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icon14.gif Age group fixation can change  [message #22069] Sat, 28 August 2004 14:41 Go to next message
timmy

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Hope Springs!

This last week I got back in touch with an old school colleague. Well, to be fair, we’ve been in touch for perhaps 6 months and have been arranging to meet. He and I have not met since the day we each slid quietly out of that school as is the UK habit on leaving schools. No graduation, no pomp.

We’re each 52 year old, slightly rumpled adults now.

Until that meeting I have always considered myself to be “stuck” at just after puberty in my ability to be attracted to other people. It may be the shared history, but I was very heartened, and in some ways regretful, no, wistful, that I saw in him an attractive man. Interestingly I had never been remotely attracted tohim at school.

The point of the post is to rejoice.

I will never lose my attraction to youthful men. That is a given. But I had never believed before I could be attracted to a man of my own age.

And that is a powerful message to give to anyone else who believes they are stuck, fixated with a certain age group



Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
Re: Age group fixation can change  [message #22103 is a reply to message #22069] Thu, 02 September 2004 04:13 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Timmy, can we talk about this one-on-one? I'm not yet up to going public with the revelations required for an honest exchange, but I'd really appreciate a chance to work through this with you. Possible? d



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Re: Age group fixation can change  [message #22107 is a reply to message #22103] Thu, 02 September 2004 06:16 Go to previous message
timmy

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certainly. Email is useful Smile



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