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Im sitting here, all lonely, i thought about killing myself, but im a coward. Life is just so hard and full of strife. I had a horrible fight with my parrents cos they try to control my life, now im not talking to them and i dont want to go home later, cos im at the internet cafe now, with my last few sents, thinking someone will know how to chear me up.
Can you, anyone, please try. Hope is what i need
A truth told with bad intent
Beats all the lies you can invent
-William Blake
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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parents can suck. The only thing you can do i to attempt to get on with them, and let them think they control your life
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Registered: August 2004
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I'm sorry you're having such a hard time, Dewald. I hope you get to see this and I hope you are alright.
Remember three things:
1. You are a unique person and you are in charge of how you feel and think. You don't have to feel bad about yourself because someone doesn't like you or does mean things. Don't let others control how you feel, especially how you feel about yourself.
2. What you're feeling now is temporary. You'll get through this and go on to something else. There are good things up ahead, like sunshine on a pretty day or the smile and hello of some random person.
3. You have friends and probably relatives who care a lot about you. Talk to them and spend time with them. If things are really bad at home, if you feel really bad, confide a little in the people who love you. Tell them how things are at home and how unhappy you are. If you are really comfortable and can trust them, confide in them more. They can at least help you feel better, and they may be able to help more.
Maybe you should try talking to the good friend you talked about before. Or talk to someone else you know. If things are absolutely terrible and you have nowhere to go or don't know what to do, you can even go to someone in authority, or a minister or counselor, or even a shop owner, someone you can ask for help. Remember there are both gay-friendly and teen-specific hotlines and counseling centers, community centers, shelters, whatever they might be called. Use those if things get really bad.
Remember also that there are people online to talk to. We may be far away, but you can at least talk to us.
~Blue
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Life IS hard… but that’s all part of the challenge... easy games get boring fast  winning a hard game is much more satisfying… and all games CAN be won…
And not killing yourself is much braver than doing so… infinitely so.
Always have hope… its one of the few things that cant be taken from you if you don’t let it ^_^
~TNF
Even the darkest night has a fire in it somewhere, you just need to look - The Night's Fire
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Hey Moogle--
Parents and teens fight. that's the way life is...your mission, should you choose to accept it (and likely even if you don't) is to begin to define who you are independent from your parents...it's what teens are supposed to be doing, developmentally. Up until this point in your life, you and others have identified you primarily as "So-and-so's kid", but now that is beginning to change. Your parents have a job too--to see that this transition happens without you getting maimed and/or killed in the process of your moving away from them. If they try to control you, it's because they know that you have a lot to learn about life and how things work for adults...unless they are truly sick and twisted, they're not doing it just to piss you off.
If you want to impress them, and begin to gain their trust so that they try to control you less, ask for their rationale, then listen carefully to what they say. I guarantee that the whole process will go infintely smoother if you and your parents communicate at something less than top volume sometimes. At first, you may need to be quite firm about your limits as the amount of control they exercise in your life, but over time, as you prove you're capable and interested in acting fully like an adult (or as close as you can at such a young age), your parents will beging to trust you and your judgement, and they will see that they don't need to micromanage you. But you will have to prove that to them.
cheers!
aj
"I promise not to try not to fuck with your mind/ I promise not to mind if you go your way and i go mine/promise not to lie if i'm looking you right in your eye/promise not to try not to let you down."
--Eve6
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