "Gay" community is really an Oxymoron, this group is NO better than those that they accuse of not being open. Instead of Aggravation, I would have thought it would be more productive to show the "straight" community that it could be more grownup and show the great achievements rather than the pruerile behaviour that is shown from time to time here and other MB's.

I have had my Rave and it will most likely ruffle some feathers (no ED, not meaning ducks) but it doesnt seem to harm others that TIM has become a kick bag for some. Hugs Dad always... Surprised)



People have a habit of changing your direction through life
Re: For a MAN to do??  [message #1190 is a reply to message #1188] Tue, 26 February 2002 11:14 Go to previous messageGo to next message
david in hong kong is currently offline  david in hong kong

On fire!
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Happy Birthday again, Ashley! Makes me think back a bit on what a relief it was for me to become 18, too. Except it also made life dangerous, as the US had the Draft back then, and there was a war going on...

It sounds like you are surviving your own battles, tho. Good for you!



"Always forgive your enemies...nothing annoys them quite so much." Oscar Wilde
Re: For a MAN to do??  [message #1194 is a reply to message #1188] Tue, 26 February 2002 12:30 Go to previous message
tim is currently offline  tim

Really getting into it
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Huge hug.

I tuly am content if people feel they must drag me through the dirt when I say and stand up for what I believe in. While I am by no means inthe same league as (eg) martin Luther King, I take him and people like him as an example. No-one can blacken (oops!) myname in my own eyes, for I do not allow it to happen. "The barking of the dogs proves that we are riding".

I guess I am also like Don Quixote, but I often feel like Sancho Panza.

There is not and surely can not be a "gay community", nor is it desirable that there be one. Whtat IS desirable is that we each learn that each of us has foibles and accepts them, and unites to do battle with oppressors everywhere.

You know, it was so easy not to fall in love with you. Why? because you needed me not to, and you needed me not to be physically attracted to you, and you needed a simple friend, and one who would not roll over and submit when you argued things your simple friend disagreed with. And all I gave you was my own years of internal chaos and let you make of that what you have.
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