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THE NEW ME
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Last Year, I told A supposed friend, That I was gay, That
"Friend" Spread it around the school, This adds to the way
people treat me at school, Ive just recovered from a bad bout of acne, Thanks to the tablet ROACCUTANE. Ever since I was 12 was cursed by this skin condition, and this affected my confidence greatly, I let people push me around. I have now been subject to even worse physical and emotional bullying, I have told teachers but nothing has happened, So I think its time I stopped been a victim and start fighting back.
I have devised amn SRRP (Self -Respect Reinstatement Program) I just wondered if you guys could give me a few pointers on the sections below....
SECTION ONE
Appearance
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I Know appearance is not important.
But, In this Day and age this, in teen cultur, it maybe symbolise more importance than the adult world.
Cool Hairstyle
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Inspired by Matt Murdock's Wicked Air Style in 'DareDevil'
Clearer Skin
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Its coming on along nicely
Dark Red Shades
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Inspired by Matt Murdocks in 'DareDevil'
Up to Date Fashions
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To Feel More self confidant.
SECTION TWO
My Self and Skills
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I have an inner strength I know is there.
I have many skills that ma help bring this to the surface.
Gay 'n' Proud
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Its Who I am.
Time to face up to the fact that 'I am' Gay!
Cool Martial Arts
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Eleven years in Training.
I have Certain Martial Arts Skills.
I shouldn't be afraid to use them.
Deep Accent
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Sound Bolder.
My High-Pitched Voice Doesn't help me.
Smile 8-D
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No Smile... is Unattractive - A quote by my mum-
According to mum (Aww...LOL) I have a Nice Smile.
So I have to work on my smile, But My Past, hasn't give me much to smile about.
Attitude
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Inspired by my Role Model "Lara Croft"
I need to develop a bad attitude, show people that you are
Boss, do not let anyone push you around - or take advantage of your Kindness.
This kindness needs to stay inside you - Do not let friends know you have it.
I DO NOT shake people's hand (unless professional)
I DO NOT exchange 'Signs of Respect'
I DO NOT give five.
I DO NOT laugh at peoples jokes YOU just say "That was Funny"
I DO NOT try to outwit the 'big heads' agree with them, with a slight bit
of Sarcasm In your voice
I DO NOT lend out money
I MUST BE very Witty, Sarcastic Smart - mouthed even.
I MUST BE very self opinated, (Show Simon ha,ha)
I MUST BE very "Lara Croft-like" instead of witty response, a slight head
Movement and a simple "Hmm"
I MUST LEARN to fight with your Jumper
I MUST LEARN to fight with your trousers
I MUST LEARN to fight with your shirt
I MUST LEARN to fight with your tie
I MUST LEARN to fight with your bag
I MUST LEARN to fight with a stick
I SHOULD put my feet on desks, chairs etc.
I HAVE TO BE confidant in all you do
I HAVE TO feel smart
I GUESS I SHOULD feel sexy
I SHOULD stare out people, who stare at you until they look elsewhere.
I SHOULD push away people who, enter your *"Aura-Zone"
I SHOULD use a system of elite arm, hand and wristlocks to prove to people you are not, A Pushover
* AURA ZONE - The imaginary, circle that surrounds me, people who enter this, Become too close to Comfort.
So What do you think, Any Constructive comments will be greatly appreciated.
Take care all
Davey.
Vegam birga'im she'ani lo itach Yesh mi shelanetzach ohev rak otach ~ Even in moments I am not with you I will, forever, love only you
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Hate to say it Davey, but sounds like your building a wall around
yourself, one that took many years for me to perfect. (that came
crumbling down around me in a few short days)
Be yourself is the best advice I can give you.
If the teachers won't listen, then go to higher authoritive figures.
Don't push people away. That in my humble opinion is the worst you
can do. They may be your biggest asset.
Anyone else care to comment??
Brian
To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.
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We have talked before... you know a little about me.
Bryan is right "Be yourself and don't push people away"
I'm 17 years old and i'm still dealing with this issue. I know how you feel. What is my advice to you is to start building your confidence level. Start believing in yourself and others will believe in you. Remember what you put out is exactly what you will get. I know is hard to understand this because today's teenagers care too much about what others have to say. I used to care a lot ( sometimes i still do ) but in the it doesn't matter. Only hang out with the crowd you feel most confortable so you can be yourself. Many of my "old friends" i don't to that much. They used to push me around and made fun of me, well eventually i decided to get away from that abuse and i started to hang out with people that actually understand me. I recently told a lot of people in my class about my sexuality ( mainly girls ) and wow it was a surprise for some of them. They are alright with it and guess what they talk and trust me more than ever, i never thought it would happen and it happened just by being honest. I know a lot of other people will find out ( many i wish they didn't know ) but in the end their opinion doesn't matter. For lack of a better word, they can lick my ASS because i don't have time to listen to their opinion. If they don't like me for who i am, then i'm sorry i can find better friends. This is the attitude i hope you develop. I-am-who-i-am-and-i-don't-care-if-you-like-it-there-are-other-people-that-will-like-me type of attitude.
You don't need to change much, i'm sure you are a great person already. No need to turn into a snob and lose your sensativity and kindness. Just be who you are with confidence. Standup for youself, don't let yourself be pushed around, be strong, it doesn't mean you have to alter your personality.
"You've got to take the initiative and play your game. In a decisive set, confidence is the difference" Chris Evert
Talk to me sometime... and best of luck to you.
You don't love someone because they are beautiful, they are beautiful because you love them.
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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I read that through twice.
The first time said "Great concept"
The second time said "But incorrect affirmations"
it is a great concept, but without adice you will get it badly wrong and isolate yourself. So modify it.
Look for things you can improve to integrate yourself into your society, not to distance yourself from it. Much of your set of things is negative, but expressed in a positive manner.
DO laugh when it's funny. Be the first to offer a hand to shake.
This is a great start, but it can build a huge set of armoured glass walls. Lookk at this as the first phase. Remove any elements that set you aside and then rebuild with new. This is a learning process.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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Hey Davey!
I don't agree with a lot of the detail because you will make yourself rather unpleasant to know and remain an outcast.
However, I agree with the principle that you are going to take your life in hand and admire you for doing somethiing positive about yourself, instead of whinging that it's everybody else's fault.
Most important of all: learn to laugh, especially at yourself. Laughter is one of the greatest ways to improve your feeling of well-being. I don't do it enough.
Finally, if/as you're gay, enjoy. I wish I had, but times were different then.
Hugs
Nigel
PS: Hope Father Christmas brings you some cash to finance the make-over. Post a before and after pic.
I dream of boys with big bulges in their trousers,
Never of girls with big bulges in their blouses.
…and look forward to meeting you in Cóito.
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TygerBoiSammy
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Registered: January 1970
Messages: 57
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Dude, sounds like u got thing under control. Only thing i don't agree with is about the social niceties. Being tough is not about being a total dick to ppl (Not accusing), it's about being true to yourself, strong in yourself and accountable to yourself. Besides, some ppl are worth your respect or at least a handshake in meeting. Even tough guys like us can be civil and still be tough.
Besides..... Some walls u don't want to build, no matter how strong u think they make u. Good Luck, fellow warrior!
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