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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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This message is to us all, and most importantly to our younger members.
At this time of year we become less "private" for many good reasons, and real addresses are exchanged.
Please be sure, before you exchange a street address, that the person with whom you are making the trade is trustworthy and is the person they represent themselves to be.
Please do not arrange meetings with anyone if you are in any doubt about them and their intentions. A true friend will understand a hesitation.
Please remember that it is unwise to meet except with a set of items like http://iomfats.org/oddsandends/meeting/goldenrules.html in mind and in operation. A good experience inthe past is no guarantee of a good experience in the future.
Please consider the legality of anything that you intend during a meeting, even if you are the younger person. No-one should be put in an unfair position with his friends or the law.
I have had many successful meetings with online friends and so far no bad experiences. But I am not exactly the type of person that is preyed on by a predator. Tubby 50 somethings are not normally desired by predators.
Please simply take this as a seasonal warning to stay sensible in your dealings online
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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timmy wrote:
"...Tubby 50 somethings are not normally desired by predators."
NOT TRUE! Here is something I can speak to, being (also?) a "tubby 50-something" who lost a long-term partner some while back (seems like yesterday, of course) and, alone at this time of year, was invited into a group of 20-somethings. Shortly thereafter, I found myself funding a good part of the festivities, and then festivities to which I was not invited! Predators come in all ages and outfits, as do non-predators, of course, but then "There's no fool like an old fool" applies to us - in spades. d
"Remember what the Dormouse said:
"Feed your head; feed your head."
--Jefferson Airplane - WHITE RABBIT
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I know how that one goes, dormouse. being single and any age is like swimming in a shark tank. There's a lot of users out there, so be careful and take care of yourself.
cheers!
aj
"I promise not to try not to fuck with your mind/ I promise not to mind if you go your way and i go mine/promise not to lie if i'm looking you right in your eye/promise not to try not to let you down."
--Eve6
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aj wrote:
being single and any age is like swimming in a shark tank.
So True! Funny thing happened, though, as the parties ended -- A friend turned me on to Buddhism, a concept I hadn't considered since the '60s -- and-yes-it's true: if you remember the 60s you weren't really there. Anyway, the Enlightened One taught people to let go of attachments and illusion, the source of all suffering. This does NOT mean the end of love, just the end of POSSESSIVE love. Working on this has made an amazing difference in my life and the lives of those closest to me. I won't bore you with the details, AJ, but the result is to be almost shark-proof. Recommended. Thanks for the input. d
"Remember what the Dormouse said:
"Feed your head; feed your head."
--Jefferson Airplane - WHITE RABBIT
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