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dan
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Location: Bath
Registered: February 2002
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Hello all, especially Tim. I've been an absentee for ages. 22 NOW! Anyway, Tim, just remembered this place, as I am "strolling down memory lane" etc, and needed to find an email address for someone (TomJ), who also hasn't been here for ages. I remember his school address, but fear he has left (it's been so long). Just really wanted to ask him something.. I hope all is well, and has been good since my departure.
I see my photo is still in the "irregulars" , ha ha!
Well, look forward to hearing from you.
Dan.
PS. Like the look of the new site.
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Was wondering what you're up to, what became of Pip, and that little rascal that followed you around for a while and all that. 
Good to see you're still amongst the living, heh heh! 
Take care & don't be gone for so long next time, okies?
-L
"But he that hath the steerage of my course,
direct my sail."
-William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act One, Scene IV
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So glad you dropped by.
It's good to hear from you again. What are you up to these days?
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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Are you just passing through, or here to stay? How has life changed for you while you've been away?
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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dan
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Location: Bath
Registered: February 2002
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Passing through perhaps. Not sure yet.
In terms of life changing: I don't really think so; not awfully. Been working for a year or two. Business stuff. Got rather boring. Did an Art Foundation year (which was fantastic). Passed with a Merit (WOW, haha). And going to do a 3 year BA (Hons) degree in South East London in September. Doing Graphic Design. Should be fun. Getting rather old now, am 22 already, and will be close to 26 when I am qualified (!!!).
Nothing at all happened on the Pip-front. He is no-longer speaking to me at all. He won't answer my calls, or reply to texts or letters. Nothing, and has been like that for a year. Have no idea why. Did try texting him about a month ago, and he had obviously deleted my number for his phone, so he didn't know who it was. So actually replied that time, with "who is this?" etc. But as soon as I made it known to him it was me, he didn't respond at all. Oh well, obviously some problems there. Methinks someone must have told him how I felt about him for him to just discommunicate me like that. But hey ho.
Unsuprisingly, I'm still "in the closet", in terms of that I have done nothing with any guys since I last posted here. But I'm sure that'll change when I've actually left home, and gone to Uni. Although my latest "crush" is on a guy called Simon, who is 17, and best friend of my brother. He is amazingly cute, and intelligent. But dreadfully shy. He's been "landscaping" our garden (since we moved house), with my brother, for about 2 weeks, and he had just started to call me "Dan". That kind of shy. Something may happen. But then probably not. Got a feeling he is gay, but from big catholic family, and all his friends are straight, and he is in most sports teams at school, so is probably safer for him to also be "in the closet". There is something about him though that leads me to think he is probably gay though, you know, something that you can see, hear, and understand by the way they are. Very hard to describe really. And I hate to use the phrase "gaydar", but I think there is something in it.
Well, I'm probably missing out huge chunks of my life so far, that are more-than-likely very interesing, but I can't remember them at the moment.
So, hope everyone is well.
Dan.
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marc
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Registered: March 2003
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The sure fire way to know is to do the scratch test.....
When the two of you are within proximity and he is casually paying attention to you, offhandedly adjust yourself in a casual manner. If he fixates on the area of adjustment then he is interested. If he comments or jokes it off then he is just being a guy and laughing it off.
Works every time....
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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Guest
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Registered: March 2012
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I personally subscribe to the touch test in addition to the scratch test. This is a simple test, and very indicative of whether he is gay or not, and perhaps of whether he's interested or not. it's simply a matter of proximity. at some point, just get close to him and let some part of you touch him, as in perhaps your arm against his when you're both examining some work he's done or something like that. If he pulls away, he's probably not interested and probably not gay. gay men have a much higher tolerance for skin-on-skin contact than straight men.
and of course, eye contact. try looking him in the eye, let your eyes drop to his belt region, then travel back to his eyes and then away. definitely denotes interest. see where it goes.
good luck.
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marc
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Needs to get a life! |
Registered: March 2003
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Now.... if you can manage to do a touch-scratch combination move then there can be absolutly no doubt. You will know.
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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saben
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On fire! |
Registered: May 2003
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I know for me personally, despite being gay, I shy away from physical contact for the most part and seldom give eye or crotch contact to guys, especially ones that I know, but am not close to. If someone touches me, often I will flinch purely because I don't want them to think I am interested even if I am in case they aren't in return. I am trying to overcome these personal barriers, but just pointing out that while the tests suggested are good, nothing is full proof while there are shy gay guys with low self esteem and/ or straight guys with enough confidence and ability to ignore the macho idealogies that are so rampant throughout our society.
Look at this tree. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me nor make it bear fruit before its time [...] No matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
Master Oogway
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Guest
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On fire! |
Registered: March 2012
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agreed. there are lots of shy guys out there, and certainly no test is 100% for any group of people, short of a full sexual orientation profile complete with mother's maiden name and a number two pencil. however, that could be a little intimidating for the gardener friend (or any sane individual, for that matter). I have to admit, it's been awhile since i've pursued anyone that didn't want to be pursued, so maybe i've lost my edge.
or you could just do what my roommate does, which is just ask. he gets turned down some, but you'd be surprised by the numbers of guys that he ends up with that no-one would have expected.
aj
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we won't talk about what MY roommate does for attention, now will we?
rodney
"more tongue and groove than a hardwood floor"
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Ummm, no. the less said about that, the better. LOL
"I promise not to try not to fuck with your mind/ I promise not to mind if you go your way and i go mine/promise not to lie if i'm looking you right in your eye/promise not to try not to let you down."
--Eve6
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