saben
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Registered: May 2003
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[I'll take excerpts from what I said in the chat]
There is a lot of hurt around my mother, a hell of a lot of it. She made some awful mistakes as a parent and some of it has pretty long term consequences. I still consider myself lucky, though- she could have adopted me out or had an abortion... She was a single parent at 16, from a poor family (by Australian standards, which isn't too bad) and had no job (until she got part time work at a supermarket, something she has done over half her life, now). But she decided to keep me and I'm proud of her for that... I know it wasn't the easiest for me or her, but she was trying her best... so that is what counts.
I guess what made a difference for me is that my Mum admitted she was wrong, she would always apologise to me after her temper tantrums once she had calmed down, she'd come and hug me and say she was sorry, telling me that "adults aren't always right". So I forgive her for all that she messed up. It isn't my place to judge her actions... she always let me know she loved me.. and that makes up for everything else, because I know she has to have been trying her hardest.
Look at this tree. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time [...] No matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
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Actually, I was talking to Lenny about my bother in chat 
