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marc
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Registered: March 2003
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To bring to the forfront issues into open forum?
To discuss issues privetly thus behind other peoples backs?
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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Marc wrote:
>>To bring to the forfront issues into open forum? To discuss issues privetly thus behind other peoples backs?<<
I would think that this depends on the issue. If it is a "public" issue about which it may be assumed that other people will also have an opinion then surely it should be raised publicly. Something that is essentially a private issue should not be brought into the "open forum". I can also conceive of a situation in which a thread which started off "publicly" later becomes a "private" discussion: it should be conducted privately from that moment on. I do not see the relevance of the phrase "behind people's backs": if other people are mentioned in private correspondence it is always possible (and preferable) to cc them.
The paradox has often been noted that the United States, founded in secularism, is now the most religiose country in Christendom, while England, with an established church headed by its constitutional monarch, is among the least. (Richard Dawkins, 2006)
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marc
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Needs to get a life! |
Registered: March 2003
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I do not see the relevance of the phrase "behind people's backs"
What I mean here is....
Is it not better to place a conversation up front for all to see rather than go running from IM to IM and email to email to state a position?
I always believed that being up front and keeping everything above board was a good policy. To take discourse to a (to me) clandestine level is not playing fare.
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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Marc wrote:
> To bring to the forfront issues into open forum?
To discuss public issues in public is normal behaviour and wholly acceptable in principle
To bring private issues into public forum is wholly unacceptable, abnormal behaviour, a breach of trust and of friendship
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> To discuss issues privetly thus behind other peoples backs?
To discuss issuesthat affect no-one else in private between the participants is normal behaviour
To bring those issyes into public forum is abnormal behaviour, unacceptable, and a total breach of not only trust but all normal forms of ettiquette.
To seek to justify the bringing of private discussions into public forum with the implication that they affected another unnamed party (whcih they did not) is an unusual behaviour, and one I find unacceptable
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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marc
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Needs to get a life! |
Registered: March 2003
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And when there is a general posting with NO NAMES ATTACHED.... WITH simple question.... Yes simple....
Ergo...
"what makes people do the things they do and think the way they do."
Which was THE ONLY QUESTION in that original post.... All other words there were explaination as to the how and why of it.
I see nothing now nor saw anything wrong then wrong in the writing or the asking of this very simple question.
You chose to put names and faces to all this, and by doing so (by default) bring with you the legions of intrepid followers. You made the private part of this public.
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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timmy
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Location: UK, in Devon
Registered: February 2003
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You are perfectly at liberty to have the last word. I find I am repeating myself every time I answer you. I no longer have any interest in replying to this topic.
Author of Queer Me! Halfway Between Flying and Crying - the true story of life for a gay boy in the Swinging Sixties in a British all male Public School
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marc
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Needs to get a life! |
Registered: March 2003
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Well, last evening you made it perfectly clear that I am no longer existant on the planet on which you reside.
Why you choose to demean yourself with discourse with a nonperson i don't know...
And you did get the last word reguarding that subject...
You win...
I loose...
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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If it is not of concern or relevence to the rest of us keep it private. If it is an issue that is only between two people keep it private. If it is soemthign you want the opinion of everyone else on then share. If not act like a responsible person (just like we all like to think we are) and keep private or personal problems between each others
Why are you wearing that stupid man suit?
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Stop acting like your 4 marc, it's making me sick i think.
Why are you wearing that stupid man suit?
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marc
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Needs to get a life! |
Registered: March 2003
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then by all means be sick.......
Life is great for me... Most of the time... But then I meet people online... Very few are real friends... Many say they are but know nothing of what it means... Some say they are, but are so shallow...
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